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Question

Men...what is the one thing your wife can do that would make you NEVER consider cheating or having an affair???

Answer 1

Well, I'm a wife, not a husband, but seeing as how my husband got a speeding ticket rushing home to me last anniversary (100% true) I think I can offer a little bit of advice here.

First, you will never be married long enough that you can dispense with "Thank you," "I really appreciate that, sweetheart," "Baby, you are one GORGEOUS man, do you know that?" and "I love you, and I couldn't be happier that I married you." At no point can you EVER stop being extra-ultra-polite and appreciative to your spouse. A man who feels loved and appreciated has no reason to stray.

Second, do NOT let yourself go. The funny thing about most men is that they would rather have sex with the pretty-enough wives who love them than the most gorgeous whore in the world, even if they can afford them. But no one finds a depressed woman who can't bother to EVER exercise, shower, get dressed up and put on a bit of perfume and makeup attractive. Do it for yourself, if not for him. Don't worry about being selfish here - guys love it when their women take care of themselves.

Third, the men we love are not here for us to hone our insult-humor skills upon. NEVER call your husband names - if you call him a "slob" because he forgets to pick up his socks, he'll never have any reason to start remembering. He's a slob; you've labeled him forever. Clearly, you don't like him, and there's no room for him to change. Bite down on the tendency to call him names or say cruel, hurtful things to him. He should associate love, acceptance, and comfort with you, not pain.

Fourth - I'll be blunt. He's your HUSBAND. It is OKAY to want to *F*U*C*K* him like an animal. Even the Catholic Church recognizes that it's entirely okay to shag that man like a rabid beast once you put that wedding ring on his finger and speak your vows. He likes to see you naked? Then strut it, girl! Don't sweat your figure flaws, because HE isn't! Unless he's asking you for something ridiculously degrading and/or painful, it all falls under the context of marital relations. Sure, you've got the right to refuse if he wants a threesome with a hooker, but a man shouldn't have to live in near-celibacy with the beautiful woman he married. Sex is natural, sex is fun, sex is a delight - once you're a married woman, you're too old for the modesty becoming to a twelve-year-old virgin.

Fifth, he has the right to your loyalty, just as you have the right to his. It may be fashionable to bash one's spouse for his every little shortcoming to your female relatives or girlfriends, but RESIST THAT TEMPTATION. Men have a way of finding out when you've been criticizing them behind their backs, and hearing you've said something cruel about him from a secondhand source will wound him to the core, and men are much more sensitive than they let on. Even when the topic of conversation is how much men suck, I flatly refuse to join in and bash my husband, ever. He may have his foibles just like any other man, but he had the discernment of taste to marry me, and that means I will never rake him over the coals in public.

Answer 2

I honestly can't come up with an intelligent answer on that.

Basically, having an affair is a matter of the man wanting more than his fair share; assuming, of course, that everything else about the marriage is normal and going well.

Now, if for some reason - health related or self-image related - the woman has a decreasing sexual appetite, that's something she should see a professional about.

Most women maintain a healthy sexual appetite well into their 50s and 60s. Its usually the men that have trouble keeping up with the women. That's why Viagra was invented (well, ok, it was orginally a cardiac medicine, but you know what I mean).

What I'm getting at is, if the woman doesn't WANT sex any more (or wants it less), the man still has needs, and I can see where it could lead to an affair. I'm not saying its right; just that I could see WHY or HOW it could happen.

As long as you're both tending to one another's needs and desires, the relationship should be fine and you shouldn't have concerns about an affair.

That said, you could still do everything "right" and your partner could involve himself with another woman, but I don't believe there's any ONE thing you could do to prevent it.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Honor and respect me as a man, making me feel like a man....regardless of how many times I mess up. That I would really appreciate, but even "If" that didn't happen and I had to be patient I still wouldn't consider cheating on my wife b/c when I married her I committed myself to her and no other woman. Most importantly I committed myself to God and our marriage to Him as well.

Answer 5

A wife doesnt have to do anything, just be herself. A guy cheating has his own problems, unless it's a very loveless marriage.However, love, passion, trust, and communication in a marriage are very important.

Answer 6

After reading Guernicas answer, I felt the need to write and say you don't have to read any further, she's given you an amazing answer and I think she deserves the 10pts! But then again, I'm a woman....

Answer 7

be faithful.
My wife was cheated on in her first marriage, I know she is loving and faithful.
do the little things, show him he's appreciated and worthy. When a man feels he's accomplishing something, he feels worthy. Give him credit for the work he does and any help he does around the house.

Answer 8

My husband told me to say that he loves that I am respectful, appreciative, kind, supportive, affectionate, and that enjoys doing nothing on a Sunday afternoon and being content. A good attitude is a must.

Answer 9

Accept me for who I am, and be as dedicated to our marriage as I am. Be my best friend, and never give me a reason to mistrust her.

Answer 10

Spend time with me. Learn to be my best friend. Teach me how to love you.