How can you stop hurting so very bad when losing someone very close to you?

Question

I have lost other people that were close to me in my life, but it never felt like this. I have been crying for 2 days straight. I can't explain to my family cuz they didn't understand how much he meant to me. I can't stop thinking about him & how much he helped me thro some bad times. My heart breaks over each time I think. I have tried many things to keep my mind off of thinking of him. I think that I would be able to handle it more if I knew that he was still around, but he isn't cuz he is now dead. I have never felt this alone very in my life. I don't know how to stop the feelings of lost, empty, alone. I don't want to hear that I should pray to God, he is the one that took my bestfriend from me. I am a God fearing lady, but I don't feel any comfort knowing my friend is in heaven. He wasn't ill or anything.

Answer 1

I'm sorry that you are going through this hard time right now. Please, never think that God would take away someone we love from us. We all eventually grow old and die, because of inherited sin from Adam, and Eve. There is also unforseen occurrences that may cause ones death, like accidents, or being in the wrong place at the wrong time, or sickness. Lastly, there is someone evil out there who wants us to blame God for the loss. This evil spirit causes people to have hatred in their hearts, and they may cause the death of another.
People never really know God because they misunderstand him.
He created us to feel happiness, to feel love, and to feel close to people. He did not create bad, for he is a Holy God.
God wants us to love others, but when something bad happens to them, he promises to never leave us alone. He will give us the needed comfort at the right time. It is okay to grieve for this person you loved. You are human. Prayer to God can really help, for he listens to us unlike others do.
God cannot turn back the clock, but in the Bible he promises that you will see your dead loved ones again. He will do this in the future. This maybe hard to think of right now, but knowing this will help to lessen the pain, and anguish soon enough.
Go ahead, and cry out all the tears you want, and think of the good times you had with your friend. Keep their memory alive inside of you. Just don't let this get you sick, or even into deep depression. Go out with other friends, and do fun things together. I'm sure your friend would want that. You are not alone, many people on a daily bases lose a loved one. Why not find others who are going through this, and talk to them? You could help eachother to move on. Go see a grievance counselor, or even a person you trust.

Please read John 5:28,29 , Acts 24:15, and Hebrews 2:15
All on the resurrection of humans in the future.

Answer 2

oh dear one, cry and cry till you are drained and tired, and then take one deep breath and walk into the light again. Life can be very empty without the ones we love, but hope that God and another person (whom He will replace for you) can fill that emptiness. Your emotions are all human emotions, and to deny yourself what you feel is to be inhuman. Accept your grief and surround yourself by people who love you. Why can't you tell your family about this loss? They will not let you carry this burden alone! It will take time but you will find joy eventually, and peace too. We will pray for you, and hope that God lifts you up in his comforting arms!

Answer 3

It is true for everyone. But I think life is not so small that only it can stop for a lady. U have to go in the long run and I can sympathy to u but what is the truth is that it is u than can cure it. My suggestion to u that to develop a relation with another person and share ur feelings because sometimes sharing can decrease our sadness. I do always believe that u can make this simple. So be happy and it will no longer remain after some days Thanks Mishuk

Answer 4

Sometimes you cannot stop it at all, the more you try the harder it becomes. This can happen through death or divorce or even a bad breakup. Over time you become numb to it, every now and then it will catch you off guard and bring you to your knees but you got to get up and wade through it when it does. What your going through now is normal but it will go numb after awhile, which isn't easy either.
-NmD!

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear about your friend. It really hurts to see anyone in that kind of pain especially when there is nothing that anyone here on earth can do for you. I am happy to tell you that GOD is the only one to help you. Please trust in him for he has closed one door and there will be another one open. I know you are not ready for this answer but this is something we will all do one day. If you plan to live after your friends death, please please get closer to GOD!

Answer 6

Hello i know true friend is gift of God. but you try to do some thing
else and and stop thinking . Make new people friend.
and spend over time busy .
take care

bye

Answer 7

You have to allow yourself to grieve. That is one of the stages of dealing with a loss. Try to be around people, maintain yourself occupied, maybe volunteer somewhere.

Answer 8

lt's a matter of time .thinking about him is very good,take it as good memories you had with him.he is in your heart ,but you have to keep going on with your life .lt's hard l know that,but be strong enough to be on your own and you will find another love in the future.

Answer 9

Crying will help.Cry out loudly and get away with all those pent up feelings. You will feel better.He will never come back.Accept this fact.Life can sometimes be cruel.

Answer 10

everything happens for a reason...
u dont and no one has the answer right now
but u will find out later

jst think that your bestfriend doesn't want u to feel this way...