I have been hurt tonite by loosing the one I love, what do I do ?
2007-01-29 15:38:36 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sorry to hear about your loss. It's normal and necessary for you to go through some process of grieving. I don't know if your loss is by death or by separation, but both hurt and are valid.
Still, there is a difference. If you lost someone by death, I suggest finding a local support group or atleast some friends that have experienced the same thing.
If you lost someone by separation, I suggest trying to keep your spirits up in any way possible. Some ways might be:
* Hang with some single friends
* Read a positive book that encourages you
* Find a singles support group
In any case, just know you're not alone. Many people suffer a loss of a loved one every hour of every day. Your feelings are valid and you will be a better person for the experience.
2007-01-29 15:46:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, losing someone you love is never easy, and unfortunately there are no answers to your question ! Everyone copes in their own way, but all I can say is that you have to go through the grieving process in order to come out the other side .
Time is a great healer as they say, and that my dear is the only thing you can do, in time it will get a lot easier .
I don't know whether the one you love has died or left you ( it's not clear in your question) but it hurts the same either way.
Give it time, and try and keep yourself busy, that's all you can do.
I think we can all sympathise with you, we've all lost someone we love and we have all survived , you will too .
Good luck.
2007-01-29 17:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Paris69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i experienced this at the weekend there and i feel like my heart's been ripped out. It's horrible and hurts so much. Was so unexpected too. I've had good support from my friends and been doing things to take my mind off it. It's so hard though, but just make lots of time for yourself and try not to dwel on the past - move on. It's his loss remember, not yours. Good luck and i know it's hard. Things will get better in time. xx
2007-01-29 18:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee walked out on me for another man back in 1996. I loved her so much and it hurt like hell. People, especially my Mum, said that I would get over it and that time is a great heeler. At the time I thought f**k off, what do you know? She was right though. I know you're hurting but you have friends and family to lean on. Use that crutch. It will get easier.
2007-01-29 17:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Shunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you lose the one you love, it hurts. They say time heals all wounds. I don't know if that is true but with time it will ease the pain. Each day that goes by the hurt will ease. It may always hurt but life does go on. You will find new things to occupy your heart and mind and one day before you know it, you will be feeling better. Good luck!
2007-01-29 15:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get very busy. Clean everything you own, volunteer and help others, whatever to keep your mind from dwelling. Call your friends and go out. Keep your mind busy on other things. I hope your loss was just because a jerk turned you lose and not because something drastic happened to him. If so, everytime you start to feel bad, get very mad. Remember it is better to get rid of a jerk now than later. You have wasted enough time. Make a plan and get busy. Get your life together. You have things to do, places to go, and people to meet. It will be better.
2007-01-29 15:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its always hard loosing someone you love... Keep going on. If it's a family member, you always have other people to talk to. If its a boyfriend\girlfriend, dont completely take them out of your life... it could be tough to see those old pictures in your room, but in time you might possibly get used to it. There's always someone better out there.
2007-01-29 15:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have lost the love of my life i was with him for 6 years and he went off with my sister. Anyway my advice is if he dont want to come back then why worry and upset yourself over something you cant change just try and move on it gets easier believe me. Good luck babes xx
2007-01-29 20:00:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to keep busy, I sat and wallowed for weeks after I lost my gf and it did me no good at all. Go to the gym.swimming or see friends anything to keep busy and tike your mind off the situation, and in time the oain will go away I promise
take care
2007-01-29 21:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by Monkeyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not help you at present, but you go on living.
If your feelings of Love have any value, then you'll use the lessons you've learnt to improve your own sense of your self worth ~ and grow.
If 'Love' is 'Love,' then you'll have experienced emotion that has breadth and depth that has likely expanded your perceptions. Don't lose these tools, value them and enable yourself.
Good luck to you.
Sash.
2007-01-29 20:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋