Hi i'm 16 years old and im going to have a baby.. But my boyfriend in jail and he mite be in there for 5 mouths so im all alone ..i'm thinkg about aborstion..or should i keep the baby?..i reallie dont know but he wants the baby me i do 2 ..but my family says finsh school..and they say his a bad boy..what would u do?
2007-01-29 16:10:19 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Please look into adoption... This is YOUR Choice... but there are agencies out there who will pay all medical costs for you if you give the child up for adoption... also I believe that giving up a child for adoption is the most selfless thing a person can do. There are so many great parents out there waiting to adopt...
2007-01-30 00:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by brookeems 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the baby (not it's fault that you done this). Find a way to finish school while raising the baby....... It's the only way.
Sounds like u should get rid of the bf in jail, later on in life when u become an adult there are plenty of men that will accept you and your baby. Until then, you are going to have to grow up FAST. Yes you will miss out on alot of "teen" stuff but you may have to get a part time job (to pay for a baby sitter) and finish school.
2007-01-29 18:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hilllbilly_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I did was to have the baby and place it for adoption. At 16, you are not ready, in any way, to have a baby. And if you are even considering keeping the baby, you will probably be very depressed if you have an abortion. Placing the child for adoption will allow you to give the baby what most parents want for their children - a good home with parents who are ready for a child and want it desperately. It will be hard, but you will be living with the fact that you gave your child a family, which is the greatest gift you can give a child.
2007-01-29 16:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't beleive in abortion AT ALL. I think it is so cruel. I am 17 and I am having a baby in a couple weeks. I made it through school fine, I finished and graduated while I was pregnant. You do need to finish school, because if you don't it will make things a lot harder. But it is possible to finish school while having a baby. There are also other options to think about. You can talk to your principle or counselor at school and they will give you every option of finishing school, and they will help you out in anyway that they can. You can stop going to school for a while so you can have the baby, and then you can go back. There are many options, and I don't beleive that abortion is one. You can get through it, I promise. I did.
2007-01-29 17:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by kasey06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have an abortion. It affects you mentally for the rest of your life. The guilt . . . the "what if's" . . . . so take care of yourself, go to school and have the baby. Look in the yellow pages and see if you can find a Crisis Pregnancy Center located in your general area. They are there to help counsel people in situations like yours. It would be difficult to raise a child under the circumstances you face, and since your BF is in jail, that isn't a good influence for a child either. Consider adoption. That is an ultimate act of love - - - to allow your child to be loved and provided for by a couple who cannot have children of their own.
If you decide to keep the baby and raise it on your own, remember you will have to have the support of your family. Because in order to give the child a chance in life, you must go to school and maybe even some community college to be able to make enough money to be on your own. I wouldn't depend on the jail bird boyfriend to help with child support. You will be totally responsible for that young life, to guide him by example. So that means no "sowing wild oats" after you take on the responsibility. You have to work hard and be there for him/her. No partying or running around with boyfriends. Are you ready to accept that?
2007-01-29 16:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try as hard as i could to keep the child and if my parents wouldnt help me out then i would put the baby up for adoption to have a better life...why kill a baby that did nothing wrong?...adoption is always an option...you could find a surogate mother so that you would still be able to visit the child without the hassle of providing for it...you need to finish school...i have a friend that had a child at the beginning of her junior year of high school...she kept it..and she finished school on time...if your parents provide the right support then anything is possible...also one of my friends relaitves had an abortion and said that it not only mentally hurt her but was very physically painful.
2007-01-29 16:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and seek councelling and look at all the options available to you. Remember that plenty of people have abortions and don't have any psychological efffects (myself included), and plenty of people have had children at a young age and stil had good lives and been able to finish school and have good jobs. don't get talked into anything that you don't feel comfortable with, or don't feel as if it is the right choice for you. Have a good support network around you with what ever decision you make. Good luck
2007-01-29 20:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by skye 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to finish school. I'm not saying have an abortion... but what kind of a life can you offer this child? The father is in jail, and will probably spend his life going in and out of jail. You're young and uneducated and alone. Babies need way more than love... they're very expensive, and change your life!!
2007-01-29 16:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
While there is no way i would ever have an abortion, you need to make this decision based on what you think is best. If it is any encouragement i know plenty of people who have had children at this age and younger, and they seem to be doing fine. Talk to your parents, talk to his parents see what they say. Go to a counselor so you can prepare for any decision that you make. It is a life changing decision, so don't jump to any decisions without carefully thinking it through. I hope this helps, and you make the decision that is best for you!
2007-01-29 17:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by bethieb163 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take the abortion route. Having a baby is a blessing, if you can't take care of the baby, you can always put it up for adoption. There are a lot of psychological events that take place during an abortion, for the sake of your child and your well being, don't abort it. Go seek counselling, i'm sure there are community based organizations that can help give you financial advice and assistance.
Good luck!!
2007-01-29 16:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by slickkittykattwhopurs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋