How can I survive high school?

Question

I'm a freshman in high school and it's been 5 months since school started and I still haven't made any friends. Everyday during lunch I go to an isolated place so I won't have to face the harshness of the other kids. The students at my high school are ALL stuck up, immature, stupid, care TOO much about fashion, and make lame comments. I've had people say, "Hey loner! How's your sad life! Haha." "Kevin's such a loser, he hangs out by himself." "You were talking to him?" "Don't talk to him, he's gay." and people who have walked up to me straight forward and insulted me. Whenever I need help like asking about homework and borrowing things I ask someone and they just say, "Do I know you?" (they do) and some just ignore me intentionally. Once during class while we were debating about a topic I just stated my opinion and one "cool" guy disagreed. Then 7 ignorant others just backed him up and insulted me for no reason. I'm popular for being a loser/loner, how ironic.

I don't want to be alone but I don't want to be friends with those people. Moving is not an option, so what can I do?

Answer 1

whoa!...i tot it existed only in teenage movies....anywayz just keep being yourself and dont change for anybody . when they grow up and look back, they'll be so ashamed of themselves...

Answer 2

Hey There!
Highschool can be ruff. I saw so many people go through what you are explaining and I felt so bad for them. I was quiet in highschool, had a small group of freinds I knew from middle school but did not make alot of new ones. I had more friends outside of school and I focused on that and how happy I was when I was with them and my family after school and on weekends. School is not easy sometimes, but later in life when you look back you realize it was short and when itès over nobody cares what those people think anyhow. Focus on things that make you happy, do well at your studies and in the end it will be okay. Another suggestion is maybe talking to people who may seem to be in your same situation, even if younger or older and relate to them or get invovle in school groups that can let you mingle with other students you donèt usually interact with. Good luck and try not to think you are a loser - 5 to 10 years from now you will realize how silly and immature those people were.

Answer 3

That sucks. I know where you are coming from. My high school class did not get along with each other at all. We didn't even have a 10 year reunion. That's how much a) they all hated each other and b) it all really doesn't matter now.

My advice would be this: be yourself, make a few good friends. Don't worry if you haven't made any yet they will come. Maybe try to join some clubs. Even if it's like Yearbook, or AV, or the Spanish club, whatever. Go for the academic clubs. The people in those clubs may be more intellectual, and therefore, open to meeting people who have more going for them than "just" looks, etc, less likely to judge each other.

Remember this: in a few years, you'll be off to college and you will meet ALL SORTS of people. Trust me it won't matter one bit who you were or who you hung out with in HS.

Take me for example: In HS I was a total burn-out, borderline loser (I had like 4 friends in the whole damn school) and I went on to college and ended-up being really good friends with some guys who were on the golf team of the rival HS of my town. Now I am married to a guy who was on the Varsity football team of his HS.

I guess what I am getting at is that in the realm of life, HS is such a small part. Don't let it get to you. I was made fun of in Jr High. I moved to the 'burbs from Chicago. All whitebread suburbs. Here I am this white chick who talks like an inner-city black girl, I listened to rap, wore different clothes, etc, etc. I was relentlessly teased on the bus by these 3 guys for being fat. EVERYDAY I could hear them at the back of the bus making comments. I just ignored it and even though it was embarrasing and hurtful, I tried my best not to let it get to me. I still think about it once-in-a-while, but I don't look back on it and let it define me.

I am very happy with who I am today and I am grateful for the life that I have and I know that every moment leading up to this day happened for a reason. Some of those moments totally sucked and some were great. Now I have a great life and I don't know if I could be much happier.

Look at Bill Gates for example...I bet he was made fun of in school......screw them....just be yourself.

Answer 4

The only way to survive high school is to find who you are. Do not be afraid of what people think about you because you are your only best friend. As long as you love yourself that is all that matters. Find something that you are good at, like a sport or music and get involved in something. Get good grades and always do your homework. Almost every big time celebrity in Hollywood had a tough high school experience and they are now some of the richest people in the world. High School is fake and every is fake, you will never see any of those people when you graduate. So, the point is to find yourself and not be afraid, love yourself, get involved in something you like, build up your confidence. It is better to have 1 or 2 close friends rather than having 20 bullshit friends!

Answer 5

Sounds pretty bad. Maybe it seems like all the kids in the school are the same. I bet if you got some them away from their "group" that they would treat you differently. Peer pressure can make good people act really stupid. have you tried any extra-curricular activities or clubs. A lot of times you might find that not all the people in the scool are jerks. Try to find friends that don't go to that school. Hang in there. I know it can be really hard.

Answer 6

High School is a hard time of life for alot of people.
But on a good note it only lasts for 4 years. High School sucked for me also, but again life gets great at the end of it and after. All the people that laugh and joke at you move on, stop growing, get fat(lol), etc. So later in life you can do the laughing yourself...
Just remember have a good time now and it gets alot better.

Answer 7

You said you go to an isolated place so you won't have to face them.
Let me guess, since you are trying to avoid them, you are the one that they think doesn't want to communicate with them. So when you need help, they have nothing to offer you. It may not be the case that they hate you for no reason. They might see you as you think you are somehow superior to them. So they pick on you just to lower your self-esteem. You are new to that school and students in your school are already being friends before and now. Your situation may depend on how you entered the new school. Was you friendly when you first entered the environment? Whatever reason you have for avoiding them, they may feel the same way that you feel (they think you are the one who's trying to ignore them). Since they say you hangs out by yourself, it's clear that their opinion about you is it is you who doesn't want to hang out with them. So they are like "Who cares? He is a loser." Of course, they are not losers on their point of view because they are with their friends.
Since moving is not an option, you need to consider how you're going to blend in with them. If you don't want to be lonely, you need to have friends. But you said you don't want to be friend with them. So you are leaving nothing for yourself. You have to let yourself breath. Otherwise, you will be lonely forever.
Making friends doesn't mean your friends need to have same opinion like yours. They may be different from you. You may like politics and philosophy and they are interested in fashion and music. If you want people to accept the way who you are, you have to do the same favor to others. Life sucks, especially high shool life. Everyone has bitter history about high school. But when you get older and you look back, you will be laughing about those. However, whatever you are encountering in high school is a lot less bitter than the real world that you are going to enter after high school. If you don't know how to deal with the people in your high school and if you can't learn how to accept the way they are, you will have harder time in the future because people are just who they are. You cannot change it. try to accept who they are and stand for your right. If you do fovor for them, they will return sooner or later. After all, all are human beings with some love and hate. Good luck.

Answer 8

I am so very sorry...well there is another option - independent study/homeschool. I do it. It is for very motivated kids who want to learn in an atmosphere condused for learning. I highly recommend it I have NO regrets. I left highschool because I wanted to try something new you might have to do it because of your schools immaturness. If that is not an option either then try joining a club at school...i can give you more ideas..email me or something...Im sure you will figure out something. In the meantime good luck!

<3 M.C. (FreshWOman..) =]

Answer 9

Its a great question, and one that will still be asked years and years from now. I thinking having a tough skin and being able to not let the others get to you is a big one. Always keep in the back of your mind that years from now, none of it will have mattered (As far as the social aspect of school) you will know what I am talking about 10 years from now.

Answer 10

Wow I think your school has a really bad atmosphere to it. Sadly how you present yourself will affect other people's judgements. But you can't let those judgements affect you. You have to fix all other emotional baggage to really deal with this. And really just flip those preppy people off. They've got no lives and they spend it hurting people. Everyone is capable of having a good relationship so don't think it won't happen to you. Broaden your network through the people you trust and you will make a friend don't worry.

Answer 11

That must be very hard to deal with. KNOW this.....high school doesn't last forever. Realize your own value and don't worry about what those jerks say. Have you told your parents how these students treat you? If you were my kid, I'd be really ticked if someone was treating you poorly. Life gets better after high school, I promise.