I think im bisexual. But for the longest time, the people i hang with made fun of gays and bi's. I want to tell them, but they are my only friends and i dont want to be alone. DO NOT TELL ME THEY ARE NOT MY REAL FRIENDS!!!!
2007-01-29 14:18:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Okay welll...BEEN THERE...they most be young.........I bet you are closer to at least one of them....if you want to tell anyone...tell that individual and tell her iits so hard for you to do so and that you really dont want to loose her friendship.. BUT NEED to talk to someone you can trust...AND LET HER KNOW she is not your type LOL that'll keep her from wondering if you like her..
2007-01-29 16:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. Do you really want to be friends with people like that? Even if you weren't bi? Tell them, and if they treat you like **** then you'll know what to do. I lost a lot of my friends when I told 'em I was a lesbian, but I kept a few, and those few are the best friends I could ask for. A small number of awesome friends is better than a large number of mediocre friends.
2007-01-29 23:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by Autumn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could take offense to it the next time they do it. I would council you to be lightly irritated about it. Just tell them what you think about it. I would also council you to say to them that you would syill be friends with anyone who was Gay or Lesbian, it wouldn't make you say awful things to them.
By doing so you are setting them off a little and perhaps they'll think about it. They MIGHT accuse you, and I think that is a fear of yours - you don't want them to know. So spend a little time with the idea before you do it. If you have trust for one of them, you might tell her ( the most likely one to trust) alone and apart from the others. That way you can attempt to getting an ally in your effort.
I hope that is good advice, and I hope that you are successful. ( :
2007-01-29 22:58:33 · answer #3 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they truely care about you they will be your friends no matter what. If they turn their backs on you, you don't need them anyway. Make more friends who will understand.
Or you can go on lying to your friends (which you should never have to lie to a true friend) and proceed to make other friends who will understand. Of course if you do that you will have to act one way in front of one group of friends and act another way in front of the new friends. And let's face it, that's not cool.
You really should just be yourself. You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. If your friends aren't comfortable with it after you tell them, then just dont bring it up any more than neccessary. If they respect you, it shouldn't matter. Be true to yourself and never be ashamed of who you are. Good luck.
2007-01-30 00:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by just jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had bisexual friends too. When I am not with them, I do make fun of gays and bi's. But when I go out with them, we try to avoid that topic. If they are your friend, they will accept you.
2007-01-29 22:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok,I won't tell you they're not your friends,but you will either need to get a new set of friends that are not prejudiced,or hide it from them,and then are they really your friends if you can't trust them?
2007-01-29 22:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that people have a right to their own opinion even if it offends someone. Maybe they're insecure about gay people cause maybe they have issues too. Talk to them about it, they should understand, if they don't...oh well, they don't have too.
2007-01-29 22:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by b_mb3100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them if there your real friends they will understand..some of my friends were like that but when i told them they didnt like me any less and they stopped making fun of homosexual ppl.
2007-01-29 22:24:11 · answer #8 · answered by sarina f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you know what if they are you real friends you have nothing to worry about because they will except you for who truly are.
2007-01-29 22:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you tell them you're about to find out whether they are your real friends or not.
2007-01-30 00:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋