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do both do something different with your own kids like going to the movies and ect? Or should you do things all together has a new family?

2007-01-29 17:07:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

15 answers

together!

2007-01-29 17:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

We do both. My kids are all 5 years apart though, so their interests are different. However, if it fits with my husband and my son from my previous marriage, my new husband will go with him. If it fits for all of us, we all go. If it fits for me to be with my teenage daughter alone, my new husband will watch the other kids. It depends on the situation, but you should definitely be doing something alltogether occasionally, even if just at home and playing Candyland or watching a family movie. The other stuff depends on the kids ages, gender and what exactly they are doing and whom they would prefer to be there with them. All families are different and none are perfect! I even babysit my ex-husband's daughter who is the same age as my youngest! They also come to her birthday parties and vise versa. Just depends on what your family needs, how far you are willing to go, and what your perception of family is. You can ALL work it out!!!!

2007-01-30 01:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 0 0

Depends on lots of things. Do the kids get along? I mean, do they really get along as in can spend enjoyable time by themselves without having mom or dad try to structure it. If they get along, take them together. If they don't get along, or only tolerate each other because they want to please mom or dad, consider separate entertainment. I had two, my new wife had two and the four merely tolerated each other. I saw my kids separately for years. Now they're all adults and really don't have anything to do with each other. But I know of families where everything worked fine. So, play it by ear and good luck. I know this can be tough.

2007-01-30 01:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0 0

i wouldnt pretend the past never happened. The past marrage shouldnt have been that bad that i would want to forget it but i would still want to make new memories.

So i wouldnt change everythinh and do everything as a new family. I would do stuff just w/ the kids and some stuff with everyone as a new family.

2007-01-30 01:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Love. 6 · 1 0

Its good to have alone time with just your kids on occasion and then spend the other time together as a family.

2007-01-30 01:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1 0

Both. I always tried to spend time alone with my son as well as time with my step-kids. I tried to spend time with both. I have to admit, however, that a lot of times I wanted to be with my own child much more. That's just life.

2007-01-30 01:20:21 · answer #6 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0 0

You can make time to do both family and one on one times. Its healthy for a family to have their own wants and needs.. Like mom day, or dad day, or mom - daughter day, dad-son day.. Its nice to just all be happy and have fun together or apart..

2007-01-30 01:13:29 · answer #7 · answered by Hi 3 · 1 0

I think going all together would be fun if everyone likes each other's company. Besides it's a good way to spend time. Ask everyone what they want to do and see if you can find a middle ground so all can enjoy!

2007-01-30 01:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by SnowLeo 1 · 1 0

You should do things together as a family.

2007-01-30 03:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0 0

I grew up in a situation like this; my father married some chick who had two children, and there were four of us. They moved into our home, and took over it completely. Why? Because my father was always working, so she had complete control over everything, as well as consistent quality time with her children (for she did not work). Our dad was more concerned about his relationship with her than he was about raising us, so, her kids reaped the benefits of his hard work (their mother bought them new clothes, shoes, toys, etc., with his money!!!), while we just had to deal with it. Needless to say, we have little to nothing to do with our father, being that he chose booty over his own blood...
Moral of the story is to concentrate on your children; and make sure that he/she concentrates on theirs... and, if possible, try to make a special individual bond with your spouses children----trust me, it will go a long way when it comes to your marriage as well as the children's adjustment.

2007-01-30 01:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by B F 1 · 0 0

I would try to do things as one family. But it is always nice to have a girls day out with your daughters or do some activity with just your boys. But I wouldn't seperate the two familes.

2007-01-30 01:14:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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