How can i get my boyfriend of 2 years attention???

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years now things are seeming to be old. I just dont feel sexy any more. I mean i look good not to boast i'm a brunette 105 pounds 5'5 whats not more to ask for i just feel like i basicly have to throw my self out there to get him to look at me. Every now and then he just randomly wants me at the wierdest times. But the thing is the sex isn't the thing. I'll find my self tierd as hell trying to do sexy things when i dont even want sex i just want that attention is that odd ?? like we are with each other alot!! But we just sit around play games,computer, tv, school, etc. (we live together by the way). When we were first together things were exciting and daring now things are just like ( USUALL) how can i put this excitement back. Im just scared i know pleanty of people who have lost good relationships due to boredom, how can i get him to be more romantic or is that possible with a guy?? hah (im the hopless romantic not him :[ )

Okay so this was not intended to make him sound like a bad boy friend he is a really good guy when he sees me he runs to me and picks me up and squeezes me i mean hes really sweet but when were sittting around the house i feel the need to get his attention im almost 100% sure the problem is not him. He's a good guy. If he was mistreating me i wouldn't be with him. ( im not dumb) Its just sometimes he can be perfect and sometimes he just doesn't get what the heck i am talking about EXAMPLE ( i saw a huge house and i was like "baby were going to have something like that some day when were rich right" And His response was " i cant see into the future) I mean his perfect chance to say something sweet but he didn't take it. AM I EXPECTING TOO MUCH??

I am romantic twords him. I run bubble baths with candles for him for god sakes. I feel that i am trying so hard and that he just isnt putting forth anything ..

IM POSITIVE HES FAITHFUL. we are with each other constantly if were not in school. I mean when im at work he's at home but i have the car...

To the guy at the bottom.. No he isn't a fat slob but i am doing all the work he sits at home while i bust my *** at work He rufuses to get a job. And yeah he does get it anytime he wants it.

Answer 1

I love questions with no references. How old are you both? Is he a fat slob that doesn't deserve you? I hear a lot about you and nothing about him. It seems like he gets it when he wants it. You live with him. It sounds like you are doing all the work, your future is set, how awful. Is this what you want to do the rest of your life?

I would "stop the sex" and make him work for it. Sleep somewhere else away from him. Why would you want to be with someone that didn't tell or show you how much they appreciate you? Don't make it easy for him. Tell him what you are doing and why? Either he will take the hint or he isn't smart and you don't deserve him. Do not fall for temper tantrums or arguments. Find out what kind of man you fell for. Tell he has to be creative and you are starting over - a redo.

You will be having to recondition him. You've done it his way, now have him do it your way. I assume you love him. I would tell him this but tell him you are bored with same old ... same old, everyday. I would be clear about what you really want. Make a list of all the things you want. Then have him make a list of what he would want out of your relationship. Men, if you let them will only think about what they want. He may assume you being bored as you wanting to experiment with your relationship (Ex. Swinging, polyamory, nudism, etc.) Who knows what he has dreamed up, so don't let him consider anything outlandish for to long. Involving others is the fastest way to end a relationship. Don't get yourself stuck in a relationship you don't want to be involved.

Ask him what happened to the guy you met in the beginning. These all just my suggestion, ultimately the choice is yours. I also think you have to re-evaluate yourself and your choices in the past. How did you let things get to where they are? What will you do to change things? Did you run out of things to talk about? Are your interests still the same? What common interests do you have now? Has marriage been talked about? How soon do you want to be married to this boring guy? Is marriage something you want to happen. Once you have kids with this person, it will be hard to get rid of them; even if you divorce you have to deal with him and whatever family he decides to start after you.

You don't have to follow this like a recipe. I've made key points and you know your relationship more than me. I would think it over and come up with your own approach to it. So you are the expert about what will or will not work.

Try and save what you can, good luck. When you have things back together how you want them. I think showers together is always fun, how often is up to you two.

Answer 2

Hey!
Cheer up! You are not the "hopeless romantic", you are trying so hard and that shows you are hopeful somewhere within and you do bring a lot of hope to your relationship. What you need to do right now is analyze what you have left. I mean things you guys use to do together before. I am sure earlier you were both busy and that's why wanted to do tonnes of things together because you wanted to explore each other but now that everything is explored, you guys are bored. Try to get out of this boredom by doing things that you enjoy together. If you really want to make it more exciting you can join different clubs or organizations like a
Dance group/classes, rock climbing and other things that also involve movement and other people. This will not only engage you to do something better but also bring a new charm to your relationship which will just not be about romanticism but also about sharing and being together.
Sometimes also try to take some break and don't push it too hard.
Best of luck!

Answer 3

Hi, for guys it is very diffivult to be romantic. I guess the best thing will be to talk to him and tell him how you feel about the situation. That's already the first step. I'm together with by girlfiend since 5 years now and we live together since half a year. We also have those situations where everything seems to be boring. Maybe you can find some hobby together like ice-skating (can be very romantic) or dancing (or whatever you like). Or even try to convince him for a romantic evening with a good dinner. I'm sure you are still sexy to him. I hope I could help you a little bit.

Answer 4

Maybe ur just trying to hard, and also when ur giving, dun expect anything in return, that way u won't feel so hurt. Since u said he loves u...why can u love him as he is? Don't try to change him or stressed yourself out for something u want, that might ruin a good relationship. Anyways, talk is always the solution, since both of u are so loving towards each other, why not discuss it and see what is the outcome. Since ur living together, it's not abt what I want anymore, it's what we want together to make this relationship exciting n long lasting. All the best girl! Don't worry Be happy!!

Answer 5

So why don't YOU act more romantic towards him? Men are NOT mind readers. Women expect them to always know what they want and always know what they're thinking, but the sad thing is that they can't. Why don't you make him a romantic dinner with candlelight, have him take a bubble bath with you, give him a massage, and maybe he'll get the hint that you just want some attention. Or simply TELL HIM. "Sweetie, I need attention. I don't want sex right now, I just want some affection." You'd be surprised how many guys are willing to give a girl the affection she needs when she'll take the time to ask for it.

P.S. and by your additional details, you still aren't TELLING him that you want attention. You just expect him to give it to you. Sometimes guys need a whap on the head with something like a pillow before they'll see the light.

Answer 6

Do you guys still date? I don't mean running to McDonald's to grab a burger. I mean dressing up and going out to dinner and a movie or whatever it was that you guys used to do before you lived together. A lot of times couples will decide that they see each other so much at home, they think they don't need to go out on dates anymore. However, that is not true at all. It is that special time together when you are not thinking about the cable bill or who is going to wash the dishes that helps bring a little of the importance back to the relationship. Ask him out on a date and see where that leads you.

Answer 7

My boyfriend is very romantic but he knew when we met that I wasn't particularly romantic. If he had wanted someone who was then we probably wouldn't have worked. After two years almost anything can get dull. Men tend to assume we know things after they have told us on a number of occasions. If you need to be appreciated more often I'd probably talk to him directly. As someone else said, we can't expect our partners to just know what we want. You're around each other an AWFUL lot too. Try doing things separately every now and then and you might find life more enjoyable in general.

Answer 8

Have you been trying so hard for so long that he is used to the sexy things you do? Try not showing as much skin around him for a while, don't take showers with him, wear a robe when you get out.... kinda starve him for a peak. Try not to "throw yourself out there" as much, make him come to you. I am not saying shut him down on the sex or never show him your naked body....just try to minimize it and see if it helps. The law of diminishing returns...haha. But it never hurts to try and spice things up by waking him up in the middle of the night by kissing him "down there," surprise him with his favorite dinner, take a long walk together, weekend getaway (even a cheap one), try some new things together.......

If nothing seems to work....maybe try to talk it out of him. See if he is feeling differently now. If he is annoyed by something or maybe he is just STRESSED about school!

Sometime you never know until you ask -- Good Luck

Answer 9

Normally guys like the "usual" aspect of the relationship. We try to get you and are happy when we do when the initial "shock" wears we just want to live and be with you. Its not that we don't find you sexy but there are times that sex just isn't on our minds (i know it sounds weird but it happens). Don't feel unwanted but instead try to incorporate things that he likes with sex or in more unusual places, theater, park, etc. Spontaneity is an extremely sexy aspect of a woman. I hope this helps in any small way and be well.

Answer 10

Well hate to be the bearer of bad news, but do you think he could possible be seeing someone else? Alot of times when men act like they do not want to be intimate especially when you have gone all out and been creative there's a sure sign he's been dabbling on the green side of the street... This may not be the case, but Honey I would flat out ask him.. When you put him on the spot it will catch him off guard !!