He called it off because we were really fighting in the months leading up to our wedding and it was out of fear and miscommunication on both sides. He wants to start dating again, but he's moving an hour away and wants to continue long distance. I don't have a car and it would all be up to him to come see me. I'm afraid to get emotionally involved again. Anyone have a similar story? What did you do? Thanks in advance for your answers!
2007-01-29 14:02:02 · 5 answers · asked by sktchgrl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Run like hell!!!!!!!
2007-01-29 14:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I initially called off the engagement with me fiance because he had to resolve some issues with his mother. It was very important for me that before we made such a big step, he was ready to support me even if it meant disagreeing with his mothers opinion. During the time when we were apart, he indicated that he wanted to start again and that he was ready to be married. Instead of jumping into an engagement, I agreed to start dating again because I still loved him and wanted to see if things had changed. The time apart made reaffirmed how much we both loved each other and he realized he was ready to move on and be a husband to me. After dating for awhile, we realized that we both were ready for marriage and decided to become engaged again. Five years later, we are still happily married. Each year we plan a special celebration for our anniversary and we always make sure that we take time out for each other throughout the year.
If you love him and are willing to see if you can make it work, I think it's definately worth a try. Communication is a major key in a relationship, but it is something that can be approved upon with effort. An hour is not that far of a distance. I know people who communite to work everyday at that distance. And if he's willing to commute to try to make it work, then I'd say give it a chance. Getting emotionally involved is always scary. No one wants to get hurt, but you'll never find out if things will work if you don't give it a chance. But you also don't have to rush into a decision right away. Why not tell him that you need a little time to think about things before making a decision. If he really loves and is serious about making it work, he will respect your decision and give you some space to figure it. Then if after time you feel like you are ready, then just start of slowly. You don't even have to date right away, you can just communicate over the phone or e-mail before you even see each other again. But no matter what you decide to do, be true to yourself and only proceed if that is something you really want to do.
2007-01-29 14:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calling it off the first time was his right to do, fighting weeks prior to your big day must have looked to be the start of an dead end road. if the move he's making is job related looks like a sign of growth, keep everything as simple as you can and watch for signs, he may be the only one here that is looking farther down the road than you, keep with him till he shows you anything different.
2007-01-29 14:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him show effort. If you really are interested, and it really is all up to him, don't commit too much at first, don't promise you won't see anyone else. If he gives you free time ... use it to meet other men. But if he doesn't ... then he really is standing in the gap and making the effort. Leave it up to him.
2007-01-29 14:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your gut feeling and be afraid-- he may just break your heart again
2007-01-29 14:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋