trial for divorce in court next week,how to handle allegations?

Question

had a bad marriage with a person who couldnt bear family responsibilities ,didnt work,wife beater,took a lot of money from me for the last 14years lack of emotional bonding, for the last year and a half no conjugal relations,.
for the last four years have an online friend,send sms as well, husband knows about it,next week i have my divorce case in court,
im shattered by the previous marriage,and i know there will b a lot of allegations,slander,self defence,how should i defend having ahd a friend,is this may spoil my case

Answer 1

My advise is to be as "real" as possible. Project to the court how that marraige made you feel, how it would make anyone feel! You felt alone, trapped, controlled, all the emotions you felt through the whole marriage, and I think you will be surprised at the reaction you get. Most people are compassionate and want to understand why things ended up the way they did, so they will listen to your heart, If you put it out there. Good luck, its a hard road, Ive been there!

Answer 2

I am not an attorney, but have worked on many Family Law cases as a legal asst., and have learned that a judge will usually have the least regard for the slanderer, not the slanderee. Almost every bad divorce ends with one partner saying horrible stuff about the other. Family Law is based in great part on emotions and Family Law judges can read between the lines. Be yourself. In my experience, if what your ex says isn't true, the judge is smart enough to see through it.

Answer 3

Your case is crystal clear and you are in safe jone b'cause having a frined is not an affence. First u see the allegations and go through point by point. Your question shows your knowledge in legal terms and hence you might be knowing the law.

stricly speaking u have to procure evidences regarding ur husbands harrasments. You may take protection under House harrasment acts also.

Don't worry if u say allegations in detail we can guide u further.

Answer 4

Mam i hope u are vexed with your husband, if possible u could have tried patiently to change ur husband, since now u have taken a decision to take a divorce, then go ahead. Because with that thinking in mind u cannot live with him, Since what ever he does whether good or bad seems bad only because u are in love with another person and who knows every thing about ur incidence. Going to court no one likes, but u should be bold to reply to the judge without hesitation, it is very hard to say no since u have been with him past 14 years as u said. Howmuch ever u say no in that movement in court u cant say no because of our weakness. But u should be bold, and be prepared to what ever they say. If u are able to be success then u can continue with the so called friend happily, but u should also prepare him that after taking divorce he will take responsiblity of you to look after whole life by marrying you.

Answer 5

You are seeking divorce on the ground of cruelty but having no conjugal relationship with him for last one & half years. You got friends made online & through sms after leaving your husband. So this troubling you. O.K. What should you do now? Just deny all such allegations. When his lawyers puts this question were you ever doing online chatting say no never. Did you make any online friends say no never. Did you sent sms to any other male from your cell phone say no never. Did any one send you any sms say no never. Where you making friends outside marriage with any male say no never. But you were seen doing so by your husband say he is telling lie to defame me. Your husband has proof to show that you had been chanting online & sending sms to other males what you have to say, say I don’t know what he has but nothing concerns me as I have told that I don’t indulge in any of these activities whether online chatting or making friends or sms etc. You just have to deny each & every question put to you JUST SAY NO NO NEVER NEVER even if they show you any of your online messages or sms just say they are all wrong, fabricated by your husband just to defame you. If you follow this line of action your case becomes strong & your husband’s case weakens as he won’t be able to prove all these allegations in this civil suit of divorce. Rest you can always write to me directly for any more guidance. I am lawyer with 24 years experience.

Answer 6

I think you having a friend especially if its a male friend wouldn't really matter. The courts don't look at who or how many you sleep with, they want to know now days if there is any abuse, by either party, and children involved. Which after 14 yrs. You probably do. Just be yourself, and what ever you do, don't be defensive, it shows signs of guilt. No divorce is sweet. Hang in there, you will be ok.. :)

Answer 7

u have very good point to say.. when yr husband beets you , there has to be someone who supports you and so u had a friend. and why not say it boldly that since i am not happy with this marriage i want to get out of it and hold hands with some one else.. thats it.. say the truth and be bold.

Answer 8

Pray my freind Pray! Ask the Lord to go before you & to give you Wisdom as to what to say. Prayer is very powerful. There is a pastor that can help you & guide you. Here is the site www.doersoftheword.org
Or you can go to a Christian church close to your home and talk with the pastor there.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Do what you lawyer says. Oops don't have one. Dose he? If you don't, get one especially if he has one. It may delay but it will be worth it.