My husband cheated me after neraly 15 years of happly married life. After his lover decided to go with her husband, he felt broken heart. We two decided to live seperately from the next April because of our special case, it means that we still live together in our house until next April. Since we agreed that we are friends, our relationship now is happy. Despite I decide to live seperately with him, I still like him. But now his lover usually call him to meet and consult her with her family problems. They usually meet together and I know that it is his privacy, but I am hurted very much. Am I still love him? What should I do? I have to live with him until next April, what should I do? I also want my family in happy asmostphere and I know he want it too, but just for friends. I don't know what to do? Please help me. Thank you very much for your help.
2007-01-29 16:50:42 · 17 answers · asked by MIB 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
kick the pig out ASAP
2007-01-29 16:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Brown guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you have to realize it that you can be more alone together than you would be alone. You have to figure out if you would be better off IN THE LONG RUN without him. People do not like to think about money at a time like this, and if you separate the household at this time and you have no education or job prospects, the immediate future for you could be bleak indeed. See a lawyer if you can. And how browbeat are you anyway "I KNOW THAT IS HIS PRIVACY"???????? What about respect for you and your family and what he is putting you through????? What makes you think that APRIL will change anything??? If you cannot afford to separate now, how will APRIL make any thing different??? If you want to keep him, you will just have to wait it out. Do not forget about the diseases that are out there that he might be bringing home to you. Do not have sex with him without protection,
2007-01-30 01:21:42 · answer #2 · answered by granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
11 years here and cheated on Wow I look up to you I could not do it girl.I would want him back (dumbing me I'm still here lol) I beleive you can forgive but you can not forget and therefore I am still in this marriage. I would get her *** in trouble with her old man by calling some how .What do you have to lose.We both know they are meeting for sex.Get her *** out of the picture and work on this realationship. If there is still great communacation between you there is hope. Most men leave to fill out fantasies with other women.They think sex is 1 in a realtionship (we dont of course) Let your hair down girl we can be the one they fantasies about.Ive done it.Its been 2 years. If you want him get him back but just remember we never forget so you will never be apply to trust him fully again.Good luck I wish you the best . I hate it when women know there's children and a wife They dont have a real heart.email if ya need to.
2007-01-30 01:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by bluemoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You or he should go live somewhere else. Special case or not, why would you put yourself through this? There are no cicumstances "that special" to make you stay. Go live with a friend, relative or hotel. Oh, and yes...phone the husband of your husband's lover and tell him that they are STILL meeting, STILL seeing each other and most likely STILL involved. I am sure her husband does not know she is STILL having an affair. Do it!
2007-01-30 02:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by cj.blue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband obviously still loves this woman so you have to accept that. There is every chance she will come back to him again. It will be difficult but you should try to focus on you and your family and start doing things for yourself that will help you when he eventually leaves. And I am sorry to say he will go so you need to be strong and make a new life for yourself. You sound as if you have a good heart and many men want a woman like that.
2007-01-30 01:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start with time will heal all wounds your broken heart will take a while especially if the two of you are living in the same house i would say get a place as soon as you can an move on there is someone out there for everyone and you definitly do not need someone who cannot be faithful to you try finding someone new to occupy a little of your time good luck
2007-01-30 00:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by lovewhereilive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find HER husband and get to know him and speak to him about your problem. You are too good a person to go through this hell. He is not even being your friend running off to console her. He is using you in a very bad way. Next time he leaves invite her husband over to help you put new locks on your doors.
2007-01-30 01:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Wow! There are alot of good answers out there dear. But you have to go with what you feel is right for you.. Now me, if my husband did that, it would be over right then, but that's me. Maybe you are more forgiving than I would be in your situation. If you feel betrayed, you have a right to be. He might as well pulled your heart out of your chest and beat it with a hammer. I know the pain, been there and experienced it. Its no fun. All I can say is if you want to try and work things out that is your decision. however; just remember he wants you back, cause she went back to her husband. as the OLE saying goes"if you can't have the one you love, then love the one your with". I would not put myself in that situation, I wouldn't allow it.. Good Luck dear! :)
2007-01-30 01:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to resume the marriage relationship, you need to tell him that's what you want-providing that he gives up this "other" woman. Or, you could divorce and remain friends. If the two of you argue a lot, the family might be better off with two friends as opposed to two enemies as parents.
2007-01-30 01:02:18 · answer #9 · answered by meteor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to live together in that house if you're friends? You're still married! One of you should move out and maybe the two of you could work things out then.
2007-01-30 00:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still meets with her he still loves her. If he wont give her up for you and your family LEAVE HIM COMPLETELY regardless of how much you may still be in love with him. It may hurt a lot but the only way to stop it is to cut him out. Don't cut him out of you children's lives though unless he is a horrible father.
2007-01-30 01:05:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋