isnt it bad to be shy and sensitive?

Question

an elderly lady told me i reminded her of montgomery cliff because i was shy and sensitive its true i often dont know what to say to a pretty woman and i try not to tear up at sad movies and events wouldnt it be better if i was outgoing and mentaly tough? thats how i want to be alot of guys are crude and make unappropriate remarks to women and many love it cause they have lots of girlfriends i couldnt possibly act that way but it is confusing

Answer 1

I can't say it's wrong to be shy or sensitive. These traits make you more empathetic to women, yet women choose more brutal and aloof men because they enjoy the sort of anonymity of being a "mystery" to their chosen males. That's the only real power they can get over men. You break that pattern, you're just "a good friend", or you're avoided all together.

Women are also passive and like men who take charge of things. That part is instinctive about them, they cannot rationally explain why they're driven that way.

But your sensitivity, being male, is the very trait that will drive you to accomplish over and above everyone else. That's worth more than a series of shallow relationships. Also, being male, you are the minority. If you are patient, give the women your age some time to mature and you will find someone who's well worth the wait. Trust me. It works that way.

Answer 2

I agree, they are. Who knows what goes on in their spirit, what the truth is in them. 'Pretty', in what way. Friends are friends and sometimes come to that special love. Perhaps there is flirting, but that is sexual. You treat people with the same respect and you receive respect in return, respect as a civilized person. One thing you could better is your use of human language, especially written language. Language is the expression of the Spirit and you may experience positive results if you attend to the nature of your written word, such as punctuation, spelling, grammar and diction. Read some William Shakespeare and copy the style or mode of English used, expand your word knowledge. Personally I use spell check; I am rather dyslexic.

Speaking of word knowledge, try this link: http://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/hegel/li_terms.htm