is being faithfull to your partner a christian idea? a universal idea?

Question

an educational idea?
why is "cheating" only sex related?
Why isn´t it possible to love one person but have sex with another (or anothers)??
why would you leave your man/woman because he/she has slept with somebody else but not if he/she hasnt told you anything nice for the last 20 years????

so ashley if the second part, the as opposed to is so meaningless, why do you give so much meaning to it??? Why would it be the reason for you to leave your boyfriend???
if it is just a ten second thing who would care?

Answer 1

Hmm. Well, I guess I believe that human beings are not biologically faithful; the idea of being faithful to one mate is not "natural" to humans. However, it seems as though most people tend to do it, or at least try, for some psychological reason. The ideal way of life would be swinging, but like communism, the concept works a lot better than the result when it's actually put into practice. There is always someone that gets screwed (no pun intended) in open relationships.

Answer 2

"is being faithfull to your partner a christian idea? a universal idea? "
No. I really do not think that it is. I figure that other cultures apart from Christian influence, indeed before Christian influence has similar values. Ironically I have an example long before Christianity in the very Bible itself :

Genesis 12:18 So Pharaoh summoned Abram. "What have you done to me?" he said. "Why didn't you tell me she was your wife?

Apparently Pharoah respected marriage before God put the whammy on him. Just knowing that Abram was married made a difference to him.

"an educational idea?"
well, in order to know something like that, one might have to learn it. So educated in etiquette.

"why is "cheating" only sex related?"
I don't think that it is. You can turn people that were once your friends simply by hanging around other people that are considered ;enemies.' That might not be called 'cheating' commonly, but I think that it is essentially the same thing.

'Why isn´t it possible to love one person but have sex with another (or anothers)??"

I do not think that I would qualify that as a 'loving act'. I've seen love before. One wants to spend more time with the one loved than anyone else. 'Cheating' does not prove love. It's the antithesis of it, in my opinion.

"why would you leave your man/woman because he/she has slept with somebody else but not if he/she hasnt told you anything nice for the last 20 years????"
Hope.
There's a part of love that is called, 'longsuffering.' It means that no matter what, you will remain faithful to that person. You will show love to that person, even as the hurt swells inside your chest. The quintessential heart break. Another part of love when tragedy sets in.

Answer 3

Actually, monogamy is pretty new to mankind. The idea of "one mate" is still in the early stages of a few thousand years 3-4,000 years. Before this, it was considered a tribal responsibility instead of a "family" arrangement. More was put on the group as a whole, instead of a "family unit." In other words, it really did, "take a village."

"Human Sexuality" developed as a way to combine tribes and then later on, FAMILIES to contribute to THEIR WEALTH AND POWER! This was a way to gain status, money, gold, men, etc., it was based solely on what it gave the males of the families together.

As far as people who are in "open relationship" I don't think Ashley or ANYONE ELSE has any right to say they love each other less than any monogamous couple. To say that is tantamount to declaring yourself BETTER than others which one should do with caution, otherwise one sounds VERY MUCH A BIGOT! We like to say "love knows no bounds" and then we turn around and put bounds on our fellow gays! NOT COOL!

Answer 4

Well waking up next to the same person is always a wonderful feeling. I think its a universal idea. Some people practice monogamy some dont. Depends on the agreement between the couple. I personally could stand an open relationship, the thought of sharing someone is a horrible thought.
Your last sentence doesn't make any sense

Answer 5

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Answer 6

No. Being faithful is a matter of honest communication, observing boundaries, respecting wishes, fostering intimacy and relating your true intentions in wanting a long-term relationship to be based on spiritual, romantic and emotional connection, as opposed to an impulsive lust, a fleeting, meaningless physical reward and the superficiality of a 10 second orgasm.

Not wanting to be faithful is fine - just don't call your 10,000 different lovers your 'boyfriend'. Call them what they are - a convenience.

****I would hope to God my boyfriend would value my TRUST more than a 10 second orgasm. If I've stated my expectations, and my partner agreed with my definition of how I perceive intimacy and how to strengthen it, it would be logical then that I would trust that my partner loves me so much that he would not want to hurt me by sleeping around.

Random sex with multiple, anonymous, uncaring people is MEANINGLESS not sex between two adults who LOVE each other.

Answer 7

I am with someone monogamously for 20 years because I chose to do so. Cheating is not only sex related. The only thing our relationship requires is honesty. If my partner had slept with someone else...we'd talk about it. My disappointment would be that we didn't talk about it before it happened...not that it happened.

Answer 8

For me it's what partner is all about.