My boyfriend and myself are ready for the next step in our relationship, but we can't seem to get some alone time, does anyone have any suggestions??
we thought about maybe my car but we both have bad backs and that wouldnt work..
2007-01-29 19:51:54 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i am 17 and no i can't get a hotel room, but my boyfriends brother has kind of suggested on getting us one, but could that work?
2007-01-29 19:57:34 · update #1
and the only reason we dont have alone time is because my parents wont allow it i always have to have my door open or be in the same room as them, and if i didnt have that on my hands we would surely have alone time and i am plenty ready, but i do know he is nervous about it because he still a virgin but we have talked this over for severall weeks now...
2007-01-29 20:04:12 · update #2
wow go to a friends house that has cool parents
2007-01-29 19:55:15 · answer #1 · answered by texas boy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is probably the luckiest break you two will ever get. I'm sorry to put it so bluntly but 17 is not ready as you see it. You two are kids and yes kids have sex but not for the RIGHT reasons---they only think they have the reasons.First off, sex is for marrieds only---but if that doesn't sink in--it is for MATURE ADULTS ready for what may come of it. A few minutes of pleasure might mean a lifetime or 18 years at least, of a child and all that comes with it. Are you ready for that??? How about what you should be showing each other----love, respect, dignity, concern, caring, tenderness......get my drift??? Just because you get the itch doesn't mean you have to rationalize your readiness. No way 17 year olds are truly ready.....despite what people may tell you. No one should be helping you----you aren't mature enough if you can't even find a place on your own...keep your feet on the ground and wait---if you both really love each other, you CAN wait. Be good to each other and enjoy what you do have at this time. Your parents have wanted the best for you---that's why they have rules in the house---so that you have boundries that might not be set if they don't set them. Besides--after the sex he or you may not stay together---a true committment will be necessary first and foremost. Good luck and cool it for a while.
2007-01-30 04:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be putting a lot of thought into it... and coming up with reasons to not... at least for the place you use as an example here.....
you sure you are ready? I am not trying to be rude... it just seems that when it comes to any "next step" when you are ready? there usually are no negative excuses to not get time alone? consider that either or both of you might want to hold off, and yet not want to upset/disappoint/lose the other?
as long as you are both consenting adults (again.. no insults intended.... ) then relax....
don't push it... when the time is right... if the time is ever right... it will happen... you will find you and he alone and everything else will be "alright"
2007-01-30 04:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got plenty of time ahead of you for all the sex you can handle. you're only 17; what's the hurry. what if you get pregnant...life altering! also, your relationship with him will change, not for the better. slow down and enjoy the best years of your life because that's where you are right now. sex will happen when you are ready; you needn't force it. good luck with whatever decision you make...be careful.
2007-01-30 05:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is better to go slow on the next step. Be patient, u will get a chance, and things will work out the way they should.
2007-01-30 04:11:00 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad backs at 17 yrs old...maybe you should both join a gym & get fit first.....
2007-01-30 04:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're not old enough to think of getting a hotel room... maybe you're not old enough for sex.
2007-01-30 03:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bad backs? what are ya'll 60
2007-01-30 03:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how bout school, there always empty classrooms detention time
2007-01-30 04:16:04 · answer #9 · answered by king of spain 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋