we were datign for over two years... he just broke up with me yesterday he says its over for now and maybe we'll get back togtther. we were eachothers firs for everything. anf isrt love. first kiss, everything.. we decided to take a break to focus ons chool we are both sophmores in college. he came to me and said he didnt want the relationship anymore but still wants to remain frineds... i dont know how to get better im just so depressed. should i even consider gettign him anything for valentines day. he keeps telling me hes sorry and how sorry he is for doing this ti me..... ='[
2007-01-29 14:43:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
hell no. If he just broke up with you then he's not your 'valentine'. It's up to him to 'make up' if he really wants to get back with you. But I would seriously reconsider if he broke up about nothing without any reason.
I guess I don't understand why he's telling you he's sorry - I take it you two are still talking? Does he just want to mess with your mind or what? If he was that sorry, then he wouldn't have broke up. If you two are going to remain just friends, then I would say the valentines day presents are out of the question - valentines day is for lovers, not for friends.
2007-01-29 14:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by kikisdragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you want to get him something so he'll fall back in love with you, but that will NOT change his mind.....
I suspect the REAL reason is the pressure of school....it's not easy to study for high grades >>AND<< maintain a relationship with a woman....while college is four years..... a relationship is a lifetime...and he only has four years to do it RIGHT...he gets no more chances at college.
He realizes that....I don't think you do....your best gift to him would be as friends and let him dig into his studies...Those 4 years will set him up for the next 45 years in his career....
You got to think the same way about your college and your career...
So get your panties out of a bind, and go out with the girls....get a girly drink and watch homos take off their clothes for a tip or two... I doubt you get lucky enough to have the Chippendale strippers around on Valentines Day......but you can always hope....
2007-01-29 15:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by reggieman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a ploy. Alot of guys will start a fight usually something fixable later. They start to fight before big events in relationships like fight before Valentines day that way he doesnt have to get you anything, then make up a few days or so later. Sometimes they do that before Christmas or your birthday. Do not even consider getting him anything and when you feel weak and start having second thoughts spend the money on yourself something like a heart necklace and make sure he sees it then let him wonder who gave it to you.
2007-01-29 14:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Extra Blue Note 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't owe him anything. If he was that sorry then you wouldn't be apart. Words mean nothing- action tells you how they feel. Buy yourself something for Valentine's Day.
There are too many men out there to not get over this one.
It is true, time heals all wounds.
2007-01-29 14:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no!!! He dumped you just before valentines day, and you want to get him something? Don't do it, and don't sit there and wait for him to come back and if he does, still don't do it. He broke your heart and said MAYBE he'll come back. Don't do it to yourself girl. Its easy for me to say move on, but you should cause if you take him back he just might do it again. And although he was your first, he won't be your last, plus it might help to find something new. Plus, if he even cares, see if he gets you anything.
2007-01-29 14:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by b_mb3100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!! He ended it! Otherwise you will look desperate wait and see BUT do not wait for him! Hes using you to have his cake and eat it too thats why he said "for now". Other wise he would cut ties totally. Hes foolin around girl! In Australia we call it skankin it up. Get some confidence and get your self out there and meet some cool people who will like you for who YOU are. Good Luck
2007-01-29 14:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by stussy_8_4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!! Definitely do not get him anything!!! You need to take each day one at a time. You do not want to show him he can dump you and you will just keep running back. If he is to realize what he is missing, he must first feel he has lost you.
Good luck and hang in there.
2007-01-29 14:53:42 · answer #7 · answered by lovin life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; An Ex is an Ex for a reason. There are lots more guys out there or better yet just hang loose and free for a while.
2007-01-29 14:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by michaelkaer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I wouldn't and I would leave him wondering why too.
2007-01-29 14:51:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't matter how long u were dating him don't get him any thing because u guys aren't together
2007-01-29 14:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋