Fathers Child Support Help!!?

Question

What kind of help can a father get who has 2 children. By two different mothers when it comes to child support. The courts has made it to where this father has to pay out 2000.00 a month in child support. He makes aound 19.00 an hour but after the taxes are taken out and the child support he doesn't have money to pay his bills. He doesn't have much a car payment, insurance, rent, electric, Food. He's layed off for the winter and that is his payments they will go up higher than this once he gets called back to work. This is what he has to pay on the unemployment which isn't even close to 19.00 per hour. Can anyone give me some ideas for assistance. Right now he feels he has about 3 options. Go to Jail, Give his rights up to his children, or Suicide. I need help for this person whose lost and needing answers.

He's talked to the courts and disputed it. He showed proof of his income and they still based this on several thousand more dollars a year that he doesn't make. They lessened it to 2000 while unemployed which helped him absolutely none

Answer 1

My husband had to pay alot of child suport and it left very little for us to live on. It sounds like this poor guy is being treated unfair. Maybe he could find a way to go back to court and show that he is not left with enough to live on.....but then that cost money to. Just pray ......that always helps.

Answer 2

This is a complicated question but I will touch on it briefly. Each state's law is different when dealing with child support issues. He needs to consult with an attorney who specializes in this area of the law and can find one by calling the Bar Association of the state in which he lives. In my state he could petition for temporary relief and ask for a reduction in child support until his wages go back up, but only if he can show the substantial change in circumstances and/or lower wages were not of his own doing. p.s., When the child support for the second child was calculated, was the payment already being made to the 1st child taken into consideration by the Court? In my state, it would have been. (Most states require the use child support guidelines).

Answer 3

It sounds like he is being screwed over bigtime by the court system. His support should be based upon a percentage of his gross income from his primary job. They need to take into account his financial expenses, his ability to earn income and how much money he actually makes. He needs to consult an attorney about seeing if he can appeal the decision. I am in the opposite position, My ex makes a ton of money but underpays. I can't ever seem to win in court because he has ties to that particular probate court including the lawyers and maybe even the judges. I never win no matter what.

Good luck to your friend. I believe that every noncustodial parent should pay support but it should be reasonable to both parties.

Answer 4

you left out the final option RUN get a visa and Hall butt, you should pay child support but some times the judges are just stupid with the amount,i love the answers about a lawyer,,,,NEWS FLASH lawyers take money,which he doesn't have,,,,move to Europe for a little while then move to say ,,,Australia for a while when the kids grow up he can buy them a plane ticket,,oh and you should pay something anyway if there your kids mail it home,,,,but never directly make a friend in Europe and mail it to him then have him mail it to her,,,better that way for you----------------------------------------------____________ oh i love that food bank thing above oh that's funny
ha ha ha ha ha wow you make 19 an hour and Yvette B yvetteb answer is a food bank ha ha ha buy a ticket and go send back whats left after you eat in sure the kids wont starve on 500 a month ...food bank WOW that is so sad we live in a country where we allow to destroy an honest working man that works and wants to pay his child support,to the point of starvation. Run away not from your kids but from the insanity

Answer 5

Legal Aid, and don't hesitate. Nobody, especially the courts, wants dad unable to make support payments. I think it can be negotiated, but he needs the listening ear. Find where you can get legal assistance without paying a bundle for it. Squeaky wheel gets the oil. It's not about resisting making the payments, it's about the ability to do so. Best wishes.

Answer 6

Wow! That's lot of money! I have three kids and only get 720 for all of them and their father makes about $ 20 a hour! I would try to go back to court and file for a change of support! Each state is different! Good Luck!

Answer 7

Take it easy man, if you really love them the suicide feelings should not be there. you can field for forbarrences of payment, you do not have work because of weather, that is something you cannot control, so they should be easier on you, you at least have a job and are trying, show the judge you are trying and that you will do anything, they should help you also by affording you debt support groups. Tell him not to give up.

Answer 8

He needs to get a good lawyer and go back to court and outline his bills for the court. This may help him to get a reduction in his support. He also needs and should want to be involved in those kids life and he needs to tell the judge that.

Answer 9

you cant just give up your rights today, the courts wont let you out of it that easy.

i understand its hard on everyone (him, the ex's, the children), but they should have based his payments considering he has to pay ANOTHER support order as well. did he show those papers too at court? if hes laid off or seasonal worker, yes, the arrears just add up. time for a second job, just to pay for the child support... for either kid.

every state is different (slightly) with the guidelines, so i would research it. i know they are only allowed to take a certain percentage of his checks, so he may want to talk to legal aid office in the area. they are free to most people (sliding scale).

car payments are not an option with you pay or recieve child support; neither can afford it (i sure as hell cant). that would be the first thing i would get rid of, that nice new shiney truck.

food? he can get food weekly at a local food bank (at churches usually) like we single moms do. it helps free up money for the electric, so its worth it.

some links; just click on your state and find the section you need.

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/states.htm
http://www.divorcehq.com/spprtgroups.html

http://www.divorceinfo.com/statebystate.htm
http://www.divorcenet.com/states
http://www.divorcesource.com/
http://www.divorcecentral.com/
http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/calculators.htm
http://www.helpyourselfdivorce.com/child-support-calculators.html
http://family.findlaw.com/
http://www.divorcehq.com/deadbeat.html
http://www.divorceinfo.com/
http://www.divorceinanutshell.com/
http://www.lawchek.com/Library1/_books/domestic/qanda/childsupp.htm
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-laws/state-child-/
http://www.supportguidelines.com/resources.html
http://www.supportguidelines.com/articles/news.html
http://www.ncsea.org/
http://www.nfja.org/index.shtml
http://family.findlaw.com/child-support/support-basics/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/opa/fact_sheets/cse_factsheet.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/passport.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/fop/fop.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/cse/newhire/faq/faq.htm
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/oro/regions/acf_regions.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/extinf.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/programs/cse/
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/grants/grants_cse.html
http://www.acf.dhhs.gov/index.html
http://www.acf.hhs.gov/programs/region2/index.html
http://www.govbenefits.gov/govbenefits_en.portal
http://www.fedstats.gov/qf/
http://www.fedworld.gov/gov-links.html

http://www.supportkids.com/

http://www.taxsites.com/index.htm
http://www.divorceinfo.com/taxes.htm
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc422.html
http://www.irs.gov/faqs/faq4-5.html
http://www.irs.gov/localcontacts/index.html
http://www.irs.gov/advocate/index.html
http://www.fms.treas.gov/faq/offsets_childsupport.html


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Answer 10

it's both parents responsibility to support the children-his options are no good-
go to jail--he will still have to pay all of it
give up rights-- kids will hold it against him
suicide--to harsh-he is somebody's father , brother, son, boyfriend, cousin,should i go on??
they should go to court or come to an agreement with the ex's the court won't make you pay -and not be able to support yourself