I'm divorced from a 22 year marriage to someone that really broke my heart & dissapointed me. This friend I mentioned above has been so nice to me & everyone says I should give him a chance. I've talked with him alot on the phone, I've even gone out with him a few times. The problem is, I don't feel anything for him. I just like him as a friend & I'm afraid to let it go any farther. I don't think I want to. Could it be he's just not the *right* one for me. Will love feel differently for me at this time in my life than it did when my ex-husband & I met & married? I'm confused!
2007-01-29 15:17:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
After going through a divorce, I totally understand how you feel: alone, scared, anxious...it takes time to get back into the single swing of things. Not only that, but you are so used to being with your husband, that you may find it impossible to allow yourself to like someone else. If this guy is treating you right, I think I would soul search and consider it being someone else treating you well. Would you allow yourself to care for them more than a friend? If you would, then this guy is just a friend in your heart. If not, then I believe that you are not ready for a relationship yet. I guess its all up to you and what you feel. Just strongly think everything through so you dont regret whatever decision that you make now. I FEEL FOR YOU!
2007-01-29 15:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and one day at a time... Get to know him as a friend first and date here and there and nothing serious at first.... Have fun!!!! If you do not feel anything then just friendship. Could very well be that he is not the right one for you.... Be honest with him and let him know and just be friends with him.. Do not lead him on to thinking something more.
2007-01-29 23:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course it will, you were with someone for 22 years, and now you are single, so life is diffent for you as for this man if you dont
feel that this is what you are looking for then tell him the truth
dont lead him on. just take it slow and dont rush it, if it meant
to be something more then down the road it might. you sound
like you just scared to let some one in your heart and that normal
but just dont let worry you.if he a friend then keep it simple.
2007-01-29 23:50:29 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
22 years is a very long time. You're just not ready yet. Don't push yourself. Take some time for getting to know who you are again and what you want. As far as your friend goes he sounds nice. You can always use one more friend.
2007-01-29 23:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just gotta tell him that you want to be friends. Don't lead him on. If this guy is a good guy, then you may regret it, but if you have no feelings for him romantically, then I'd tell him as soon as possible. Time will heal his wounds, the sooner the better.
2007-01-29 23:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just go out for coffee and see what happens, if nothing then tell him to buzz off.
2007-01-29 23:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by SalesDude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋