need some good advice about my newborn .......please help?

Question

Ok this is a tough one for me and i need a good answer.. I just had a new baby girl she is 1 month old, I changed her from milk formula to soy cause i couldnt fig out why she was crying so much (with my drs permission) i was really thinkin it was colic cause it usually starts in the evening and lasts 4 hrs with nothing calming her down .. but in the daytime hrs she crys all day and she Will calm down if she is held 24/7 .. i just cant do it cause i have a 2 year old that needs my attention just as well.... what i need to know is.. is it ok to let a 1 month old cry a little instead of having her in my arms all day and not being able to give my other child the attention he needs .. if u can let her cry how long in both situations- the colic at night and the needy baby in the day..please please help!

Answer 1

There is no answer for this except as long as you feel comfortable. Its best not to let a baby that young cry too long, but in special cases... well you do need your sanity!! Put her somehwere safe like in her crib and have a coffee - she won't die from crying for a while. You need to look after yourself, too - for her sake.

Talk to your doc - there may be some meds that can calm her down. But she will grow out of it, eventually.

Answer 2

Your baby is too young to "cry it out" if you go to Dr. Sears' web site it will explain why. I doubt it has anything to do with the formula all though have you not considered breastfeeding? It isn't very common for a baby to get colic this young. Does she cry at night because she is in a seperate room? You may want to consider co-sleeping... They have little cots with re-enforced sides that will fit between you and your partner and you can;t roll over on the baby. I'd also recomend getting a sling.... any kind that is comfortable will do. Babies at this age just need closeness and security, some more then others and some just go through phases.
Have you tried chairs/swings with gentle motions? Maybe even a Bouncee chair with vibrations? I don;t suggest keeping her in the chairs or swings too much in the day as babies can develop neck problems from underdevelopment.
I would try the sling and co-sleeping and doing other natural mothering techniques before I would consider switching formulas or medicating your baby..

Answer 3

At one month, some babies just need more security than others. It may not be anything wrong except she needs to be close to you. Ask your doctor if it will be ok to give her some simethicone (gas drops - available at any drug store or discount store). Mine didn't get quite as bad as you described, but he would get irritable and fussy and our doctor had told us about the drops. They actually made him sleepy. Within a few minutes of giving him those he would settle down and go to sleep. If she is having gas pains it will hurt like crazy. If you can, try to enlist the help of your two year old to entertain the baby. Have him make funny faces and softly coo while the baby is laying in a crib or on a quilt on the floor. If he can be careful, you might let them lie together for a few minutes. This will give your son an "important big brother job" to do, and it might make the baby still feel secure that someone is close. Another thing to try is a vibrating bouncer seat. I used one of these to entertain my son so I could get a shower or do household chores. It is helpful if it has an activity bar with some toys on it.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You can let your baby cry for 15 or 20 minutes no problem, as lond as you check in on them and make sure it's not because of something like a dirty diaper or being hungry (basic needs) other than that if you need to do the dishes or feed your 2 year old lunch there is nothing wrong with letting the baby cry for a little bit.

And espically if you begin to feel frustrated the best thing to do is put the baby down in her crib and go in the other room to relax for a few minutes. The baby can tell if you are tense and that can make her even more upset.

Answer 6

There is no harm in letting a baby cry for some time, if they are doing it becuase of wanting attention. Slings are very handy if you don't want to put her down and leave her, you can still have your hands free for you little boy. Also I see someone wrote to put your baby on the side, I've been told my every medical person I've come in contact with since being pregnant, that it is very risky and SIDS kids does not reccommend you do it for the safety for your baby. A midwife even told me, if you just need a break and your baby wont stop crying, turn on the vacuum cleaner and sit down relax and compose yourself, for your own sanity.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

i have a 3 1/2 mo old and all i can tell you is it will stop about 3 mo also it may be gas my Dr changed my son also to a formula for colic and fussiness and he does great its enfamil gentleases also go to the health food store and get some gripe water its like$12 a bottle but it releases all the gas and you give like 1/2 tsp a few times a day and you and baby will be OK. if that don't work get one of those back pack type pouches for her that way she is being held and your arms are FREE!!!! they're great .... you may look funny but it keeps you sane

Answer 9

colic is not only a nightime thing. my daughter cried continously. she once went 15 hours straight with nothing calming her down. gripe water was my lifesaver, you can find it at some pharmacies and health stores. yes she can cry as long as she's in a safe place but i wouldn't let a child of this age cry for no more than 10 mins. have you tried a sling or front carrier, this way you are holding her and still have both hands free for your 2 year old?

Answer 10

You should not let your newborn cry. She is in pain! Have you tried putting her down on her side sandwiched between two stuffed toys or small pillows? I had to do this with my son, because his colic was so bad that he spent days and nights just crying. The Dr. said "its normal". It is not normal at all.

My mom because I was holding him 24/7 created a "bed" on a rocking recliner, a place where I could see him and get rest too. The motion of the chair soothed his tummy enough for him to start sleeping a couple of hours a day.

Maybe you should get a swing that leans back a little and place your daughter in it, keep it moving. At least for a little while during the day so you can rest too.

Good Luck!