Tips for a new Military wife?

Question

Hi there. I just married an Air Force guy and I'm just looking for little tips that a military wife should know to make life easier. We currently don't live on base and we're stationed in Utah, hopefully changing base soon. Any little tips would be great to know!

Answer 1

Military wives are unique especially what you guys have to deal with. Take advantage of this if you can.
You may get a chance to travel overseas and see some great places. If you are in the states go to a community college and get some college credits. This may help you in the long run since you may have to get a job later on (if you so desire)

But most importantly sit down with him and jointly go over your dreams. The exciting thing about marriage is 'building' a future together. The more you plan for the future the more drive you will have. Save your money too. It would best if you start learning how to invest in mutual funds. Plan for your retirement now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (YOU HEAR ME...If there is anything you should do...do that!)

Also get a frequent flyer credit so you can travel for free when he is gone (maybe go back and see your family)

Ask this question on yahoo: What advice would you give to a young woman? You will be surprised at the answers you get.

Answer 2

During my first deployment the first month was the worst, lot of crying, being depressed, not wanting to get out of bed. But then he was able to call and I got busy doing other things. My husband is currently deployed on his second tour and it was a lot easier. I cried when I said good bye, then by the time I got into my car and put my seat belt on I was fine. Couple tips: Stay away from looking for news articles of his unit (things get distorted, and I made that mistake last time found an article that said my guy was shot, and he wasn't. Found another one that said his group was ambushed and the insurgents bombed them so bad the roof collapsed on them all. ) Start a new hobby, learn to scrapbook, knit, take up a new sport, go to the gym, take a couple college courses. My husband asked me to go back to school while he was gone, and I'm taking a few generals and a cooking class to surprise him when he gets back. :) You'll be fine, don't stress about the emotional stuff it will get easier then it will feel very normal. You'll be living with a mind set that he's just at work, and will be home soon. Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Does anyone have any advice other than dont make friends with military wives? Geesh. Enough already.

My advice is be patient, loving, and kind. And be FLEXIBLE! I never know when my husband is coming home until I get the phone call. Yes, COB formation is at 1630, but I should never expect him to be home at 1645. 1st Sgt needs something or other, soldier needs something or other. Husband got a phone call at 3am to go inspect barracks. Soldiers wife needs some information. Somebody needs to be counseled. Somebody has an appt. Deployments. Field exercises. Schools. Trainups. It is never predictable, that is for sure. So learn to roll with the punches, and dont be mad at your husband, because he sure cant control his schedule.

Greet him at the door, every single day (if your schedule permits) with a big hug and kiss. He has probably been taking orders (or giving them) all day and to come home to positive vibes and love is important. Been doing it since before we married. Will continue as long as he is in my arms until he deploys. Even then, he gets yahoo offline hugs and kisses every day.

And keep a clean house (either you do it or the 2 of you, just make sure it is done). You never know who is coming for dinner or just dropping by!

For us, it is a GREAT life that I enjoy so much. Yes, there are downsides, but I cant enjoy the benefits without a little bit of the pains, including the separations. So take care, congrats! Best to the two of you!

Answer 4

Congrats! Please, get to know some of the other wives of your man's friends, etc. That will help for when he is home, and you can do things together (group dinners, etc.) and especially when he is away from home. If/when he gets shipped off somewhere and you can't join him for awhile, be prepared to be able to "survive" on your own-him not being there will make a bit of a difference. The flip side of that, is when the two of you are reunited, be prepared for him to be full time husband-to take his role back. He will always be your husband, but sometimes the military life makes you feel almost, not really, single. Be willing to met new people, have new friends, keep in touch with old friends as you move from place to place. It takes someone special to be married to a military man. Sounds like you are one of them. Next, probably the best source of little tips-ask your man. Take care.

Answer 5

I would say to definitly move on base. He gets BAH and that means no money out of your pockets if you reside on base you will only have to pay for phone and cable. My husband is active duty military and this is our second time living on base and it's great. In my personal opinion, I wouldn't get too attached to the navy wifes. Some think that they are better than others because their husband is of a greater rank. And also not to get too attached because you never know when it will be your time to go to your next destination. I would have to say living oversea's has been a challange especially here in Japan. It's almost like he has his own life now and unfortunatly I think it took this move to realize that he wasn't a family orientated individule. If that is ever the case, you can search online milpersman and it will give you some info. You never know what lies ahead. Good luck to you and your marriage.

Answer 6

First of all don't listen to the losers who have been cheated on by their wives! The husbands do it just as much mine is proof of that but hey thats a whole other subject. But, as far as tips for being a military wife goes, definatly take advantage of living on post its is nice not having to go off post for every little thing and very nice having it right there. Take advantage of your bx and the commissary lots of awesome discounts sometimes, and its easier living on post because you don't have to worry about paying rent or electric, gas, water, and whatever else because it is automatically deducted out of your housing allowance which is a nice plus for me. I've always demanded to my husband we live on post Ha! Ha! I think if you have children also it is better too because you have immediate access to medical care because most post have a hospital or clinic. I would say to try to meet asmany wives as you can but also use extreme caution in choosing your friends because sometimes there are big explosions among military wives due to husbands rank, cheating with each other's husbands, (my husband tried) but various other factors. Just try to build a good foundation and stay faithful no matter what because I will tell you from experience it is hard during times of deployement because you do get lonely but you have to remember your vows and visit your family and friends as much as you can. Good luck

Answer 7

my husband was in iraq for a year, but he was in the gaurd so my situation was a little different. the best advice i can give you is to make friends with other woman who are in the same situation because no one else is going to understand what you are going through. be there for your man no matter what the situation and if he does have to go away remain true to him no matter what! and always have a little faith
good luck!!

Answer 8

Well....I guess he went into the service of his own accord since there is no draft. You are going to have to deal with a backlash of many who do not agree with this war....on top of worrying about him. The best you can do is find some of the other wives to gain support from.

Answer 9

I have heard that alot of cheating happens when spouses are gone. Take some time to make a good foundation in your marriage.

Answer 10

i think before your married you know that he is ana air force and the duty of this job , so if you want anything 4fun try to create it by yourself