2007-01-29 15:57:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because it makes them feel less of a man?
2007-01-29 16:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by LTD 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is this feeling that has been generated by the feminist movement that women can have it all. It's a false promise. We are all human and no one can have it all. Life is about choices. A woman who chooses a career must work extremely hard at it. Most of her energy gets used up by every day stuff at work, the daily grind, trying to move ahead to the next spot, pleasing lots of people, getting results, I could go on and on. When she gets home, how in the world is she then supposed to run a house and have the emotional energy for her husband?
Being career-oriented is neither right nor wrong. It's a choice. But unfortunately when you choose that you have to be ready to work extremely hard to gather up the emotional energy at the end of the day for your family...and I believe that many women don't do this. Some actually believe that their husbands owe THEM something at the end of the day...even though he works just as hard as she does. Both partners must give equally but resentment takes over and it becomes a blame game.
So the bottom line is that it's an incredibly fine line to have a career and family and devote the proper energy to both and many women can't/don't do it. So in the end their husbands blame their dissatisfaction on the woman's career.
2007-01-30 00:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all men are like this but it is true that there are many like this. I don't know, my guess is that due to what society believes: A man is supposed to make more than the woman, a man might feel insecure or even be intimidated by a career oriented woman. I am a career oriented woman and my fiancee is a Mr. Mom. We don't have any problems, it works out great for us.
2007-01-30 00:04:04 · answer #3 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they still have a little bit of a traditional streak and feel that "the man brings home the bacon in the family." So, when they marry a successful woman who makes as much, or more, it may threaten their ideal role as a husband and man.
And even if they think they don't want children, there is a natural instinct to procreate in all of us, whether we choose to acknowledge or act upon it or not. So maybe subconciously, they are afraid they'll neve produce offspring if the wife focuses solely on her career.
2007-01-30 00:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not ALL men do! Only small minded men who feel insecure about themselves and their relationships feel this way. A good man would encourage you to follow your dreams and support you when he can. Now there is one exception and that is...if the career will interfere with plans for a family or other things in the future...then you need to discuss what he wants and what you want. If that is very different then it wont work because you want two different things.
2007-01-30 00:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by natashainka 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because they would rather have a stay-at-home-mom so she can be home to care for their children. Also, because they need the love and attention from their wife. So, she can also be there waiting for him at the door to give him a hug and kiss and ask him how his day went.
Oh, and men don't like it when all women do is think about their career, rather than their own family.
2007-01-30 00:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because all she cares about is her career and herself. She could care less about her husband, kids, home, activities etc... These women are very selfish. I am a career woman with NO kids, but my husband and our home come first. Once I have kids, I will be at home with them until they are in school. Daycare is just a bunch of BS that women do because they are too selfish to give up their career.
Most of these women need to get a reality check and know that it isn't just about them. These women piss me off to a certain extreme.
Nice answer Zether! LOL! It's the truth! :)
2007-01-30 00:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
yeah? i personally think these kind of men are insecure and selfish. not every women are born to be mothers so as not every man are born to be ambitious in their careers. they way society shapes us how we should think and behave is sometimes too stereotype. it's giving people lables and putting them into boxes. it's not fair. if men don't like the career-oriented women, then don't marry them. don't marry them and expect them to change into what they are not. we're each individual who should feel free to explore our potentials. we should learn to free our minds and think flexibly. life is more fun, interesting and open this way!
2007-01-30 00:17:08 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men don't like to be married to a snob. Unfortunately some of us, career-oriented women forget that we are women.
2007-01-30 00:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Cynthia T 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Because the men you are referring to are looking for what I call, a "replacement mother". To them, a wife is just that, and if their mom was not career-oriented, he will not want a wife that is.
Those who subconsciously NEVER want to replace their mother, never get married.
2007-01-30 00:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by mac 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I should think a man would like a woman with an income these days, what with how expensive things are! At least then she wouldn't have to use his money to buy him birthday presents! LOL
2007-01-30 00:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋