and no i don't mean no...wat if he/she was ur best frewnd...u don't want to hurt them...
2007-01-29 13:50:17 · 68 answers · asked by kandy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Then be a friend and be honest. Tell him/her that you love them as a friend and don't want to mess that up by having a relationship.
2007-01-29 13:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK..simply tell them you love them too much as a friend..and you do not want to take a chance of ruining what you to already have together..and make sure you emphasize that you two have such a beautiful and awesome friendship that you could never let a romantic relationship come between you two and take the chance of losing that love..
it should work out and your friend should be able to understand without being offended if they are as good of a friend as you think they are..
now, just go do it..and don't feel bad about it..why change something that you are already happy with...
2007-01-29 13:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well once a best friend takes that risk of crossing the "just friends" line by asking you out, then the dynamics of the relationship are bound to change whether you are dating or not.
In my opinion I would respond, by saying how I value their friendship, and I enjoy spending time with them, but I am not intrested in them in that way.
And remember the only thing you can control is your actions, as long as you try your best not to hurt their feelings, while giving them a strait and honest answer, then you cannot be responsible if they choose to react badly to your honesty.
2007-01-29 13:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you could do is get her hopes up and you will if you say yes. You may feel bad but the other would not only make you feel bad anyway but it can cause a lot of problems. Tell her you love being her friend and that you're flattered but you wouldn't want to be dishonest and hurt her feelings because you care about her.
2007-01-29 13:57:02 · answer #4 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes going the extra step with a close friend will only ruin the friendship. Tell her/him that you cherish the relationship that you two have and that taking it any further will only hurt the both of you in the end.
You might want to be honest in this situation because sometimes there might be..." just enough rope to hang yourself with" If you leave room for argument sake, they will take advantage of it so be honest and let them know that you are not interested.
2007-01-29 13:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had the somewhat-same problem, except it was with a close friend, I just told him
"I'm very sorry but we have such a great friendship, i don't want it to be ruined of things didn't work out." and he understood, and we've been best friends ever since, though I know he's looking at me in that way, makes things somewhat awkward.
2007-01-29 13:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Traci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends.
if the person is like doing it for a dare, just say no or say yes as a joke only.
if the person is just kidding, then say yes as a joke too.
if the person is just being random, say something random.
if the person only likes you a little, say yes to try it out. it might get better.
if the person only likes you for a certain reason, like money, you should probably say no.
if the person likes you, say yes to try it out.
if the person really likes you/loves you, say yes to try.
since this person is your best friend, talk with him/her to try to work it out. say that you and her/him have a great friendship going on and that you don't want it to change or that if you change, you won't feel the same way. or say that you're not ready or you are going to be busy lately.
good luck, take care
2007-01-29 13:58:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one but what about being honest with them and just say you don't look at them that way. That you are better of as friends. If you are best friends you don't want to mess up the relationship.
2007-01-29 13:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well l think honesty is the best medicine, dont lead her \ him on or let them think that there might be a chance. if this person is a good friend then he or she should understand and respect ur feelings. let them know that u love them as a friend but not in a committed relationship. remember if its ur friend just be honest and polite. good luck
2007-01-29 14:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are you best friend this is even more reason NOT to play them. Be up front and honest. Tell them how much you really like them and how much you enjoy their company but you want to stay best friends with them and you don't see a realtion with this person that goes in another direction as you would not feel as comfortable with them.
2007-01-29 13:55:43 · answer #10 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone would rather be hurt by the truth then comforted by a lie.
Be honest and just say, "I'm sorry, but I'm just not interested you in that way. I LOVE being your friend!"
End it with a positive sentence and hopefully that part will stick out in their mind the most.
2007-01-29 13:54:40 · answer #11 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋