Has the whole world lost thier mind?

Question

I have been on a self improvement journey for 2 or so years. I have realized my unhealthy behaviors and have been working intensely to re-program my self. And it seems the more I fix or overcome the worse people are. I stopped my deceptive acts which include lying, secrets, etc. This was a hard one considering I was border line pathological. I found the root, admitted the lies to my self as well as the ones I lied too. It has been over a year with no secrets or lies. My question is : why now after I ceased this behavior, is every one in my inner circle attacking me with accusations. I do not understand why I am being punished for the things I didn't do. These people have been close to me for 10 + years. They seem to be ganging up and not in the intervention kind of way. Any ideas on what I do?

Answer 1

Seems to me that you have surrounded yourself with a group of people who accuse you and punish you, now it is the time to find friends you can trust and believe in, Change your direction and change your choices of who you want to associate with, find loving caring people who will match up to all the self-intensive-work you have been involved in for the past 2 years. It is your choice. .

Answer 2

Being a true friend is an art. It takes both know-how & practice to be one. It is Not instinctual. Many never learn how to be a good friend, or how to make lasting friendships. You seem to be on your way, but don't expect everyone to appreciate (or, understand) your efforts. There are different reasons possible that they don't. But your Main concern is what you can Do about the situation/s. Perhaps considering these articles will help you figure things out ...

How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends - A Note to Parents http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm

EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm

Should I Apologize? :
- Why Is It So Hard to Apologize?
- Apologizing--A Key to Making Peace
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2002/11/1/article_01.htm

How Can You Make Peace With Others? :
~ Wars With Words--Why Are They Hurtful?
~ The Benefits of Making Peace
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/3/1/article_01.htm

These are just samples of many more online, common-sense, self-help, articles. A few of the others are listed next to the texts of these.

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Answer 3

Has anyone in the whole world found their mind?

People tend to be friends with people that are in similar situations or are looking for similar results. Thats why you band together. Sounds like you may have changed to the point where you need to find some other friends. This doesnt mean you need to abandon your friends just some other types of friend too that you can relate to better at this point in your life. Also dont try and change your old friends to where you're at. You shouldnt expect your friends to always follows, if you're truely doing the right things your friends will take notice and they too will follow in their own time frames.

Answer 4

Because the 'new' you is not the person they knew - or thought they knew. Perhaps they feel a little betrayed because of your previous lies.
But new friends will come with time - friends who accept you as you really are.
I went through a similar thing when I faced the fact that I was telling lies to friends, not always for any apparent reason. I decided to stop. I don't think I lost any friends because of this, but would not have been surprised if I had.

But I find that it is easier to live with myself now, and I feel better in myself. Just stick with it - and good luck.

Answer 5

People build a picture of who you are in their head. It is how they define you. But when people change it is hard for people to deal with you. The relationship they had with you is based on who you were for 8 years not who you have changed into over the last 2. Time will work it all out.

For me my change was to great for my friends to accept and I had to move on because they would never let me be who I am. I miss my friends, but when I look in the mirror I know this is the person I was born to be.

Continue doing the right thing and in time they will come to accept you. If not, the question is do you want to contine to be dragged down by the past or do you want to move on and expand your friends to include people who can accept you as you are.

Answer 6

If the international as that's now have been to all of sudden settle for atheism, this is possibly there could be a extensive upward thrust in the form of folk searching for psychological help. only like if everyone have been to all of sudden provide up drugs, there'd be a extensive upward thrust in the form of folk suffering withdrawal indications. i do no longer think of it might have any impression at using innovations changing drugs, different than probable an enhance in alcohol use between those communities that for the period of the previous abstained from alcohol for non secular motives. it might advise the great abandonment of witchcraft and Voodoo. do you be attentive to what atheism fairly is? in the long term, it might unquestionably bring about people turning out to be greater good, and together as we would possibly no longer all be keen to artwork together in peace and love, it could be one much less distinction for individuals to concentration on. And the quicker you nutters come down and quit hectic approximately what you will do once you're ineffective, the greater advantageous we are going to all be.

Answer 7

so your relationship for 9 years with these people was poluted with borderline pathalogical lies and you can not understand them being upset now?

when someone errs against you and then they apologize, you should accept their apology 100% but trust them only 50% of what you did before.

if you admitted to this group that you lied often to them, then you will have to build your trustability back up to a level that you are comfortable with. if this is the case you may just want to hang in their and take your medicine to become a better person.

another possibility is that this group of people only function well if they are lying to each other and you have broken the trust by starting to tell the truth. if this is the case you may want to cut your losses and start again with a group of people who are trying to be honest or stay and show them how much happier your life is since you started on the honest trail.

most christians will tell you that bad people killed the flesh body of jesus and he was good, so if you think it is going to be an easy living an honest life, you are sadly mistaken.

i don't know if this group is really hurt that you lied to them for so long, you stopped lying to them, or something else. these are possibilities that are meant to help you look out of the box that you are in and start trying to win their trust back or get out and try to start again with one good friend.

Answer 8

If you could explain what kind of accusations they are making, it would help to give you a better answer. Are you saying they want you to lie,or they liked you better when you lied to them? Some people really do not want to hear the truth. They want to be dishonest and they want you to agree with it. I personally believe an honest person will have a few friends but those few will be better then a thousand dishonest friends.

Answer 9

if they liked you before when you were lying about everything, they didn't like the REAl you, they liked the FAKE you. anytime you change drastically you have to expect people to treat you differently, people change all the time you need to move on and find friends that are in the same place mentally that you are now.

Answer 10

understand that people know a certain "concept" of you, and if you radically alter that concept in a short period of time, it is very disconcerting and off-putting to people, even if the changes are for the good. Give people time to adjust, and help them become comfortable with the new you.