You know through life, worry is something that you can't control...all your life you worry, whether it be school, job, kids ect...the only way I found to not worry, and this may sound weird, is to look at the worst senerio...of what is causing you to worry...worry is a good thing, but, if it's something you constantly do, seek medical help... but if it is not an always thing....you will drive yourself crazy....for me: example, I used to worry if and when I was going to pay the power, rent/mortgage, ect...and one day i just gave up and didn't worry about it, because, things happen for a reason....and to worry is natural...I still to this day worry what is going on with my kids in college...but, if I let it control my life, then I would be a basket case...worry is good, as all the emotions we feel, as long as it is not something really bad, like me,or controlling your life... I've had to worry about where my kids were going to eat next, worry, I can't pay the power bill, ect.. but, finally I gave up the thought of worrying, because things happen, good and bad, and you just have to stop worrying about what is going to happen, what if I had done this or that, don't dwell on worry...focus on the positive of anything, anyone...worry is just an emotion like all the other's and you just have to keep it in perspective....but, to me, if you want to overcome worry and can't like I used too, having two kids raising them on my on, they are in college now, and though I still worry more now about them, I know, if I keep it up..it's harmful to your mental status...just find things to take your mind off of it...and if you have good reasons,...just think positive things...all good things come from a positive thought, not a negative...so quit worrying...things are going to happen in our lives we have no control over...money, men, women, work, friends, ect...you have to look out for yourself....and worrying is not going to solve anything...take it from someone who used to worry, and still have a friend who worries if she doesn't have 20 dollars a day to spend, which I've never had....just make the most out of your life, go for what you believe, have friends/family and talk with them...if it becomes extreme seek professional help...but, for me, I just had to make up my mind, I don't have to worry...being my kids which are girls out there in college, and a rapest is on the lose...to feeling worried I'm being myself, with other's...it all comes down to you and what the problem is your are worried about...and please, don't get on meds if you don't have too, they put me on med's which I'm happy and proud to say, I weaned off of them...and believe me, if you go to a doc and they put you on meds, it's much harder and far worse to worry about, especially if you really could have just talked it out...so quit worrrying...take it from someone who has been through so much, I'm a Life Time movie in it's self....but, when I stopped worrying about money, or a man in my life, which I got divorced 16 something years ago, and have twins in college, and their dad never paid...I've also had to worry about being in a coma over two months, wakening finding only to a hard road of therapy to speak, eat, drink, ect..simple things...after the wreck I learned, God does give you what you can take, and doesn't give you more than you can handle, and also, he provides, and you might not even realize it...and though I grew up in the church/dad a minister/teacher...it wasn't till I had kids, had to get on disability, and couldn't survive, but, somehow did with two children by myself...and now, they are in college, shooting for med school and though I'm alone, the years, I worried so much about where we were going to eat, ect..when I stopped the worrying, things fell into place..hope the best for you..and quit worrying...the world won't stop, and all falls into place...and believe me, I've lived through some of these horror flicks that you think arn't real, rape, abuse, money, and far worse not believing in myself, it happens to normal people...so believe, get active, with the right people, and enjoy life..it's really to short...within a blink of the eye, your life can change and according to what age you are, the older you get, the less you worry...I'm 43, and been through the ringer for various things...but, never gave up...and finally started giving up worry, because it doesn't help...don't worry hope, pray if you are religious, just cope with what's making you worry, but worrying never solves the real thing.......hope this gave you a little insight...good luck, and please just let life take it's course, things happen, good and bad, everyone goes through it...even the rich and famous...thanks for letting me get it out in the open, that I used to be a worry wart...but, now, let life take me where it will, because, it's going to take it where it wants you, and it may not even be where you want it, but, if you really want something you do it...and if life doesn't take you to the place you want...at any age, you can change that....good luck..
2007-01-29 18:14:15
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