so i have a friend who we've been spending a lot of time together. a lot. we both were out cars but now i got one. so, sometimes i will let her drive my car or barrow it to shop or like today I gave her a key to my apartment so she could hang out, do laundry, or whatever and a few days ago I gave her an extra set of keys to my car (just incase i lock mine in the car). we've only been friends a couple months and she doesn't know I'm attracted to her (well, she might), but I'm wondering if I'm moving too fast? saturday was the first time she ever came over to my place. we watched a movie and i made dinner (she was going to bring stuff to make dinner, but i said no i got stuff).
but in her mind we're friends, in my mind I'm wanting more. Am I pushing us in that direction without her even knowing it? Has this happened to you?
2007-01-29 15:48:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
okay, i might have made it seem like we're not that close of friends. We are very close friends. Although we've only known each other 3 months. i know for a fact she wouldn't steal my car or anything in my house. i was doing that to just be friendly, but i guess i do have an alterior motive that she doesn't know (or i think she doesn't).
Do you think she knows? I mean if you check my past questions you can get the jist of her and me.
2007-01-29 16:01:39 · update #1
to slam,
yes i think she recipricates but it's nervous tension. I mean sometimes she's very touchy feely with me by sliding her hand down my arm or standing so close her bodys touching mine. then there's times when she's very quiet standoffish, but at those times like our arms or legs will touch and neither will move for awhile until finally after 10-15 min she'll move away. it goes back and forth between us. all i can describe is tension or unsurety sometimes.
2007-01-29 16:07:48 · update #2
She knows, but she wants you to move first. Try watching the L Word on Showtime, see what she says or how she reacts. You can't just be friends when you at least will always want more. So move ahead a step at a time. She expects you to. She wants you to.
2007-01-29 16:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she thinks you 2 are very good friends. Make sure she knows what you want and where you are heading. Is she gay? Talk to her and be honest since the very begining. She will appreciate it and if it turns out that she is after the same, then you will just push everything and start a relationship sooner than expected.
2007-01-30 00:01:01 · answer #2 · answered by guidikc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to say to her is that you respect her and your friendship and you are wondering if she would ever be interested in a relationship with her. To really know what she is thinking you need to communicate face to face and tell her how you feel. And tell her that you dont' want to lose your friendship with her either. I have been in the same position with a guy and I never vocalized my feelings to him and it ended up that he got together with someone else because he never really knew how I felt. So talk to her. If she ends up not being interested in a sexual relationship, at least you have a good friend.
2007-01-29 23:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she reciprocating any mutual feelings? Does she stare into your eyes or linger next to you? I think in due time you should conversate about feelings. If she's your real friend, she'll understand where yours are coming from and even if she doesn't feel the same, she'll still be the friend she was from the beginning.
2007-01-30 00:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by theslam2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she has not figured it out by now ,she never will unless you move faster .
which i advice ,so that you know soonest where her feelings are at before you make a fool of your self and she steals your car and apartment ,
better know straight away where you are at ,so kiss her on the lips and suggest a shower ,say that you are just being friendly and feel dirty.
asks her if she feels dirty too.
2007-01-29 23:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! You're going to have her move in if you keep going like this. Girlfriends are great - cherish them - but GIRLFRIENDS are relationships that need time and communication. So, ley it on the line. Let her know you're gay and take it from there. You never know, she just might be pining away for you......
2007-01-30 00:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by eschampion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk and get it out in the open
2007-01-30 00:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me lay this out for you...
She probably thinks you are friends.
You need to talk to her about this.
Stop giving your keys out to strangers.
That's about it...Good Luck!
2007-01-29 23:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by IamBatman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋