What would you say to nosey people? looking in at your baby?

Question

I have a 4 month old and whenever i go to stores random people have been known to take my babys blanket off the top of her carseat to look in at her without permission, and im just surprised i have ran into people that actually do these kinds of things,anyways i have this blanket on the top of the carseat to keep the cold air out so she wouldnt get sick. Whenever i ask them nicely not to touch they look at me as if im being rude. What do yous think? and what would you say to the other women doing this and you dont know them or where their slimmy paws have been.

well most of the time when this happens im with my husband and he doesnt seem to care that other people look in without permission...anyways id say whenever im stepping away from the baby and my husband looking at other things in the store thats when its happened the most.

Answer 1

Don't worry if they think you're being rude, they too dumb and careless to realize that they are the rude ones. I'd do the same as you and just tell them to back off. It's not rude at all to protect your baby in any way.

Answer 2

I hate when random people think they have the right to put there hands on your baby. I don't take it. When my babies were little I was on guard. I have know problem telling people not to touch my kids. I always try to be polite but some people just don't get it and I have knocked peoples hands away. I believe it is your baby and as a mother it is your job to protect your baby and just letting strangers touch your baby could put them at risk for illness, you have know Idea when the last time that person washed their hands. So don't be shy. If you don't want people touching or lifting the blanket off your baby then let them know and don't feel bad about it.

Answer 3

It's amazing, isn't it?

Don't worry about being rude--they are actually the ones being rude. Violating your space and getting near your baby without asking permission is totally unacceptable. So you are perfectly justified to tell them not to do it.

I used to say, "please don't touch the baby," and I'd say it with a smile. Importantly, DO NOT PAUSE if you are walking. Just smile and keep walking.

Congratulations to you for caring enough to keep folks away from her until she has a decent capacity to ward off common germs. When she's a little older (and it isn't cold and flu season) you can be a bit more lenient and you'll feel better about her being exposed too.

As badly as you feel asking them not to touch the baby, the feeling is a fleeting moment. If your little one gets sick it's nights on end where you are up with a miserable baby. If you look at it that way, it's not even a contest.

Good luck!!!

Answer 4

its obvious they are not trying to be rude...babies are so cute they just want a look. they are not even thinking when they do it and certainly most aren't trying to be nosy but just love the good feeling a baby gives us all but you're right they should ask permission first. i can understand though your irritation, in this day and age you just never know what some ppl are up to! why not once you are in the store remove the blanket, it does nothing to protect your baby from getting sick, really...the handle on the shopping cart has more germs on it than 100 of the ppl breathing in the store and when you pick her up or put her hat on your hand transfers those germs. plus germs are airborne too and can easily penetrate a blanket. i agree that a blanket over her while entering the store will keep the cold off her but thats mainly because the cold air can startle her or chafe her delicate skin. you must live in a small town because most ppl in more urban and city areas do not do this.

Answer 5

I would tell them to back off and not to touch my baby! I am currently preg with #3 and the other day my 4year old son and I saw a new born. Just out of common scence and experience, my son and I just looked from a distance. dah! we talked a lil to the mom and even still i couldnt imagin just going up to the baby and messen around. I would be totally pissed if someone did that to me and my baby. Thats like walking up to someone and touching their cooch lol. My baby is brand spanken new and can get any infectous germs and is the most important beings in my life. Even if they were older, no one has the right to put their hands on my babys. Who cares what they think. next time someone does thst to u..... reach over and touch their butt or put ur hand in their purse, then say......see thats how violated i feel when u touch my baby!!! Hopefully they wont do that to anyone ever again.

Answer 6

That's alright I had people (strangers) just walk up and remove the blanket while I was breasfeeding!!!!!!! They just didnt care as long as they got to see the baby. It was very uncomfortable for me and I just didnt know what to do.

Firstly they should ask very politely if they can see the baby, not just rip the blanket off. But if you know they are about to remove the blanket try saying really politely that she is asleep or you are trying to get her to sleep, they will understand (or should). Most people dont like to wake babies.

And no it is not rude to ask them to leave your baby alone.
Good Luck with it.

Answer 7

This burns my a s s too. I have 5 kids, but when the twins were born all hell would break loose in the store. There were so many dumb questions and people trying to touch them. So, my husband and I would walk while looking straight ahead. We would avoid eye contact because it seemed that would trigger it.

And when someone would try to touch them my husband or I would simply say "I'm sorry, but their doctor has rec'd that everyone sanitize their hands before handling our babies".

Answer 8

Tell them you would kindly appreciate if they could ask to see your baby, instead of touching. Remind them of the basic rule of growing up in such a way-"If you would like to keep your fingers and eyes I suggest you do not touch what is not yours." that works for me. Or next time when you see someone do it, explain to them that you do not look to see what is in there purse so they dont need to look in your car seat. By the way, how far away from the car seat are you that other people can feel comfortable with touching it?

Answer 9

your number one goal right now is to protect your precious baby. Who cares if they look at you like you are being rude (and you aren't by the way) they will have to get over it. Your baby needs to be protected from germs and I have always found it appalling that people will just go up and touch other peoples babies... when I have children I will have no problem telling people not to touch! And remember, they just aren't thinking... that's why it's your job to remind them :)

Answer 10

I'm curious as to the answers here as well as it bugs the heck out of me when people think they have the right to come over and touch my son all the time. Complete strangers who think it's fine to walk up and touch his cheek and play with his hands and such. If I say anything then I'm taken to be rude. What to do?