I spent the weekend at my boyfriend's house and left this morning to go to work. When I got to work he called me and told me that he was missing 3000 dollars, I told him no I didnt take it and I didnt even know he had all of that money. He told me that he had the money in his jacket and he was going to buy a car, the night before his mother ad put the jacket in the closet. This morning he went to get his money from his jacket and found that it was missing. I feel like he thinks that I took the money because he keeps telling me that he looked every where for the money and can not find it, and I was the only one in his house the whole weekend. I feel awful, he's so upset he even told me to move on and find someone else, and not to go over to his house again. Even after I told him I never took his money. I spoke to him an hour ago and he was still depressed and upset but he wasn't mean to me. What Should I do? And How can money just disappear like that?
2007-01-29 14:28:33 · 24 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He asked his mom, she said no she didnt touch it
2007-01-29 14:35:23 · update #1
money doesnt just disappear---he either misplaced/lost it--his mom is a lying----
2007-01-29 14:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many times in life when people blame / suspect and accuse others for mistakes that they have made. Probably he has misplaced the money and will end up finding it later. BUT the more serious problem is about what he told you about "moving on." These things are not said in jest to someone you truly love. Money comes - Money goes. People and real relationships cannot be equated with money. Today it is money - Tomorrow he will accuse you of something else.
This Guy is either unstable or wants OUT from the relationship. You would do well to actually dump him and move on to a better person in life. Best of luck!
2007-01-29 22:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by GauravGupta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he doubt your answer? Did something happen in the past to make him wonder if your word was true? If the answer is no, nothing ever happened before, than this is an indication of what life could be like with him...meaning...you'll be blamed for most everything that goes wrong for him. That being the case, I'd say 'sorry you feel that way' politely hang up the phone and move on. If he comes looking for you to make repairs, I'd sweetly mention you have no plans taking blame for what goes wrong in his life and remind him it was his decision to move on. I would never go back with him. You can do better. You are worth more than that.
2007-01-29 22:40:00 · answer #3 · answered by J Somethingorother 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget about this relationship. Why would you want to be with a guy that thinks you stole his money? I would worry about what the future might hold if this is the way he reacts when something goes wrong.
On the other hand if you really, really like this guy then maybe you should give it a few days and hopefully he will find the money. It sounds like he is so upset about this that he is not really thinking straight.
2007-01-29 22:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by dcdcdcdc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, this is serious. at first i thought maybe he's making all this up as a dumb way to end the relationship..u know making this up. talk to him, tell him that you're hurt because you would never take things from him in such a demeaning manner like that. then just tell him that u hope he doesn't believe u took the money, and u don't know how to help him because u didn't even know he had that money and u don't know how to help him retrace his steps. good luck, all u can do is back off really and let him come to his senses.
2007-01-29 22:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by gracy808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If no one took it its probably just laying aroung some where. But if some one took it is had to be some one that knew where the money was. So it was either you him mom or a ghost. you do the math. But if you think about it its probably just laying around help him find it and well try to forgive if you find it's $3000!! think about it but help him look for it and chek on him mom
2007-01-29 22:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by JOEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are built on trust. If your boyfriend lost the money or if someone else stole it from you, do you really think that you deserve to be the mental punching bag for his anger and disappointment? If someone I thought loved me accused me of being a thief, I'd give them the old "talk to the hand", move on, and never bother with them again. TRUST, my dear. If he don't have it, you don't want it.
And buy yourself something nice with his $3000.00. Just kidding.
J
2007-01-29 22:34:44 · answer #7 · answered by poolshark21209 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have miss placed it himself and forgot were he put it sorry but your BF sounds like a jerk. Maybe you should move on he does not want to get married anyway so dump him. If money is more important to him you are what does that tell you. You can find a new guy honey.
2007-01-30 00:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mom took it when she put it in the closet...he needs to ask her about it...anyway why would just be walking around with that kinda cash on you...the bank will hold it for you until you're ready to buy whatever you need, then even get a cashier's check so you don't have to worry about it.
2007-01-29 22:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Skinny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW that is tough. I would just sit back and let him cool off. When money of that amount goes missing it is hard to take, so he is just really upset. Give it a few days......
2007-01-29 22:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by stacylc73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money just doesn't disappear hon.. it may be a trick, it may be his mom... who knows... if you are sure you didn't take it you can't really do much about it... it may just be a lame excuse to get rid of you... you never know... don't feel bad if you didn't take the money..
2007-01-29 22:34:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋