i know that marriage is supposed to have ups and downs , most people know how to handle the ups - but not downs. How do you and your spouse get through the rough patches?
2007-01-29 16:18:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have had our ups and downs, and we get through them with open communication, honesty and respect for one another. Marriage takes 2, and we approach our marriage as a team effort. Always settle the dispute, talk to each other with dignity and respect. Never say things just to hurt the other person.
2007-01-29 16:23:21 · answer #1 · answered by Bridgette B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you consider a LONG time, but I have been married for 11yrs. We have had our ups and downs, it's inevitable when you're with someone for any period of time. The important part of getting through the rough patches is having a commitment to your vows. There are way too many people that find divorce so easy now. You don't like the way he leaves the "seat" up..divorce. He doesn't like the way you cook..divorce. And so on. You have to be willing to compromise, listen, communicate. Remember what attracted you to that person to begin with. If you have a toxic relationship, by all means, leave. But if you're just going through a rough time, work it out. It's worth it in the long run.
2007-01-30 00:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Michele A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication. I hate the rough patches, we don't have a lot but when we have a rough patch it is usly a doozy. Normally if it gets so hard I go to the beach sit there a while calm down and then go back home and talk to my hubby, If I am calm then 9 out of 10 ten times he will listen to what I am saying. Then we compromise and move on. It's tough but you know what it's worth it I love him so much. 11 years married
2007-01-30 01:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We get through our rough times with prayer and help from God and working together through it with communication and spending time together... We talk alot and we spend alot of time together.... Marriage takes two and it works great if both work on it together as a unified front and not divided... Great question by the way I love it!
2007-01-30 00:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
47 years married here....is that long enough? lol.....The first 30 years he was controlling and mentally abusive. All I can say is I loved him ..didn't like him but I loved him. Finally, he was put on medication to help control his rages and we have found peace. Its been hard to forget & forgive a lot of personal things he said and did but he never raised his hand to me. Its just that during that time he needed me to be the one to give the 90%....now he is giving me back love.....
2007-01-30 08:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, we both keep jobs, we're too damned poor to afford lawyers, and we're both too tired after work to pursue something silly like a divorce. Plus, I figure if I managed to run her off I'd just go find someone meaner and uglier (most folks do, somehow). Also, I picture my behavior toward my wife to reflect how I can expect Jesus to relate to me. That keeps me kind of humble. For her part, she just loves me, I guess. She kicks my butt when I need it, though.
2007-01-30 02:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by rumplesnitz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. A family that prays together, stays together. My parents have been married almost 50 years. So far, my husband and I are going on 11 wonderful years. What a rollercoaster it has been!!
2007-01-30 00:23:30 · answer #7 · answered by teashy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married 20 years. Believe me we have had some bad times. Nobody is perfect. I'm not, and she is not. We each know our strengths and weaknesses and help each other in our weak areas. We have totally put our faith in God and look to Him to help our relationship.
Just be patient and realize people can change. You cannot change them anyway you try, they have to want to change and at least meet you half way.
2007-01-30 00:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself that both you and your spouse have the same goals in life, and that since the both of you take those goals seriously, friction is bound to happen.
2007-01-30 00:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with it, try not to be verbally or emotionally abuse and argue it out. It works, remember there are many things you will never agree on, sometimes you and or he has to just give in, or agree to disagree.
2007-01-30 00:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋