I have met this wonderful guy online, i have known him about 2 months. he is married and has 3 wonderful kids. And he knows that where i am living at the moment is that the best of places for me to be. But also, i am living with my mom, my dad is in the hospital after having a stroke. My dad is very disappointed in me and won't even talk to me, he refuses to even see me. yet when i talk to my mom about getting on with my life, she refuses to discuss it. Am i being selfish right now, because i want to move to this man and his family and start out a new life. Or should i not even bee thinking about it. I really want to be with this guy. He is my world, but my family refuses to allow me the option of doing what i wish to do. Even though i am 23 years old. I need help and advice, because i about to walk out of my parents house, and out of their lifes, because i know if and when i do this, it is going to be very hard for me to ever return.
2007-01-29 14:23:14 · 14 answers · asked by lexie l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are not stupid, not in the least, not in the least little bit. It takes a very special person indeed to enter into a poly relationship, and the fact that you are here asking questions in the first place shows that you have the ability to think about things and that it does matter to you. I commend you and would have to say that I am very proud of you for being honest to everyone.
And now for everyone else. Where do all of you get off thinking that everyones life can fit into a nice little tidy box, or is that why divorce rate seems to be going doen,,,,,oh thats right it isnt.
2007-01-29 14:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by rusty s 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My brother had a wife and two kids then he met another girl and stared dating her while he was still with his wife, he ended up leaving his wife for the other girl and had another kid with her. A few years later when things started changing in there relationship he broke up with the other girl and got back together with his wife.and I'm sure she's not the only woman in his life. The thing is that most people who cheat do it over and over again so if you leave and move with this married man one day you might end up in the same situation as his wife being cheated on. You should find someone who's already single with no baggage so you can truly be happy.
2007-01-30 00:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Castro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he's married, second you have only known him for 2 months, which means you don't know him at all.
Why would you want to be number 2 or in this case number 5 because I am sure his kids will come first.
What are you missing in your life that makes you want to settle for less than the best? I don't understand how you could even think about leaving your family for a man that you can't call your own. He will always be somebody else's husband.
Think about your future. To me you will not have one because this does not make sense.
2007-01-29 22:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jalyn24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your willing to trash your family for this so called wonderful MARRIED MAN,then yes your STUPID.
what are you thinking,you only know him from the Internet and your moving on to his territory,,,get real.you don't sound mature enough to be thinking clearly.
you might want to talk to your parents,they know more about whats right and wrong for you.
your life should be more important than to get involved with a married man. how would you feel if you we're the mom and she was the daughter,,,what would you think?
if you need a mate,,,find one that is single and not married.
any person that would leave kids for a piece of *** isn't worth having.that might happen to you one day when you have kids,what goes around comes a round.
2007-01-29 22:51:01 · answer #4 · answered by hl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your father is heartsick out of his mind at being close to death and seeing that you have such incredibly horribly bad judgement. Which is fairly typical for people your age.
You met this guy in person? Or do you still not even know if he's a real person?
He is married with kids and you want to go be near him? If I was your parent, I would be devastated at your lack of morals, your lack of concern for those children, your complete idiocy in coming up with a plan for your life.
You need to focus on helping your parents and growing up. If, after two months of knowing him on-line, a married man is your world, you have BIG problems and you need to address them by giving up dating and developing your brain and your talents and your decency.
Good luck to you all.
2007-01-29 22:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW, you are going in head first. Watch out. You know nothing about this man. Your setting yourself up for something bad to happen. He is not a very nice person if he is married. You would never trust him. Souns like a LOOSER to me. You need to move out and be on your own and learn how to make wise choises, and what your wanting to do with this guy isn't . I am VERY open minded but this can't turn out good for you.
2007-01-29 23:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by openminded 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you just wrote. It sounds a bit foolish. He has a wife and kids. And 2 months is avery short time to be in love and ready to commit to him. Your family is just concerned and worried, b/c this is not a good idea. Be careful and look before you leap.
2007-01-29 22:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are stupid
he is married, what do you think, you are going to go to him and him and his wife are going to welcome you with open arms?
he is not a wonderfull man because he is contemplating about cheating on his wife, so cheating is a wonderful quality or something?
why don't you look for a single guy that would be willing and able to dedicate his life to you
there is a reason why your parents are acting the way they are, because they know the same thing that i am saying
2007-01-29 22:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How do u kno for sure u will be the love of his life? U did not say if the guy cares for u at all.
2007-01-29 22:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by RedRoseJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't do it! You are being pulled in by emotions, not truth. Truth is, he's offlimits and even if he did come to, your life is tainted as a homewrecker. Also, you have to think, if he'll do it to her and his KIDS, why not you?? There's so many men out there, find one that you don't have to sneak to be with.
2007-01-29 22:34:40 · answer #10 · answered by eleven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋