when she call's he run.when i call he creap.if i say i want ,not now when she want it is ok.i feel that it is not over.i am playing second.i told hin the end of the month is the last or that's it. we were married two years now. thank you.
2007-01-29 13:37:34 · 14 answers · asked by daydreamer_bgi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds as if it's time to make him your ex too. You deserve better.
2007-01-29 13:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship like this once. Just like that. When I finally put my foot down it all came out. They were still sleeping together.He was lying to me about how much he "ran into" her, giving her things, doing things for her,everything. This was even after he bought me a $3000 engagement ring and we were living together for 2 years. I couldn't understand why he'd even bother with me. The truth was he loved us both and figured he'd have the best of both worlds but I don't play second to no woman. Most people get divorced over stupid things even though they still have feelings and aren't ready to get divorced. Then they get with someone new but yet still feel for their ex and end up in both worlds. Don't deal with it. You obviously come second and he obviously still wants her in his life. He's not going to change,to your face he might say so but not behind your back,there will just be more secrets. Go find a man with less baggage.
2007-01-29 21:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by Whiteangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has kids from his ex-wife, he will have to be there for them, but if he doesn't have kids with her and he still goes to her when ever she asks him to go, then it seems that he is not over her yet.
You may want to sit down and talk to him about why he goes there when she calls.
Not a good position you are in either for being the second wife.
Remember, if kids are involved, then he has the right to visit them, which means that his kids come first before you.
2007-01-29 21:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they have kids, then you have to understand that he's probably doing it for that child. But if he doesn't have any kids, kick him to the curb. There is absolutely no reason for him to be running to her. You are his woman. You should be number 1. If you were his mistress while they were married, all I have to say is "What goes around comes around." You should leave him if there are no kids.
2007-01-29 21:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You:
are his legal next of kin
He:
is your legal next of kin
She:
is no longer his legal next of kin
With or without kids from previous marriage:
His obligations are to his kids and you
Obligations to ex?
Never!
My advice:
Since you've given him the ultimatum, stick to it.
Why?
He'll know you mean business, especially if you tack on a date with it.
What next?
If he fails to comply, take him to court and sue his *** for alimony
Why?
He'll pay for failing to make you his first priority
End result:
He can go back to his ex and you get your freedom plus any guy you want and a fat monthly check.
***It's a WIN/WIN, honey!
Good luck....
2007-01-29 21:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ieave him - obviously he still has feelings, guys don't go out of there way to cater to a women unless there's feelings. I would get a good divorce attorney.
2007-01-29 21:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is the ex and he seems to not realize this. So tell him you are going to file for divorce so that he will be at your beck and call just like her. And really do it. I think you will see it will still be her he runs for. I don't think that he is over her.
2007-01-29 21:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um well .. it is like this you need ot tell him you WILL NOT play second you are first and if he is not willing to do this you will be betteroff finding someone else is willing to treat you the way you deserve to be treated . he married you and if he is still wanting to please his ex then he is really not committed to you .
good luck
2007-01-29 22:09:19 · answer #8 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him your ex just like she did..the way it sounds, he will find another wife and treat you like he should of been treating you for yoears now..you will finally get the man you wanted out of him..too bad you wont really want him anymore..
You can do better, kick his sorry butt to the curb...
2007-01-29 21:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound as though you got pre-marital counseling...it's never to late if you want to be happy and save your marriage.
2007-01-29 21:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋