I love my new husband to death. I've just been really depressed since just before we got married a month ago and it totally killed my sex drive as well. I have no idea what to do, but I'm just so miserable, its made it so I can't even sleep at night. I'm 21, I don't know if my age should affect anything. Any suggestions or anyone that went through anything similar?
2007-01-29 18:42:53 · 26 answers · asked by Jenna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one tells you about the post-wedding blues, but they happen, in varying degrees, to a lot of people. I too was quite depressed for a few months after my wedding, even though my husband was loving and supportive. There's a lot of preparation for a wedding, and the letdown after it's all over can be overwhelming.
Try to find something to do (a new hobby, take a class, go bike riding) that will help you get your mind off of the fact that the wedding is over. I actually helped a couple of friends with their wedding (they got married after I did). That made me feel a lot better, as I was still in the "wedding" mode, and could contribute constructively while knowing what they were going through!
If you are truly, truly not happy, you may want to speak to a therapist, counselor, or doctor (are you at college/university? they often have free student counselors). They will be able to help diagnose if your depression is clinical, and suggest possible solutions. Sometimes just talking to an impartial listener is all you need.
2007-01-29 18:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by birdr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be that the stressors of the wedding and the new expectations as wife have taken their toll on you emotionally Now that the hight of things are over and you are able to relax you may feel just the opposite. Still totally overwhelmed and drained from the activity. If in a week you still feel the same way I would consult with your physician. You could be having anxiety or depression, or a bit of both, but only they will be able to tell you which. In all liklihood they may suggest counselling or some ways to combat stress in your life, so that you can manage better until you are able to return to top physical health. Just remember depression doesnt mean a life-long battle. Many people experiencing bouts of depression in thier life-time can recover as long as they get the right help as soon as they can.
2007-01-29 19:08:56 · answer #2 · answered by canadian_chick0678 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever something monumental happens in our lives, there is a rush of emotion and if it's a good experience, our feelings can be on a very big high. Unfortunately, the higher you go emotionally, there is a risk of coming down. It's kind of like when you eat sweets and get that burst of energy, but then when it wears off, you plummet. That's probably what you're experiencing emotionally. I would talk honestly with my spouse or others who are married. I bet some of them have had the same experience. If it doesn't markedly subside soon, make a visit to your doctor. Good luck!!
2007-01-29 18:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by debdini 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is well known to happen go and see a nice doctor and maybe get some anti depressants for some short term help to feel better and take good advice such as exercise(when you feel slightly better, also endorphins released from exercising help you feel happier) and spend time with your husband and adjusting to a whole new life can be hard ..you always have to keep working on your relationship through the years things happen along the way don t give up
2007-01-30 00:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by kittykat2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
READ THIS MONTH'S COSMO!!! It has a whole article about women being depressed after getting married, and it said it's usually due to all the excitement of "the big day" being over, even if it's just subconsciously. You are not alone. Probably you're just stressed with all the changes, poor thing. Read the article, though, and good luck!
2007-01-29 18:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think all marriages are stressful and it doesn't help that you were depressed before the marriage, that must have overloaded you with just everything. Seek help from your friends, try to find things that will entertain you, make you laugh again, and see the good in the world. Personally it doesn't seem like getting out of the marriage will do any good, I think that'd make things worse. It has probably has nothing to do with your age as well, you seem to love your husband so try to find what makes you happy. Things should clear up from there.
2007-01-29 18:48:39 · answer #6 · answered by yangyi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is there any kind of "safe house" for you over there? Maybe if you get out and go back to the UK, you can get a job and daycare and move on. It sounds like you are miserable, and that's no way to live your life. You are going to have to make some changes, and it sounds like your husband is not going to help or change. Good luck. You're in my prayers.
2016-03-29 09:20:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you think you made a mistake, i think you should sit down and have a talk with him. Think about when you guys first meet each other, try to get that feeling back. The beginning of a relationship always has some kind of good warm memories, it helps me a lot.
2007-01-29 18:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by darkcutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a doctor. Sometimes you can have anxiety of a new marriage, new home, new obsticles in life just remember if hes as great as you say he is then he'll be there through it all. I do suggest the doctor for some meds to calm you or your going to melt down.
2007-01-29 18:48:15 · answer #9 · answered by snuggiebear 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Pl. talk to your husband find out his liking and disliking. Pl. find out about his problems and help him in solving them.
Sex plays a major role in happy and successful married life.
Initiate the sex activities from your side you will get the results.
Feel free to contact.
Enjoy Life
Dr.Mojo
2007-01-29 19:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋