We want to let him know we grieve for the death of his friend and pray for his recovery. Words seem inadequate right now.
2007-01-29 14:42:23 · 24 answers · asked by David K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Send them a sympathy card/ecard.
http://www.bereavement-poems-articles.com/sympathycards/cards.php
2007-01-29 14:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Newman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I do not know grief like this, I too was in a near fatal accident at the age of 9 yrs. old. Losing a best friend would make the situation much worse. Depending on his age, try not to put it on him too hard. Try to take it slow and try to connect with his feelings. Tell him that you are sorry for his friend's death and you know it wasn't fair for him to die. You may also mention that you know your son may think it wasn't fair for him to live while his best friend had to die. Hard times will follow, but time will heal some of the wounds. There is not much I can really help you with except to say that you need to take every moment as it comes. Every person is different. I am coming on to my 18th birthday, spending half of my life with regrets and painful memories, but I would not have made it without my family's loving care and guidance. My heart goes out to you and I wish your son and you the best of luck.
2007-01-29 23:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jock BOD w/ a geek's wits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very unfortunate and rough situation.. I feel for you, i have unfortunatly been through this 6 times in my life, and I am not quite the age of 30 yet..
You need to let them know that you have the deepest sympathy for all of the families involved ..nd if there is anything you can do to help them out, in any way, you will be there to lend them an open heart and a shoulder to lean on for as long as they need..
You might want to offer to help them run errands or take care of things a their home since they will need time to take care of things at the funeral parlor and hospital...
My thoughts and prays go out to all involved..
2007-01-29 22:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words will not cover it..... and it seems you know this.... be there, give him a hug and a smile.... bake him a special cake, find out his favorite from mom, maybe a diary * a male one* and inside write a few words, saying that to keep a person in your memory is to keep them always with you.... a best friend is a star or angel from God, and that they are ALWAYS best friends,.... which I happen to believe !!!! just a few words like that, not to long or involved..... make sure he knows that the diary is a book of memories, for writing down his feelings, putting in pictures, stories of the kool and crazy things, or not so kool , he and friend did during their time together..... a sort of writting the story !!!!! and maybe include a prayer that he can say, or a bible verse, pasted to the inside cover........ God bless and may God be with his and the best friends family .......
2007-01-29 22:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a terrible situation to be in, it will be very hard. I have to tell you that there is not much you can say you just need to be there for him and pray he gets better. If he is unable to, you should go to his friends funeral and tell him how beautiful it was...etc. Just listen to the things he needs, it will be a very tough loss for him and just try to say/do comforting things. When he gets out of this hospital or he gets better obviously things will be very different and things will be tough on him, just be ready to give him the help he needs. Good luck, im very sorry for you loss and I willbe praying for his recovery
2007-01-29 22:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by babycakes7795 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go across and say nothing. Hold their hands, spend time with them. They are miserable in any case. Going to see them shows them you care.
Their son is hurt and grieving and an accident (as the word suggests) is unplanned and out of one's control. Sometimes silence conveys many words.
2007-01-29 22:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by GauravGupta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having experienced tragedy like this, words do fail. So many people say the stupidest things, with he best of intentions of course. Just listen if he needs to talk, and try to get him counseling at some point. There truly are no words in times of great grief, but loving hugs and being there helps. My best to you and your son.
2007-01-29 22:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actions speak louder than words, that saying is especially true in a tough time like this. The best thing you can do for your friend is to be a shoulder to lean on. I'm sure everyone your friend knows is sending their grievances for his loss, don't worry about what to say, just do what ever you can to help him through this hard time...
2007-01-29 22:51:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it quite well here. We grieve for the death of your friend and pray for his recovery. Trust yourself.
2007-01-29 22:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Karrose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Say what you just said to us. Except make it sound like it is directed to your grieving for your friend's suffering. My prayers and best hopes are with you and your friend/friend's family. God Bless.
2007-01-29 23:30:54 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone is grieving, any positive word or thought may be welcome, but there is a risk attatched; you may say the wrong thing. Just tell him, if there is anything that he needs he should come around and you'll be there for him.
2007-01-29 22:47:58 · answer #11 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋