bt far from me, his mails, talks gv me lots of satisfactions and keep me cheer most of the time .Sometime we discuss abt our personal life’s experiences also - m happy to keep this upto friendship but i think now i develop love for him in my heart and wants to meet him which is near to impossible due to my family commitments. I had tried to get out fm all this many time but couldn’t succeed , i hv no idea whether we will meet in future or nt - bt m confused and don't know shall i maintain this up to friendship level or shall i quit fm now - pls gv yr opinion.
2007-01-29 19:17:58 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Young lady, haven't you heard the adage that 'the other shore always seems greener' ?!
...Since you yourself admit that you are a 'happily married woman', I take it that you have an adequately caring husband - who is also a secure provider.
...In every couple's life, there comes a point when both begin to take each other for granted - and do not take the trouble to express or exhibit their love [both mental and physical kinds] for each other. That leaves a void in BOTH the husband's and wife's minds - which they often seek to fill with 'outside' help.
...There is nothing wrong in having a knowledgeable plus trustworthy friend of the opposite sex, in whom one can seek some advice concerning one's personal life.
...But this 'friend' should ALWAYS be kept as a friend ONLY - unless you want to destroy your 'happy' marriage, home, and family, in one stroke !
...You have not mentioned whether this 'friend' of yours is married, or not. If he is, any physical 'meeting' between the two of you will wreck not only your family, but his as well.
...The wise thing for you to do, is to retain this 'friendship' - but make sure that you exchange views on a lot less intimate level, so that your 'love' for him remains purely on a platonic level.
...And, in case both of you still want to meet in person, you can invite this 'friend' to visit your home along with his family - where you can introduce them to your husband and family, as old friends from your childhood/student days.
2007-01-29 20:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by Indychen 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally I feel that you may have done the wrong thing. A lot of times when we get bored after being together with our partners for few years, it is the person who can spice up your life make you feel that he is a better choice. But when you start to develop love for him, you will start to find your husband irrating or even useless and a lot of argument will develop and the end result is divorce. So whether you want a happy marriage ending or a new relation depends on you. We are just telling you on our views.
2007-01-29 22:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once your in a married life...
Keep in mind that you already have people who loves, cares and depends on you.
Maybe this guy is just trying to be nice and need someone to talk to, but that doesnt mean your going to exchange you family life for just a guy you meet on the internet.
Love is not entirely meant you felt good with him..
I believe all this are just trials to help you understand more of how your family really means to you.
You should stay on your own boundary and focus on your family.....
never allow any second that this will change your life and your families life.
You have vowed for this marraige in front of the lord...
So you have to respect your husband and GOD.
2007-01-29 19:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by mplus2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are falling in love with your own illusion. You have never meet this net friend, he could be a sex pervert or a 60 years old man with teeths all dropped off. Your husband have give you a happy family, what can you ask further?
2007-01-29 19:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your happily married then leave it, you shouldn't have gone that far. I consider what you did is cheating behind your husband back.
Do you have children too! Do you think of them?
How did you go so astray??
If you have these feelings and intentions to go astray I think you should leave your husband, that way you're not being dishonest.
Don't want to sound harsh but I think you've been a little selfish.
2007-01-29 20:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by SOL SIREN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you felt the guy you married wasnt enough why did you marry him? Surely you must have felt that he completed you at some stage! Dont allow your feelings of loneliness to force you into an uncomfortable friendship. You cant say youre happily married when youre emotionally seeking attention. Focus on how to get your marriage 100%
2007-01-29 19:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there why the hell did you marry this guy was it the case of well he will support me and my son ....????look you are playing a nasty game if you are not happy in this marriage then get out instead of stringing this other gut along and taking money of him .....this other man seems a good guy but you are showing him no respect by what you are doing either finish it with the husband or the other man ......and to be honest im not suprized that this other man is looking else where he has just wakened up and realised that you are using him for his money .........get youre feelings sorted out and decide what you want once and for all
2016-03-15 02:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't understand how can u be considered a happy married woman if u need some attention from another guy? u re cheating on your husband. if a woman or man are happily married they re blind to any other males/females
2007-01-29 19:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That means there are 3 in the marriage. And there should be 2 only.
So you work it out what is best for you.
Break the habit of chatting with him or you are in for trouble.
2007-01-29 19:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't betray your husband n family if they love n care for u.As far as net friends r concerned u loose one u get another,so try to be happy with your family.
2007-01-29 19:25:54 · answer #10 · answered by DJ101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋