Are a lot of men being RAILROADED ??

Question

Why does it seem that nearly 75 % of men in this society are being dragged through the mud by an ex wife? No, im not divorced, but I do see too many examples of men giving their wives everything including kids, then WHAMMMMO, it's over. Child support, fights, kids in the middle of it all, families butting in, a total NIGHTMARE !
And it seems that the men pay for the rest of their lives, what a friggin scam. The laws need to be changed, and NOW !

Answer 1

Yes, men are being railroaded! I pay child support, and my ex treats it like her own personal income for herself and her ex-con boyfriend! Hardly any of it is actually spent of my kids. The laws do need to be changed!

Answer 2

The same reason a lot of women are SHIPWRECKED!

People who cannot get along prior to having kids are not going to get along after having them. If the kids have equal living conditions at BOTH houses then there is no argument. If the kids live at one house more than the other - someone needs to support. Period. Historically, the men don't step up to either (child support or taking the kids equally). Yes, you are right the laws do need to be changed. EPA all the way.

Answer 3

I think you, personally, talk to more men to whom this is happening. Men are getting more of a fair shake by the family court system than they ever did, regarding custody and support. Divorce hurts everyone, and quite a lot. Nothing will exempt men from this, nor women either (the children could be helped a little if their parents would stop fighting, but often they don't know how). Unfortunately, some people feel that the best defense is a good offense, but I think these may be fairly evenly split gender-wise (either that, or sometimes the second wife of an easygoing man decides they deserve more and turns the heat up, but I guess that would make a woman the problem again).

Anyway, clearly we move in different circles. I won't denigrate yours, if you won't attack mine.

Answer 4

I'm a married woman so I may not have the authority to answer this question, but I don't think it's very fair to assume it's only the MEN who are made to suffer after a divorce. How can you think it would be any easier on the woman? Sure, you may be putting forth child support, but she is also contributing to the welfare of the children you created together. Do you really think that the amount of money you are being "railroaded" for covers everything your children need? Of course not. She now has her own household expenses to consider... rent, utilities, food, clothing, vehicle to drive kids all over... so, you don't think she deserves help in providing the best she can for those kids? I think it's truly sad that men think they are being taken full advanatage of when in reality, they are required to contribute the MINIMUM amount, a mere fraction of the cost it takes to raise a child or children. I think you are forgetting that they are the ones who are important here.

Answer 5

everything is 50-50. Usually if they are fighting regarding custody, it is both the man and the woman's fault. Alimony is almost a thing of the past. Men are usually paying child support until the child is 18 or graduates from HS. Fathers are supposed to support their child. Children are expensive.

Answer 6

My ex wife tried to drag me through the mud, but it didn't work. She literally tore my 2 y/o daughter out of my hands, said, "I'm going to F**K you over, and you're never going to see her again". I looked at her and said, "Fight's on". She tried to drag me through TWO psychological evaluations to prove that I was an unfit father. Both proved that my relationship with my daughter is healthy and loving, and the courts denied her request to be given full custody. Since I waited to go back to school so she could finish, she makes more money than me. Legally, she was supposed to pay ME alimony, but I told the judge that I wanted nothing from her but her absence (BTW I filed for divorce from her, not theother way around).

Years later, my 7 y/o daughter and I are going strong, I'm remarried with another baby on the way, and my ex is still trying to convince everyone that I'm a demon from hell. It's still not working either.

Answer 7

First of all the only reason a guy gives a girl the time of day is because he wants to get into her panties. The only reason a girl lets a guy into her panties is to feel loved and to have a baby. Put two and two together and you get garbage. Now days most men expect the woman to take care of the kids and have a full time job. No wonder when he stop paying attention to her (either because he is a workaholic, or his sexual drive has taken a dive) she sees that she can do without him. Most marriages have just enough money to get buy or a little extra. Split all of that in two and you have half of not much. That is why it feels like he is paying for it for the rest of his life. The truth is a greater % of divorced women live in poverty than divorced men.

Answer 8

Yes they are I'm one of them. I don't mind paying childsupport $325 per week 2 kids who I love to death- but why should my ex wife quit a $18 hr job and go to work at K-mart? Now they want more support. she already drives a better, newer nicer vehicle than I do and lives like a queen on my dime!!!

Answer 9

Because it's the American way. Since divorce is legal, it provides an incentive to reap benefits when you're tired and don't feel like sticking it out.

Answer 10

mate you have a real problem. Get help soon.
You need to loosen up. If you feel this way then you had better give your wife some room to breath.