They were having a relationship for nearly one year. You told him to dump her because you two have a young child together. But even after he "dumped" her, he seems to be very obsessed with her, wants to talk to her, etc.
This is happening to my friend right now... what would you do in that situation?!
2007-01-29 17:01:25 · 25 answers · asked by purringout 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friend was with this man for around 7 years by the way...
2007-01-29 17:42:06 · update #1
I would move on and find someone who is willing to love me the way that I want to be loved. Just because this woman has a child by this man does not mean she needs to put up with him loving another woman. We cannot change a man they have to change on thier own. Life is to short to be wasting it with someone who would rather be with someone else. There are so many fish in the sea you just need to make sure you have just the right bait to catch the right fish. I hope she doesn't waste anymore precious time on this man who is still having an emotional affair.
2007-01-29 17:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because two people have a child together does not guarantee a healthy relationship. As a matter of fact, if the child is the only thing holding the relationship together, the two should break up, because it nearly always leads to a bad childhood and harder teenage years for the child. If the man is truly "obsessed", he likely harbors strong feelings for the woman. Better that he find his true feelings than to always be yearning for someone outside the relationship.
2007-01-30 01:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by William M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience to be wary of becoming too closely involved in the relationships of others, even close friends. Advice and comments offered in good faith have a nasty habit of coming back to bite you if circumstances change. For example, you advise her to leave him and then they get back together. Both could say it was all your fault trying to break them up telling her to leave him. It's why police hate domestic violence calls, they end up being the ones attacked. Offer support and listen but don't critise the husband too much. She will work out her own feelings eventually, offer friendship and moral support.
2007-01-30 01:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could your friend live with someone who doesn't love her, but he loves another woman?
I would tell your friend to seek counseling or maybe get these books to read called, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage".
They just need to focus on raising their child rather then playing games.
2007-01-30 01:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be with a man who is in love with another woman, even if we did have a child together. The man I choose to have in my life has to choose me to be in his life too. She can't force him to stop having feelings for the other woman and to focus his feelings towards her and it's unfair of her to demand it or use the kid to put a guilt trip on him. He's probably just going to resent her if he doesn't already, to say the very least.
2007-01-30 01:20:07 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight up ask him. Tell him how you feel. If he says he is in love with another woman then he needs to get his bags and pack... dont subject a young child to that kind of arrangement make sure that whatever they do is for the childs benfits and theres...
2007-01-30 01:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by morena0kizzez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a new man. he not ready to be in this on. but]
the fact that you told him to dump her, was the mistake that you
made, if really want to be with you then he would have made
that choice not you. and now he regret this and that why he
still has feeling for her.. time to let go and move on, you
and your child deserve love and respect of the man that will
cherish you and only you. he out there, trust me, let him go
he does not want to be there. and that the worst feeling to]
be with someone that really doesnot want to be with you.
2007-01-30 01:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a tricky situation.. did he break up w/ her n then u guys got together?? if so then maybe talk to a counoler. if not maybe (and this may hurt) he truely loves her. im sorry but i have been there kinda. but not with a child. if u guys rnt in love n quarrel even when u think the child doent notice it, they do. so do whats best for the child
2007-01-30 01:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by karimah_aziza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to say.What one might do?When faced with this situation.It would be easy for me to say to leave him because I am not in love with him.I do not have a family with him.What I would do?Is I would talk to him about it.I would tell him the way it makes me feel.When he had a relationship with this woman for nearly a year.A relationship he ended.Now he is talking to her acting like he is obsessed with her.I would tell him.It makes me feel like you are in love with her.I just want to know.If you are or not?If he tells your friend no.He is not in love with this other woman.I would ask him to break off all communications with her.I would be prepared to leave him.If he choose not too.What I would do?Is give him a chance to explain the way things are between us.I would give him a chance to explain.Why he is obsessed with this woman..remaining in contact with this woman..??I would base my decision to leave him or stay with him on the answers he choose to give.That is.What I would do?
2007-01-30 02:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend needs to move on and ship him out.
Life is too short to be chasing after someone that wants someone else.
Oblivously they aren't meant to be and she is wasting her time. She could be missing out on someone great just by wasting her time with someone that isn't in love with her.
Tell her to have some self-respect and give him the boot because he isn't showing her the love and respect she deserves.
2007-01-30 03:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋