i am 21 years old, 26 weeks pregnant, and the father wants to be involved, while we are going to try to work it out. i am just curious if its normal to be scared out of my mind. we are and were extremely excited from the beginging, and i still am, just really scared and nervous..... what if i'm not a good parent? if i'm too overwhelmed, ect. is this normal to feel like this with your first child?? did any of you, does it ever go away????
2007-01-29 13:37:04 · 13 answers · asked by sknight0385 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i just want to say thank you everyone who has answered!!! you are all so kind, glad that i'm able to get on here and ask questions that i have. its going to be hard to find a best answer, but want to say thanks. and i really do appreciate it. glad to know this is normal and i'm not the only one who is going through, and has gone through this :)
2007-01-29 13:55:10 · update #1
every fear you are feeling is very normal! it is normal with the first... and the sixth! all their lives... after all... it is a "LIFE" right?
look at it this way.... if you had no fear you not be taking this seriously... the fact that you are asking all these questions shows you have the wisdom and maturity be ready to be the best of mommy's.... but that does not mean you can't still look at the next person and ny-nah ny-nah I mature... and laugh at silly things.... ;> lol
so relax, and remember.. you are ready... and everytime you get that overwhelming scared feeling? breath deeply.... slowly.... and remember, God never gives us more than we can handle.... it may not seem it always.. but it is true.....
if ever you stop questioning? well I would be more afraid....
good luck....! :) smile!
2007-01-29 13:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by elusive_001 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to feel that way when expecting your first child, and even second or third. I don't know if the feeling ever goes away, but it's just part of becoming and being a parent. It's very natural to worry about what it will be like when the baby comes, you don't know, so you worry. There's nothing wrong with you, I assure you. You and your partner will get through this. Bringing a baby into the world is something to be excited about and the two of you should enjoy the experience. If you would like, there are many books you can read about pregnancy.
2007-01-29 13:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 years old too and 23 weeks pregnant. I am worried out of my mind. I have never felt so young in my life. I have all those feelings as well, what if I'm not a good mother, what if I cant handle the baby, what if the baby doesn't like me... and such. It is completely normal to be scared and nervous. It will go away, hormones play a big part of your feelings.
2007-01-29 14:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by shugarmagnolia420 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that scared feeling for sure. If you have not been with your partner too long you have to wonder if it is right, and having a child creates a major, unbreakable bond indeed. I am 20 weeks pregnant and certainly freak out about it as well. I don't fear the actual birth, but what follows. I guess communication with the father is the best way to feel better about things. Good question! It reminds me to think about how to solve the things that worry me as well.
2007-01-29 14:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by senorita_carlita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 and this is my third pregnancy. I am 21 weeks along. I think it is very normal for every mom to be scared of labor delivery if you are going to be a good parent and so on. I don't care who you are you are scared a little bit.
It finally went away after I had the baby and it was about 3 months old with my first.
My second it went away right after i had the baby.
It is perfectly normal to be scared.
2007-01-29 13:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by crazziegrl14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats normal. You are young so your obviously going to be scared. Just read lots of baby books and you will feel more prepared. I am sure you will eb a great mother. It is hard for about he first year but after that it becomes routine. I was so scared when I got pregnant, although I was only 17, but it will all be okay. You will love your kid so much taht nothing else will matter and your instincts will take over and you will be great! Good LUck!
2007-01-29 13:42:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 21 as well and i just had my baby girl 3 months ago. it was my first as well. i was with the baby's father for only a month before i got pregnant so when i found out i was shocked. he wanted to be involved from the beginning and i wanted him to be too. however as i got further along in the first trimester i changed my mind it wasn't him it was me. i finally realized it and we worked things out. we are still together and he is a great father. as for me i think i'm a great mom. it is true that your maternal instincts will kick in. and if you do get overwhelmed ask for help. once i got at the end of my pregnancy i didn't think about these things i thought about when she was going to come, look like and things like that. so i think you'll be ok.
2007-01-29 14:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by 4/25/10 Baby #2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was pregnant and I told myvery good friend and mentor that I was scared, he said "Good." (He has a large family, so he knows about having kids!) He said that if you feel scared, it means you truly understand depth of the change and responsibility that is coming into your life. My baby is almost 5 months now, and I still feel scared sometimes, but I realize that you just do your best and pray!
2007-01-29 13:50:32 · answer #8 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal. You dont know what to expect and the unknown is always scary.. specially if you know it comes with a lot of responsibility.
Ones the baby is born you will completely forget about all this worry. It will all come naturally.
Good Luck!
2007-01-29 13:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jenni C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal to be scared especially w/ your first child. These feelings may or may not go away.
2007-01-29 13:42:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋