was very depressed and even wanted to commit suicide,b/c he got a onenight stand pregnant bf we met.I helped him come to terms w/having a child only for him to leave me for the mom ayear later,we are 29.I was there for him when he hated her for having the child,he wanted to die,serious threats of suicide b/c he did not want a child with her.I found out he ended our relationship while I was in thehospital.Hewas cold and told me never to call him again.He told her he never loved me and wasnt attracted to me!Then he realized she was insane, complete trash, she lied to him about being molested,raped,now he is not with her.I forgave him as a friend,but then he stopped altogether with me.I got so angry and fed up I let him have it.I called & swore, yelled, cried, more then a few times.And he has the nerve to tell me he would report me for harassment?!Who does this?I called him and told himhe was complete dirtbag for everything hes done to me.We havent spoken since.Doyou think he regrets??
2007-01-29 17:35:07 · 6 answers · asked by maria s 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I cannot say this loudly enough---RUN. At 29 we should be able to handle our responsibilities like grown ups. If you don't want to have a child with a one night stand the best thing to do is to NOT have one night stands. If he was sure that she was having his child then what he was contemplating was beyond selfish as he would have left a child who never had the chance to meet him and might have been blamed for the death by those grieving around him. There is nothing wrong with forgiving but if you think it's possible to forget and just pick up the relationship then you need to make an appointment with me very quickly so we can discuss why his issues are more important than your feelings. I know you feel hurt and confused and want a reason for his behavior but more than likely he doesn't know why he's done the things he has and by the time he does you will have likely moved on. Spend some time taking care of you and remembering who you were before this and what lessons you have learned as a result. You might be able to be friends--a long time from now--but you are too close to the hurt and stress right now. Please take care of yourself.
2007-01-29 17:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE SOME CONTROL ISSUES... Why did you need to save his life? What was it inside of you that said that if I save him he will be there at my side forever. Then you pick some selfish guy who wants to have unprotected sex and gets pissed because he didnt pull out quick enough. What attracted you to this sort? How can a selfishly suicidal fool attract you?
You should regret it for thinking that this guy had any value from the get go. You picked a looser and you cant admit your taste for men is poor. This is like Jerry Springer, but at least he wasnt a crossdresser. If you dont understand this, seek out womens groups on relationships. If you are seeing this as a pattern in your relationships, then you need to look at yourself rather than projecting the blame on that immature man. He never grew up, and you are not far behind.
2007-01-29 18:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Krambala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him some room. He may feel like he's being manipulated and pulled around by too many women. You might be better off without him, but if you still like him, the best thing you can do is apologize for your outburst and then give him some time -- like a month or two and then give him a short call or note saying "HI" with no strings attached. No doubt he has regrets, but shouting and calling him names won't help anyone.
2007-01-29 17:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by emsjoflo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I sense that you like relationships with a lot of drama. You need to figure out why. This guy has his own issues, stay away from him. You need to forget him and move on. Don't get involved, don't stay involved, don't keep thinking about him. Find something healthier to do.
2007-01-29 19:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not waste your time on this pathetic loser or the dirtball trash he keeps as company. If he didn't want a kid, he should've kept his shlong in his pants! He needs to grow up and get lost!
2007-01-29 18:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Tiesto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Forget this loser and someone better will find you.
2007-01-29 17:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Husker41 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋