How can you be sure before you marry, that you will marry a person with whom you can be happy?

Question

So many people get married for many reasons and half of the marriages end in divorce. What do you think is a sure sign that a marriage can and will work out good in the end. I just would like to know your opinion in general. Thank you.

Answer 1

We've been happily married 36 years, and I guarantee you, some of the key elements of a successful relationship - married or otherwise - are:

1) A long list of common interests; things you both enjoy doing TOGETHER as opposed to separate interests, which all people will have.

2) A lot of tolerance for each other's differences. As much as you share in common, you're still going to rub one another wrong from time to time. Be mature and deal with it. Separate the small $h!t from the serious stuff.

3) A sense of forgiveness, for, as I said, you're both going to screw up on occasion.

Answer 2

I don't think anyone knows for sure if it will last, but there are some important key factors to look at before someone makes that giant leap.

I think knowing how well you can trust, communicate, be supportive and still leave room to grow as seperate people all play important roles in a healthy marriage.

Ultimately it takes getting to really know the person and ask the tough questions before-hand (especially the ones that on-one thinks to ask). Like for example not just how many children you want but how you will raise them? How close do you want to keep in touch with your extended family? What would you do if either of you had to relocate because of a job, or got really sick? How are your arguing styles and can you deal with each persons differences? How should the house-hold tasks be delegated? Will it be an equal share in child-rearing? How do each of you spend or save cash and what will that money be spent on?
There are so many more things to be added here. Really its the details and how your willing to bend with each others differences that will ultimately tell if you will last. Of course there are those deal breakers we all hear about that no-one should ever stick around for, like any kind of verbal, emotional, physical or sexual abuse to themselves or that of their children and loved ones.
Marriages takes a lot (and I do meant Alot) of compromising so both people can be happy and get what they want out of the relationship. Thats what it takes in order for it to stay healthy and strong for a life-time.

Answer 3

You can never be sure of whether anything is going to work out in the end. No one can predict the future. The only thing I can tell you is to try to picture yourself with the person down the road. Will you be faithful? Do you think they will be? Can you always keep things exciting or will you just get sick of them? Things like that. I am actually engaged right now but I am taking it slow to make sure its really what I want. You can never control other people's actions within a marriage, so if YOU want it to work, YOU need to do all you can to keep it together. If you can, then thats great

... keep in mind that no relationship is perfect, and if you and your partner can see past that, then look forward to a great future together.

Answer 4

while there are no real guarantees, we always need to look into a persons past, we need to look at how they handle stress and problems, how they treat us, is it respect or with control and abuse, if they have a strong belief in god, and have a good character. u can certainly tell where a person is going by seeing what they focus on in life. before one marries they need to really talk over everything, get to know that person's value's and what they want out of life.look for someone who has what u need to make your life better, if u have a certain weakness than u would not want to marry someone who had that same weakness, u would always want someone above u, as if u marry someone with your weakness's u will have two people in that marriage that have the same problem in a certain area who can't work out that problem which will be a disaster.

Answer 5

Hi there,

Look if you get on with the person you are intending to marry, then things should be good. Many churches now day are having pre-marriage courses, if that goes good for you then things should work out.
Do you agree or disagree about most or a lot of things. My wife and I, been married 24 years almost. we got married real quick and I tell you it is hard some times, both for her and me. Do you agree about money, children, where you want to live, are there any real character flaws that are present now, because they will get worse when you are married.

Ask Jesus, for His guidance, He will lead you and guide you. He is not a God with a big stick ready to hit you. He loves you and wants the best for you.

Blessings

Answer 6

Marriage is a gamble. You can NEVER know what may happen and to whom.
A marriage can work out ONLY with the effort of both partners to sincerely make it work.
It is easier to shirk responsibility and separate. It is more difficult to live together in harmony.
It is a game for 2. And knowing the basic nature of your partner is the 1st step. How to know your limits is the next. Adjustment is another. It is endless.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Marriage is about love. Love is commitment. It's staying true to each other no matter what. It's how you work out your disagreements. THERE ARE NO "SURE" SIGNS. You cannot control what another person will do.

Answer 9

My opinion of this is,

Before getting into marriage....
have a quiet time to reflect and question why your into this kind of relationship..

Is your partner has a strong faith in God?
Are you willing to sacrifice everything for your partner? vice versa.
If your partner will be a good wife/husband? vice versa.
Can i trust him/her with my life? and surname?
Can your partner handle your ugliest and dirtiest part in your life? vice versa.
Can your partner will always be forgiving with you? vice versa.


This are just some of the questions you need to ponder before saying i do infront of the lord.

Marriage is a sacred thing.....let us not ruin other people's lives if we are not sure in ourselves what we are getting into when it comes to relationships...specially marriage life.

Answer 10

first you need to get a bond with your women or man. yes men. i studied my women and found out, if you want a good relationship, you have to repeat the same sweet things you did to get her to keep her.also men you need to know that a women is always right even when she wrong. its wrong but that is 70% of a women is built on so just keep her happy even when mad. i work out,remember if she not cheating on you keep her, work it out,never know when you will find another faithful women