Remarriage?

Question

How come when men become widowers, they withdraw, become depressed, alcoholic, etc?
But when women become widows, they mourn for a few months and then get a new husband?

How come women are able to let go so easily?

Answer 1

It always comes down to the basic social nature of men and women. Women are inherently social animals. This allows them to have a support group to cope with the loss of a loved one, as well as connections to meet new people. Men, on the other hand are loners for the most part. Usually when men marry, many of their life long friends fall by the wayside, and we end up adopting our wives’ social network. Hence, when a man’s spouse dies, he loses his social network to cope with the grief and, as a result, turns to alcohol, drugs, and descends into depression. Furthermore, since he no longer has a social network, it becomes hard for him to find another person to spend the rest of his life with.

Answer 2

I don't think it's easy for women to let go. While men do tend to withdraw, women are far more likely to reach out. We turn to our friends for comfort and are able to mourn our loss openly. We can cry on our friends' shoulders and they help us through the process. Women also tend to be the "glue" factor in a family. Without her, many men don't know how to lean on other friends and family members or maybe just aren't comfortable in doing so. Sadly, many men seem to feel a need to put on a brave face, further isolating themselves from the comfort and support that could be available to them. I think your generalizations are a little extreme, but in a way you do make a point.

Answer 3

That's not true. My cousin just lost her husband 2 months ago and she's still depressed. She's trying to stay so busy so she doesn't have to sit and face the fact that her husband is gone. She's really depressed about it... and she won't be getting a new husband any time soon. My grandmother died and my grandfather got with her sister shortly after.

Answer 4

I don't think that is the case at all... My Uncle remarried, and several other men I know.

In saying that, men rely much more on women than women do on men. Men need women to make their dinner, pack their lunch, do the housework, raise the kids, etc... when their wife dies it leaves a bigger hole.

Answer 5

one thing is for sure betwenn men 7 wome definitely women are strongerspecies and as far as overcoming the sorrow it cannot be generalised and also if a person is educated and know the way to live life and try to forget his / her past and llive in present to make a good future he / she will try to over come soon and start moving ahead

Answer 6

My ex counting on my death got himself a mistress.
Unfortunately for him I didn't die.

Answer 7

that's not wat i've seen happening