I want nothing to do with my dad...?

Question

so my parents are getting divorced (finally).
But i am glad.
I don't love my dad..i don't LIKE him. he has never done anything badly wrong.
He is just a nasty person. Constantly argues with everyone. Moans. He must be right all of the time. he can give out insults but not take them. You know the type.
I am sick of having him in my life. I can't remember one single memory where i am having fun with him around.

i want nothing more to do with him. Is this wrong? How would you feel if your kid wanted nothing to do with you?

I mean i don't know how i feel. i feel guilty of course.. on one side - i don't want to hurt his feelings. But on the other hand - i don't like him. i don't want to spend time with him. i get the feeling he doesn't like me anyway.

How do i tell him that i don't want to go stay with him or meet up with him or anything..

Or should i just put up with it?

i am behind in a lot of coursework. with many other probs. This stress is just making me worse

Family is family right??

Am i just being a cow?

arhh

Answer 1

The hatred you feel now will come back to haunt you later.

Hatred is a powerful feeling that can cause stress and other health problems.

If you don't want to know dad, that is your decision alone. But, for your health's sake, stop the feeling of hate.

It is better to part ways now on a kind of neutral feeling than a hateful feeling.

One thing to consider; once your Dad dies, it is too late to "wish" you can change things. It's permanent.

Part on a neutral feeling, but always keep the possibility open that you could reconcile with him within the short-term future.

You will be feeling better with the reconciliation possibility.

Answer 2

Regardless of what your daddy did or didn't do you still must forgive Him. If not that unforgivess will slowly eat you away and you will end up just like him, and treat men the very same way you feel about your dad. Deal with it now b/c if not it will affect you in your future relationships. Ask God to give you the strength to forgive your father and to love him, even though he might not deserve it.

Answer 3

You will miss him one day when he is gone, because you need to love him while he is alive and I know you do not want to be around him but he is your dad and always will be so just talk to him about your feelings and I hope everything will work out.

I wish my dad was still alive so I could give him a hug and tell him I love him.

Answer 4

no family isnt family when someone is acting like that. i stopped seeing my father a couple years ago because he was like that. i got so sick of him yelling at me and saying bad things to me that i finally just called it quits. no one should have to put up with that kind of thing.
if he does nothing but moan and yell at everyone he isnt happy and you need to stop seeing him. there is nothing wrong with that you are doing it for your own good. and you should stop seeing him before it could turn into anything worse.
believe me he isnt going to be happy about it at all but stick with your decision. and if he asks you should tell him why because maybe he will realize that he need to stop acting that way.

(but dont bank on it happening. it sounds like he will be staying that way.)

yeah so dont put up with it. i did for a while and now i am messed up because of it. i wouldnt want that happening to someone else. its not a fun thing to go through.

Answer 5

I understand how it feels to have a dad you dont want anything to do with.just tell him you dont want to live with him but since he didnt do anything majorly wrong dont completely shun him he is still your dad after all just tell him you dont care to stay the night but keep like daytime meetings like going out to brunch or something.

Answer 6

Maybe the fault is with your mother poisening your mind against your father. Don't let anyone influance your mind, especially your mother whom seems to be at ends with your father, maybe she was screwing her boss and your father caught her.