Trouble with being sexual with him?

Question

I was so hurt to find out my boyfriend used porn.. He says he does'nt anymore but he does not seem to have any sexual desire for me.

I am frustrated, doubtful, shy to be naked because he does'nt look at me anymore like he used to. I feel it is not me that he wants, but a young, new, and "not hurt" woman. I feel that he thinks I am beautiful, but intellectually. Like.. She is very beautiful.. but I love porn !!!

I have talked to him about it and he tells me that there is always a tension, that he cannot "always" look at me. (I do want so much of his attention because I know es given it to lots of women), and he does'nt feel like having sex with all that tension.

I am so hurt.. and I don't know how to be sexy anymore, or initiate sex. If I do get sexy for him, I am sure he will be receptive (maybe because of his guilt feeling)..

Is it possible for a man to lose his desire.. and have it again..Or is it like when love dies, it's over ? Any ideas how I can get my confidence back?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to say that once he has lost that feeling it will not come back. It never did with me. His love for U has died. I suggest U break up with him & find someone else. It's not U it's him. I'm sure U will find someone that loves U & wants to be with U & only U. I'm sure Ur a fine young lady & U will find Mr. Right. Hope this helps u or at least gave U something 2 think about. Wishin U the best.