How do you get over someone you feel used you. How do get over feeling low about yourself because of it. Its a horrible feeling, to feel "scammed and devalued" as a person when you did all you could to do right by this person, especially knowing him for almost two years, someone you cared about and really seemed he cared about you. He has hurt me and on top of it treats me like I dont exist and he wants no part of me. I know he doesnt deserve me if he can do all this, but how can someone be this way. I feel forgotten by him, and as much of a jerk he is, it still hurts to be treated this way.
I dont trust anyone now, I see people differently, I dont have an open mind and its been six months since this all happened.
2007-01-29 13:32:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
WOW! I am going through the exact same thing right now. For me, it has only been 3 weeks since they decided I don't exist anymore and I still feel really crappy but the feeling of being away from them and re-focusing my energy on myself is very freeing. I don't feel drained all the time anymore and I feel like I'm finally getting control of my life back. Try finding something you love to do and focus your energy on doing that and making yourself happy. Once you learn to appreciate yourself, others will too.
2007-01-29 13:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by broadwayaprilandtiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw Sweetie, I too have felt this pain in my heart. It is an awful feeling, and you just have to roll witht he hard times that he gave you, eventually over time you will realize that he wasn't good enough for you, that you deserve only the best, only time can help you, and venting to people who care and/or share the same feeling with you helps too.
Don't worry soon you will find the perfect guy soon, who will make you feel unbelievable and amazing (I have so take my words for this), but be careful and give your self enough time to heal, otherwise you will find yourself using a guy as a "rebound" boyfriend, which really is such a horrible thing to do to a person (which i too am guilty of this hehe oops...)
2007-01-29 21:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time. Lots of time!!! Just don't do anything stupid while you're in the process of getting over him. That has a tendancy to happen. Try new activities. Get a dog. Start exercising more, take classes... and eventually, you will be EMBARASSED you let him do what he did to you. You have to have pride to get over something like that. Allowing someone to devalue you probably means you have no pride. Once you have pride, you really will be embarassed about what happened. Who cares if he's forgotten you? You need to forget him, too. So get active, and don't do anything stupid! Good luck.
2007-01-29 21:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This world is the cheaters and the cheated. It is called (Maya) illusion, and is temporary and full of misery. We have to come to the spiritual platform to overcome all misery. We are not these bodies, ie, race, nationality, religion, mind, intellect, senses, job, etc. We are eternal spirit souls, part and parcel of the Supreme Soul, also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc. We have to reconnect with our maker to transcend this misery. The quickest and easiest way is to chant the Maha Mantra (the great mantra for deliverance from suffering and illusion) go to harekrishnatemple.c for details- read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada- tells the way out of all suffering and purpose of life. I had a lot of jerks to overcome and now I am happily married with a spiritual partner over 7 years.
2007-01-29 21:41:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all i know how you feel and yes its going to take awhile before you open back up to trust people but dont make the same mistakes that i did. A good girl came along who i thought was going to use me or mistreat me and i was very defensive and it turned out that this woman out of all the others had my my back for real. And i told her that she helped me get over the distrust i had of women. You will meet someone too just dont let them in all the way to your heart until they have your back..GOOD LUCK
2007-01-29 21:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by sirjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont' know if you ever get over it. It won't hurt as bad after a while, but I have probelms resolving things that have happened in my past. As soon as I think I'm over it, it comes back and pisses me off. Maybe other people are better at resolving pain from the past I hope so, because I sure do suffer with it sometimes.
2007-01-29 21:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by beatch38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must forgive. It is much easier to feel loved if you love another. You have learned a lot from this person you feel you have lost. Thank him for it. What you have learned has helped you grow, so that the next time around, you have an even more fulfilling relationship, and you can continue on your path to becoming a more loving person.
2007-01-29 21:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by nonduality = love = reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will all take time, you may never get over this, but the empty feeling can go away. You need to do something to take your mind off it. Face it, you need companionship. If you still don't trust anyone, get someone/something that can't use you, such as a dog. Dogs are great companions, and they keep your mind off stuff.
2007-01-29 21:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't leave yourself open for being hurt, Someone can only hurt you if you let them.
Kinda like knowing that you'll always be ok, no matter what other people do or say to you.
2007-01-29 21:39:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jason W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i had an answer for you , all i can tel you is , time heals all wounds, just let time take its course, dont let it ruin other relationships for you, it was one time, try to trust again, forgive and forget
2007-01-29 21:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by whateverbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋