If your married and had a child, will you still go for an extra affair?
is being in a mistake marraige will be an excuse to go for another guy?
2007-01-29 18:17:28 · 30 answers · asked by mplus2004 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just been curious why this married girl with a child would still go for my bf and say her sad married life story...and using it as and excuse to get into him...
2007-01-29 20:22:52 · update #1
I do not agree with extra marital affairs. I'm committed to my husband forever. He's a good man, and he deserves my love, and respect.
Marriage is a sacred arrangement made by our creator. God hates a divorcing, the only two grounds for a divorce are adultery, and if the spouse dies.
This does not mean that we should commit adultery to get out of marriage. For the person who is sinning, will have to answer to God for their sins. It is really our fault, if we did not think seriously about the person we are marrying, and rush into a marriage. Then later find out we aren't happy with them.
It is important that a couple really get to know each other, and ask each other, "what do they really want out of the marriage?" Be honest with them. Remembering to that we marry the persons good side, as well as the faulty side.
Try to be forgiving of the person, and work at the relationship a little bit more, especially when things are going sour. If there are kids involved, this becomes more complicated. These innocent children don't deserve to be in a broken home because one parent could not keep their pants on so to speak. There is no excuse for adultery, sadly, it's just that many today are doing it, and want there to be a legitimate excuse. If more people tried harder to work at the marriage, and follow God's laws on marriage, then this world would have a higher rate of marriages that work out. The Bible does say to keep the marriage bed honorable, and clean, and to give your mate their sexual due.
This, I think is a good law for the marriage. It covers everything. If we follow it, our partner will be happier, and so will we.
2007-01-29 18:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, no excuse at all. I not only made a promise to my husband to remain faithful to him, I made that promise to myself. If I ever felt the marriage was a mistake, I would get out of the marriage first, and then I would "go for" another guy. I honestly couldn't see myself being comfortable breaking that vow I made. Having a child with him (and we have 2) wouldn't make it any stronger, but I would also think about what it would do to my child. Also, when kids grow up, and reach those wonderful teen years (again, I have 2 there), it's very nice to be completely honest with them when they ask me questions like these. I don't have to try to explain what I did, and I don't have to worry that they're going to run off and copy the same bad mistake I did, simply because "well, MOM did it, so it must not be that bad, right?" But it would really all boil down to me, and I don't think I could divide my loyalties between 2 people like you do when having an extra marital affair.
2007-01-29 18:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 100% faithful because I expect the same from him. I made a commitment, a promise, and if I had no intention of honoring that promise I would not have married. So what if the marriage is a mistake? Then get a divorce and then go find someone else. Live life so that you have no regrets. You hold your head high and always make honorable decisions so you can always truthfully say that you did your best.
2007-01-29 18:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thin as a mistake marriage...It's called getting an Annulment Sweetie, if you waited to long then you need to get a lawyer and file for a divorce.. If both of you are cheating on each other than you need to be the bigger person and end this foolishness.. Your child deserves better and you do not want he or she growing up thinking this is how things should be !!
2007-01-29 18:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!! think about your child. That's no excuse. if you are married and you have a child with your partner, why go for an extra affair. remember why you have married him. And if it was a mistake why having a baby with him??
2007-01-29 18:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Laurent 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am totally faithful to my husband. and no I would never have an affair. and being in a marriage that's not working is not an excuse to cheat! if you feel that your marriage is a mistake, get a divorce. then you can see who you want. and just remember, there's a child involved here.
2007-01-29 18:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is no excuse for an affair. If you are not happy with the marriage you are in then leave the marriage. I would hate to get caught and possibly have your ex spouse tell your children why you split up. It would be much better for the kids to hear that you left because you two did not get along then to hear "well Mommy found another man and left us for him"
2007-01-29 18:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even not being married I would never cheat. If your not happy with what you got and feel the need to look for it in another you shouldn't be with the person your with. Sometimes I feel like a fool when a relationship comes to its close, but I will remain faithful until the end.
-NmD!
2007-01-29 18:21:51 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that your marriage is a mistake, then take steps to end it, then go with the other guy. If you have an affair, you'll just think lowly of yourself later on down the line.
2007-01-29 18:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. I don't even think about any other guy not even the men on TV or in movies.
Its no excuse even if anybody is in a mistake marriage.
2007-01-30 08:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by JourneyToTheHeart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋