so i have problems talking to people. whenever i have a chance i never no what to say to them and i just stay quiet and i dont like that. what do i do! ):
2007-01-29 15:53:54 · 17 answers · asked by aiverson23@sbcglobal.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
awwwww ur avatar look so cute lol soz i just had to say that=) anyway to become more of a talker u have to be random lol, just talk about watever comes to ur head, if ur thinking about socks just start talking bout socks, if ur thinking about a show u watched last nite, talk avbout the show and see if te person/people ur talking to also watches it and ask for their opinion on it, if u thinking about ur hair or ur dog just talk about them, talk about watever is on ur mind, i was like u once but then i started talking my opinion and saying anything that came to my mind it kinda worked for me and it also got me some more laugs lol =)
2007-01-29 16:46:56 · answer #1 · answered by cute_lil_surfer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I use to have the exact same problem. Besides just trying to come out of my shell on my own I read the book " How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. I know it sounds like a weird book because you really don't want to influence people or need a book on how to make a friend, but it helped me immensely with my conversation skills and the ability to strike up a conversation with someone. Also take a speech class, at first i thought it was suicide but it helped me work on speaking around people because they were all strangers to me in my class so who cared what they thought about me. If nothing else just start blabbing about something and if it doesn't make sense to them just laugh like you couldn't believe you said that either. Charisma and Confidence are all you need.
2007-01-30 00:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by j_oD-i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are shy. There is nothing wrong with that. For you to be able to talk there has to be something that you know about...maybe the people you are with that are talking dont have the same interests you do...ever think about that? I am sure that if you found someone that has the same things in common you do...then you would have something to talk to them about. Dont worry...things always change and so will you.
2007-01-30 00:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone likes to talk about themselves. Ask them questions. Their answers will either lead to comments you can interject or other questions you can ask.
Biggest part to being a good conversationalist is being a good listener. It won't take long to figure out what topics interest the people you are talking with.
2007-01-29 23:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by momwithabat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask questions instead of talking to them. This way, it'll make them talk and you dun have to think of what to say. There's more to this but I'm lazy to type more. Go join the "Dale Carnegie Course". I did and It helped alot. I'm a introvert btw but i am able to communicate to people with the help of the course.
2007-01-29 23:59:35 · answer #5 · answered by Luffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask simple questions, like "Do you have any hobbies?", "Have you done anything cool lately?", "What did you do last weekend?", "Have you seen that new movie?". Just take a general interest in the person that you're talking to. Don't pry too much, though, and make sure to tell them a little about yourself. Don't be scared to talk.
2007-01-30 00:04:07 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not a good person to ask because I'm also quiet. Do you have friends? As long as you talk to them that's all that counts.
2007-01-30 00:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by grandview.prosser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this same problem. at first i started out with talking about things like how is the weather or look at the rain will it ever stop, or it sure is nice out today. then they might add yes i was gardening today and so on. or yes it is yuck so i stayed indoors and watch movies today. and then you can go on from there.
2007-01-29 23:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by caligurl2729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all to be a good talker you must first be a good listener and you that quality.so take a deep breath andeasy into it in see what happens remember to relax.
2007-01-30 00:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tou shoud, really try to become more outgoing...find out some intersts that u might have wiht some of the poeple ur age...try to have a good sense of humor...dont take everything so seriously...if u do...good luck!
2007-01-29 23:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋