my girl friend thinks that evrey thing is wrong with her how can i help her cuz i want to make her feel better
2007-01-29 15:09:10 · 9 answers · asked by kkkk53564367 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry to say, all you can really do is lovingly encourage her to seek help for herself, then offer emotional support if she decides to do so. Chances are very good that she was raised in an emotionally/physically/sexually abusive home. Either one or any combination of that environment could cause the problem that you describe. If she grew up in an alcoholic home, she could find great support in Al-anon. She may want to decide to go to counseling. But be prepared to face resistance, because no person has the power to change another human being, no matter now much we love them and want to see them happy. That being said, it simply wouldn't do any good to try to force the issue. Happiness truly is an inside job. She will do what she needs to do, when she is ready to do it, and not a second before that time. Tell her you will be there for her no matter what she decides. Trust me, I am speaking from experience. If you are a believer, pray for her happiness, then leave the rest to the powers that be.
2007-01-29 15:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex-girlfriend used to complain about herself. She would say she's ugly, getting fat, was failing school, etc. I would tell her that she's one of God's beautifulest gifts to this earth, I told her that her weight was fine and shouldn't even be a worry, and I would tell her not to give up and that I'll always be there to help her study or get through anything. Your girlfriend needs support and she needs it from you. Compliments make a big difference, but they have to be the truth, no lying. And don't take advantage of her because that's one of the worst things that can happen to a girl (and a guy too).
2007-01-29 23:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by OneAndOnly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be an enabler to her behavior. Try and make her realize that alot of people have it worst off than her and then if she doesnt stop with ehr childish behavior then leave her and she will really see how bad it is.
2007-01-29 23:14:08 · answer #3 · answered by Diamond~ I <3 my Son 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it helps, her ego is the cause of bringing up "evidence" for what is perceived as problematic.
2007-01-29 23:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by donothing555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be right. It sounds hopeless. I would agree with her, maybe having someone agree with her would be comforting to her.
2007-01-29 23:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will take a long time for her to overcome....just hang in there and help with everything that you can, re-asurance is key.
2007-01-29 23:13:18 · answer #6 · answered by Mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really somthing she needs to work on herself, she has to learn to love her self, just stay by her and let her know your there if she needs you.
2007-01-29 23:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious love and support her but dont get her pregnant
2007-01-29 23:13:51 · answer #8 · answered by kelly r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she just needs your support, hang in there.
2007-01-29 23:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋