i make more than my husband, and he says it doesnt bother him but i dont really believe him, he works alot of overtime saying he just wants to help us save money for our future house.....but do you think it bothers him that i make more??
2007-01-29 19:06:52 · 14 answers · asked by dansbby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HELL NO, the more you make the better....
2007-01-29 19:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by j d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wouldn't bother me. but if he is working all the time, and paying the bills, and saving for a house, and you get to spend your money on any thing you want, that would bother me, i am not saying that's what is going on. and if your are making more than him its probably not that much more than him. there have been some cases where woman believe that the husbands money is for paying the bills, and what ever is left over he can get are do what he wants, and the wife's money is for investing and doing with it what she will. but that's just a few cases every marriage is different. i think it bothers some guys when the woman makes more money. you should convince your husband that it is only fair that you pay half the bills, and that he gets some time away from his job to spend with you, and a nice back rub 3 times a week would be nice too.
2007-01-29 19:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in the present circumstances. Both husband and wife are building a family and home, the money is important.
But as long as the relationship stay healthy and there is no arguments about who runs the family and who provides the daily bread, everything is okay BUT if she starts calling the shots at home about she earning more and provide more, there's where trouble starts. Be careful.
Good Luck
2007-01-29 19:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some it does and other it doesn't. Personally I wouldn't mind at all, I would be happy one of us was making what they deserved. If he says it doesn't then it probably doesn't. You have no reason to feel guilty your just as much a contributing factor in the relationship as he is financially. In a way its what you both make together that constitutes the total income of the family. He benefits from it as well as your able to help out in that area more.
-NmD!
2007-01-29 19:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it does bother them to a certain point. However, I think it is more important to them where the money is going and that the wife is not acting as if she is in complete control just because she makes more money.
2007-01-29 19:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by TAS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some adult men do care how a lot their mate makes. some females do no longer care. If the guy/female want to have babies the female is quite a lot forced without option to be the guy who has to grant delivery and breastfeed (if she chooses to breastfeed). adult men understand they're never gonna could come out toddlers whether they p.c. they want babies. females on the different hand understand they're going to and if that factor ever comes they want a mate who can help them and the infant if she could be caught on bedrest and no longer able to artwork. to no longer point out it takes a couple of minutes to recover from delivery (much greater time if the delivery grew to become right into a c-area). If the worst could ensue and he or she dies in childbirth she does no longer want the final theory in her head to be "he won't in any respect have the flexibility to help himself or our infant".
2016-11-23 13:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always going to bother him because it feels like he is not the head of the household. its not a bad thing its just a sense of being in charge, providing for the wife.. he wants to share a great life with you and he probably thinks your working at it harder than he is..
2007-01-29 19:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what age group you're in. my wife makes more money then me, I'm 27 and I'm fine with it. but I think the older you are the closer people are attached to the "old ways"
2007-01-29 19:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it bothers him.No man can accept that kind of situation.Its against their ego issue.
2007-01-29 19:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur husband trust u and really mean it then i dont think he bothers.if u think he does den just speak wid him politely and just ask him i trust u very much ,do u trust me?
i think this will work out.
2007-01-29 19:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. But it could be the other round where he thinks that you had contributed more that him which makes him feel low.
2007-01-29 19:10:24 · answer #11 · answered by maggotier 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋