Should gay couples have the right to adopt?

Question

I undersatnd they should have equal rights but are they accepted enough so that the children won't be bullied at school? At my school if you would have told people that you had two
Dads you would have had your butt kicked on a daily basis...Has the world changed enough for children to accept it?

I agree with you Kelvin but how are we going to teach the parents to teach the kids?

Answer 1

There are many ways to answer this question. But I guess this may help.

A while back (many years, acctually) I watched a TV special on homosexual parenting and adoption. They were interviewing these two men who adopted a son. When the interviewer spoke to the son, he told them that the treatment he got at the foster home was worse than any ridicule he could ever receive in school. And no, he wasn't gay. He was a straight boy. When asked if he was sure he was straight since he grew up in a homosexual household, his reply threw me off. He said...my fathers both grew up in heterosexual households, were taught by heterosexuals in school, had heterosexual role models all around them and they turned out gay.

I think the problem is not whether children accept it but whether adults are grown up enough not to instill prejudice in their children. Children learn from what we adults do and say. Just think of how many kids mimic their parents speech patterns and habits. If we as adults just show some kindness and tolerance in this world, we'd have less problems. I believe this applies to other issues like disabilities, religion and race as well.

Just my two cents worth.

Answer 2

I think anyone should have the right to adopt if they can provide a stable life and future for the child. Why should someone be excluded just because there gay? Could it provide problems for some kids in life, yes. Unfortunately the world has changed so much that even the slightest thing not considered normal by society's terms will cause kids in school problems. When adoption firms start excluding gay couples from adopting it's a breach of our rights. Just because it's a gay or lesbian couple doesn't mean they can't provide the right atmosphere for a child to grow up healthy. Everyone deserves the right to be a parent if they so choose. Who are we as people to tell then they don't have that right because there gay?

Answer 3

The main thing a child needs is to be loved. As long as a couple can do that, their sexual orientation shouldn't matter (all children think their parents having sex is yucky anyway!). As to being bullied at school, yes - the reality is that there will always be some children from ignorant backgrounds who will make stupid comments, but that sort of child will look for any reason regardless of what it is to get attention. I think the world has moved on sufficiently for this not to become a big deal any more. I bet if you asked a child "would you rather live in a happy, stable home with slightly unconventional parents who may be commented upon at school, or would you rather live in an institution?" every single one would pick the first option.

Answer 4

I am a mother of three. I love my children very very much. They are adults now, but when they were little I made arrangements with someone whom I knew would love them if any thing ever happened to my husband and myself. All children need love and nurturing. There is nothing in history or science that shows that gays are incapable of loving children. I think children should be place in a stable environment with loving adults. Who cares if they are both male or both female. Some people are afraid that children being raised by gay parents will be gay. Well, I can thing of many things children grow up to be that are far worse.

I said all that to say this: Children will accept any kind of love. Why should we deny them good loving parent just because we don't agree with the parents sexual orientation. Many, many far too many straight parents abandon their children for what ever reason. Are we a society who would rather have these children go unloved?

Answer 5

I know a gay couple who has adopted from Guatamala and I have spoken to an adoption agency who stated that some of their best adoptive parents were gay couples. I also have a lesbian friend who was married and has 2 children and her children were never teased or beaten because their mom was gay probably because the other children knew that their momma would have beaten those kids ***'s if they teased her kids. I don't think children would have issues with gay parents if the parents are loving and supportive of them the people who tend to have problems are other adults who have narrow little minds and thing that gay people are the same as pedophiles, shame on them.

Answer 6

Lets face it, would a child adopted by a gay couple get bullied at school anymore than a black child or a child with one black parent and one white parent? Children get bullied if they are too short, wear glasses, not as attractive as other children. Bullying is a sad and unacceptable way of life. I believe that this is supposed to be about the welfare of the child, afterall the child may initially have been given up for adoption by normal white parents so it clearly doesnt mean that they are any better as a parent does it? Who are we to judge how well a gay couple will look after a child, as long as the child is well looked after and happy then it shouldn't matter. Oh and by the way I am hetrosexual not gay so am not biased.

Answer 7

YES! There are over a hundred thousand children in foster homes that would love to have someone to go home to. There are so many straight couples that that beat their childred, starve them, neglect their basic needs. Gay or straight, if a person has a heart big enough to love a child, they should be allowed to.

Studies have shown that adopted children are not more likely to be gay if they are adopted by gay parents. Children in foster care are more likely to be high school dropouts, criminals, prostitutes, and abusive parents. Wouldn't the world be better if they had anyone to love them as children?

Answer 8

the way we learn to accept things is by seeing it on a daily basis, 20 years ago you would have been asking if its fair that black and white people have kids together, at the time it was very frowned upon, now it is so much more acceptable obviously there are still ignorant people who think it is wrong but overall things are much better, it is the same with gay and lesbian couples it is on a whole more acceptable now to live as a same sex couple, so in time i think that adopting and raising children will be more accepted

Answer 9

No. Because it is enough of a risk already to place a child with a 'normal' family without starting out with two adults who accept sexual deviancy as a way of life. Stuff's gonna happen at school no matter what, so fear of the child being bullied due to having gay care-givers is not really a legitimate consideration. Just what do you mean by 'equal rights'? Folks should have the right to live their lives without fear or prejudice, sure - but you pick your lifestyle and deal with the consequences. If you want to do 'a', you have to give up 'b'. Raising hell to change the law so that the government has to give you 'a' and 'b' is just selfish and it ends up making you more than equal with those who made a choice. Also, just because a few liberal networks run some politically correct propaganda pieces about how homosexuals are being more 'accepted' doesn't mean the whole world agrees, so don't go thinking that because something is cool in New York City and LA that folks in Madrid, Spain and Trinidad, Mexico agree.

Answer 10

I feel that gays and lesbians should be allowed to adopt. I mean come on what does it matter who your parents are as long as they love and care for. This is just like saying my parents don't spend enough money on me therefore they don't love me and it shouldn't be this way. If your parents love you then that's all that matters, gender, sexuality and stuff like that don't matter. Love, care and a decent family life matters most. What makes people think that just because a child has same sex parents they will get bullied this is not the case my friends dad is gay and has a husband and he says he is a good dad ad he cares for her and that should be all that matters.