I'm 21 years old, I have a boyfriend who is 29.We have been together for almost 2 yrs, I love him but he doesnt want to marry me. I really want to find somone who I can settle down with. I'm really scared of being alone, and never finding anyone. All of my friends are in serious relationships that are leading into marriage. I just want find a honest, caring, and finanancially stable man who I can spend my life with. I'm so depressed because I feel like I will never find someone who will love me unconditionally and wants to start a life with me. (I know that I am young but I am very mature for my age and this is what I want) What should I do?
2007-01-29 15:19:00 · 11 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let love takes its course.
2007-01-31 15:48:24 · answer #1 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel it's not fun being alone, But the divorce rate in america is 50%. that means half the people getting married will get a divorce, so I think if you want to marry someone you should be patient and find someone who wants a marriage as much as you do, or maybe if your patient..I mean really 2 years isn't so long that you can't wait to get married maybe your boy will realize your a good woman and change his mind just don't pressure him, nobody should be forced into a marriage. but don't settle for someone who doesn't want the same things in life as you do, Because good things come to those who wait.. and you might think you'll be alone forever but your prince charming will come or maybe he's already in your life just because your friends are getting married doesn't mean you have to....You should talk it over with your boyfriend and let him know exactly how you feel and listen closely to his feelings to. good luck!!
2007-01-29 15:50:51 · answer #2 · answered by Castro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a shack up honey with no strings attached. He doesn't want a commitment for a price, he wants it free! Free sex with no responsibilities, and no committment. I'm glad that you are finding this out now. If this guy loved you unconditionally, don't you think he'd want to spend his life with you? He may not be ready for marriage, you have only been together for two years, it's best to be dating for 3+ years before marriage. He may change his tune, you might want to give him time. You're scared of being alone? That's very selfish. Is that the reason you're with him? That's not love, that's just lust. You need to find true love and not someone to spend time with because you're too scared to be alone. You don't sound mature for your age. Do yourself and him a favor and don't get married.
2007-01-29 15:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really are young. You don't want to be with a man just because he will marry you. You deserve to be loved and happy. Dump that guy and move on. He's 29 and not ready to commit. You could be waiting a very long time. If he EVER asks you. If you know what you want you can't get it if your still involved with him.
2007-01-29 15:31:42 · answer #4 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared to be alone. You are young and you just have to get back out there and start dating again. This guy is a waste of time. You are looking for something he does not want to give you.
2007-01-29 15:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should ask your boyfriend where he sees himself in the next five years, and if u would be someone he would want to commit to, ask him why he doesn't want to marry u? u should be honest with him and tell him what u want, and if he doesn't see it your way and he doesn't give u any hope than u are wasting your time with him, and should get out of the relationship. find out what his intentions are for the future.
2007-01-30 03:21:27 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start off by dumping the man that you say will never marry you, you are wasting time on him and could miss out on meeting the man you really want because you are wasting your time.
Good luck!
2007-01-29 19:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to meet available men when your wasting your time with a man that doesn't want any future with you!!! Get away! break up! and start dating! go see what is out there and then there will be hoards of men for you Good Luck
2007-01-29 15:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump this guy and move on... find someone who will want to settle down and marry you someday.. this guy seems like a dead end.
2007-01-29 15:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no need to rush into getting married! Yes, you are still young and there is alot of places and people to meet!
2007-01-29 15:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop wasting your time. Wait until you find someone that is going to marry you. You will find someone.
2007-01-29 15:26:53 · answer #11 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋