I usually love people who keep on chatting, who make humorous statements all the way and who keep me engaged and I want to be like them, but most of the time I remain silent when other people are around, I find it difficult to think of some topic on which I can chat...I keep listening to them and sometimes find myself boring!
What do I do??
2007-01-29 19:21:18 · 13 answers · asked by so-so 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Every conversation needs a listener as well as a talker. Maybe you are a natural born listener and you shouldn't try so hard to change your true self. Instead, be the best listener you can be. Learn to ask really thought provoking questions to keep a conversation going. Learn to say things that will make the "talkers" feels really good about who they are. You'll be really popular, believe me.
2007-01-29 19:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That can be a difficult situation to be in|
Perhaps you have to ask yourself, "are the topics they are discussing truly my interests, or do I just want to talk to fit in?"
Perhaps your silence is indicative of the fact that the group that you are silent in are really not your type of people - that you are more seeking popularity in the abstract sense because you think that it is the thing that you must achieve to be socially successful|
However, find people who truly share your views and interests, and then you will find that you naturally have a lot more to say - and you will be a lot happier too|
We have to realize that the "in" people in any setting are usually low-lifes who like to torment the weak and those who don't have strong social skills.
They have the esteem of being popular, but if you really see things rightly, they are struts who dress in ridiculous clothes|
It is better to avoid people like that and let the consequence of their behavior catch up to them when it does|
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2007-01-29 20:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing. There is always an oversupply of entertainers, but never an oversupply of listeners. The entertainers like the listeners, and so you'll always be included in their affairs.
I suspect that when you have something to say, you'll say it. Moreover, since you haven't made a career out of noise for noise's sake, your words will be heard with far greater interest than those of your louder colleagues.
2007-01-29 19:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by 2n2222 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
erm...it's not a bad thing to be a listener. I love listeners because i like to chat and chat non-stop and my buddy is a great listener whom i look upon if i've got troubles with my feelings.
you are not boring, just that different people have got different personality. Just be yourself. People will appreciate you.
2007-01-29 19:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no one is ever boring some people just don't talk that much and maybe that u are one of those people. and there is nothing wrong in being quiet so don't feel bad. I have a lot of quiet friends and I love chatting it just comes naturally to me to others it doesn't so ya don't worry ureself over nothing trust me its not worth it
2007-01-30 05:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jasmeen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you're just shy. Nothing wrong at all with that.
If you want to be more like them, you need to study material based on the kinds of conversations that your friends like to talk about. Read magazines, books, newspapers, etc... Then you will feel more confident because you already know what you are going to talk about.
I'm sorry I can't give you more help, but I'm the opposite of you.
However, my best friends are like you. I really like people who will listen to me. It makes me feel like they care about what I am saying.
2007-01-29 21:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
providing your interested in what they are talkin about just pop in with something that has to do with the subject but dont always be like ive done that or i know that because people find that anoying. If there talkin about a skiing trip when someone broke there leg last weekend... tell them about a story when you went ice skating and broke your leg.... just tie into the conversation
Best of luck
2007-01-29 19:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just start speaking from right now. Just say what you want. What will happen nobody is going to kill for speaking.
2007-01-29 19:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Dev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hope this helps you. Great books that helped me out...
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_bgi/103-3763395-9951868?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=conversation+
2007-01-29 20:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by VocalistGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stand in front of a mirror and practice talking to yourself!
2007-01-29 19:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by kareuhh_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋