My son sleeps through the night and is a dream to have as a first time mum.we have a really close relationship, will another so close destroy this? I was just wondering how other mums have handled similar age gaps? Is it worth it in the long run?
Thanks sabrina
2007-01-29 18:36:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I have to say... I am for and against... there are pros and cons to both sides.... mentally, emotionally, physically (for you) and every child reacts differently to anything like this.... and worst.. it is all individual... what is best for me and mine? might be worst for you and yours? you know.....
age gaps; for mine, I think the two to three year gap is the best... I felt cheated from my time with my younger children... the one on one time, I mean.... that is a little selfish...
from the child's side? that is dependent mostly, I think, on each child... I have one who is so jealous of anyone else having mommy's time that she acts out... where as I have another who loves so much being the "big" she tries to help and loves playing with baby..... so you would want to ask yourself? does he share well outside the home? what about if you have company? does he need to have your attention then too? he may not be ready to share you with a sibling... if he has to have you to himself?
from your body's perspective? you really should allow it at least five more months to heal... you do not want to end up with some of the "issues" some of us have from babies coming too fast.... too soon.... but if that does not bug you....? then you can cross that off.....
I think my sister and I were very close (relationship I mean) and I know I love it... oh, we fought... lol.. but we also shared a lot too... now we share our children (we are almost always pregnant at the same time...due within days or weeks of each other) she is thirteen months younger... so, it is not like it is a crime to have them close...
it is just my opinion... that if trying? our babies, bodies and even our spouses give us the clues as to when it is the right time.... and where we give up that one on one time? we gain watching children explore two by two....lol...sharing, caring and growing in new ways.... it is tough... twice the diapers.. trying to potty train one while teaching another to walk.... but it has it's own rewards that I can not even begin to describe...
I have probably only added to the confusion... if so, I am sorry... I hope I haven't... hope it has helped... good luck!
2007-01-29 19:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I have 5 grown children. The first two are 18 months apart. Then there is a five year gap then another 5 year gap and two children who are 2 years apart. I think the five years is a bit too far apart. There is no connection really with the others. 18 months is a bit close to handle two small children. To make your life a little easier and have more one on one time with each child I think that 2 - 3 years is a good space between.
2007-01-29 20:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mother_Darling 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Up unitl Dec. 06' I had a 4 and a 3 year old. My daughter is 5 years as of jan 7.
My daughter and my wife have a very strong relationship that has never been ruined due to the birth of my son. My son was a suprise and my wife had the same worries. Two can be a little stressful to handle because they can both fight one another but they also get along so incredibly well. I think that it is good for both of them to have a sibling that is around the same age as them.
2007-01-29 18:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think it's too soon. But it is up to you and your partner. You are the only who is going to know how you feel and whether it's time. But just because your son is a dream, doesn't always mean that No.2 will be as well. Don't let it put you off though, it doens't matter if you have another now or in a years time, it wont change the way they will be. All children are different and have different eating habits, personalities and sleeping paterns. I have a fourteen month gap between my sister and I, and we are extremly close. It was great to grow up with a best friend. It is easy to have 2 children within a close age group. Probably alot easier then having a 5yr old and a new born. At that age they are developing into a little person with busy lifestyles, after school activities, home work, etc. I reckon that would be alot to handle with a crying baby who needs to be fed. Just as soccer is starting. But talk it over, and whatever happens, its all for the best. Goodluck :) P.S It wont change your relationship with your little man.
2007-01-29 18:59:41 · answer #4 · answered by bee320 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not listen to Amber E ... no offense intended Amber E, but Infants' Tylenol is CONCENTRATED - since it would be difficult to get an infant to drink much more than a few drops .... therefore children could still overdose. Tons of info on the Tylenol website. Baby is most likely fine, but call pediatrician just in case.
2016-03-15 02:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your OB about this question. Mine said about a year is what you want for uterus to get back to normal. I have a 15 month old and am expecting in July, They will be about 20 months appart, which is what we feel is a good gap. I'd wait until your child is 9 or 10 moths old, before trying again.
2007-01-30 00:55:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard work having 2 littlies & your relationship with your first baby will change to accomodate another. I guess the positive side is that they will be close in age & you will be through the hardest part more quickly. I spaced my last 2 children 3 years apart & have found that to work really nicely as i can spend quality time with both & there is not as much hard physical yakka. I think it's a very personal choice.
2007-01-29 19:21:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mishell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had my first and three months later got pregnant with second on accident . but thats ok
there 11 and 12 now and fight like cats and dogs i have had to seperate them because of it but i love them all the same i had 1 more at 7 now and a 3 year oldthink long and hard about it my two oldest ones i would not mess with the other unless you no where the second ones at when i say seperate them i mean send one to a grand parent over the summer that seems to help
2007-01-30 01:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister and I are 18 months apart, so that means that when I was about 9 months old, my mom got pregnant again with my sister. I would say as long as the doc isn't concerned (I don't know if your first pregnancy was totally uneventful or if it was high risk) it's a purely personal opinion and totally your choice. I'd say go for it! :-)
2007-01-29 18:46:06 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 girls and a boy, there is 2 and a half years between my first two and 12 months between the second and third.. I beleive its never too early to have another after just having one. Its not true that your body needs to wait for any period of time.... My last two share an amazing bond i wouldnt change it for the world..
2007-01-29 20:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sons are 16 months apart, and it was well worth it. They are much closer than my daughters who are almost 2 1/2 years apart. Your relationship with each child will be the same. You wouldn't know how you could have lived without each of them after you have them. That is until they get into their teens. LOL
2007-01-29 18:42:17 · answer #11 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋