It seems that women dont respond to my profile becausee i have listed that i am divorced, with three children. The children arent living with me but i see them on a regular basis. Is it decietful to leave that fact out and wait untill the relationship has progressed to tell them, willthat increase my chances of finding someone?
2007-01-29 13:51:50 · 18 answers · asked by manncat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not ashamed of the fact that i have thre wonderful boys, and i dont hide the fact that i do have them, but being lonely is really getting to me and i just feel a little lost!!! I guess im just grabing for anything to help me through right now
2007-01-29 14:07:32 · update #1
I think you should be honest about the kids, you need someone who loves kids and would like to be with you and around your kids. You dont want to meet someone who does not like kids or does not want kids. Just be honest that is the best way to start.
2007-01-29 13:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! That would be so wrong. It's like false advertising and I can bet that the person would be pretty upset with you. If you are posting, just make sure you explain that the mother of the kids isn't directing your world. It's hard enough dating online, I suppose that a person that was mislead would be even less likely to trust a posting in the future. Don't start off on the wrong foot. Just believe that if someone doesn't respond to you, that they know that a man with children from a previous relationship is not something they want in their future. They, and you, will be honest from the start.
2007-01-29 14:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by catchernkeeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not respond because you have kids then they are not worth your time anyway hon... IF they dont accept and respond to who you are then they are no right for you anyways... Do not be deceptive... Some girl will respond just give it time.. Trust me! Yes it is deceitful to leave that out and whatever you do do not start a relationship if you have to change who you are and be deceptive from the start... The right woman will accept and love you for you from the start... When i was looking all the guys i saw or dated knew about my kids and I found my mr right.. Just be who you are is all i am saying and do not pretend to be something that you are not. I wish you the best and hope that you find that someone special soon. This may increase your chances from BUT the truth will have to come out somtime and then what?
2007-01-29 14:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what's going to increase your chances of finding someone. Are you looking for a long lasting, committed relationship. If so, why on earth would you leave out the fact that your children are important to you? Surely you don't want a woman who would come between you and your kids, you can't even begin to imagine how terrible that would be. You know, there could be a lot of reasons you aren't getting responses...it could be as simple as your wording, your grammar, your spelling....it doesn't have to be the whole kids thing. And if they really are important to you, then to leave them out of the profile would probably end up getting you the wrong type of woman for you anyway.
2007-01-29 14:00:03 · answer #4 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on one of these sites hoping to find your "true love", then I would certainly continue to disclose this information. If a woman is going to pass you by because you have children, then it seems she is probably not of the character you would be interested in spending your life with anyway, right?
Whether or not it would be deceitful to leave that particular info out, is another question. I woldn't say that it is necessarily "decietful" as it is your discretion to how personal you want to get at that point in the game (unless it is a questionaire type thing that specifically asks if you have children).
2007-01-29 18:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Lord ! You're ashamed of your own kids, it sounds like. You should always be up-front about your kids and eventually you'll find a woman who doesn't mind. If you wait and tell them after you've already met, chances are she'll run because (1) of your deception and (2) because she may not want kids. So...do the right thing and post that you have the kids. Good Luck. The right lady will come along when the time is right.
2007-01-29 14:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am of the opinion that honesty is always the best policy. Sounds kind of funny hearing this come from a male as there are so many questions from women asking the same thing and fearing others will not be interested because of the baggage they will be bringing into any potential relationship. I met a woman at age 47 and we were both very honest about our children, their ages, etc. I would be afraid that a potential mate may look at you and think if he held this back on me what else is he withholding. Just my opinion so please keep an open mind.
2007-01-29 14:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'd be viewed as anything but honest. I wouldn't want to run across your add and answer all to find out that you'd been hiding the fact that you have 3 kids.
My hubby has 3 kids. He never hid it, was very proud of it and up front. They live out of state, close to their mother. I've only met all three just once, plus his ex.
You say women don't respond because they know you're a father of three. How do you know that is the reason they don't respond? So the correct answer is to lie? Lame...
If you hide, you'll have hell to pay.
Do what you think is right.
Good luck...
2007-01-29 14:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, if you leave that fact out and you actually meet someone, it will be on the wrong terms, and once they find out that you have kids then they may just up and leave you anyway, so whats the point, at this point you might as well hire a hooker, at least you will get somewhere and be honest about it
think of it this way, if they see that you have kids and they run away then its at least a god screening process, because the ones that don't run are keepers
but dating sites suck anyway
2007-01-29 14:19:02 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to hide that you have kids? Are you not proud of them? If a women can't accept that you have kids then she isn't worth it! If I found out that he had kids after meeting him, I wouldn't want anything to do with him! I have three kids and I know it scares the guys away! But someday that specail one will be willing to accept my package deal! If not then no lost hear!
2007-01-29 14:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋